As someone who eats out because of my job, I tend to be a homebody and avoid going out. Also, Covid keeps me at home a lot. When I am seeing a lady for the first few times we go out because I generally don't want her in my home or for that matter know where I live. If I see I am comfortable with her I generally cook for her and we enjoy our time together. I spent a good bit of money stocking my pantry for this upcoming weekend because I am not going to Europe because of Covid. I have a lady that will be here tomorrow morning and will stay through Monday!
depends, staying in is usually reserved for a third or maybe second date I think, you might want to get to know someone with a first date in a public venue before going to their home or letting them in yours
but I will say that cooking something together, and especially doing the dishes believe it or not, is far more fun than sitting across a table from eachother, "accidentally" pushing a freshly dried of mug back into the water can turn into some fun teasing, and you immediatly know the kind of person you are dealing with
you wil not have any problems getting guys, the trick for you wil be to cut trough the bullshit and find one that actually cares
For a DATE date, I would rather go out. So we can spend time together, getting to know each other, and nobody has to cook, or clean up, etc... And for us girls, we get that safety of being in public until we know you better.
Now that we're committed, I like both. I still like to go out, dinner, movies, go places. But I also like staying in, grilling, having friends over, etc...
I think you have the right idea "a mix of both"! Going out is nice once in a while, but stay home dates are so much more relaxing. No getting dressed up, just stay in comfy clothes or no clothes, your in the comfort of your own home and it doesn't cost gobs of money
I prefer going out for dates as it is more exciting, more of a change of scenery, and allows me to get to know my date in another context. For a single girl, having a guy to your place is okay if there are other people in your home or if you know and trust the gut, but if you live alone and don't know the guy very well, going out is a "safer" date.
Going out builds a history of 'shared experience' each discovering 'together' ...'staying in' DEMANDS a degree of possibly uncomfortable 'intimacy' and a latent paranoia of being 'judged' & thought of "in comparison with... and to..." Relational chess-like 'gamesmanship'.
If I was your age? Go out for sure. You probably live with your parents or at least other people, and you don't need to include any of those people on your date. Get some peace and quiet by yourselves (although with you being a girl, you should definitely stay in a crowd on your first few dates with a boy).
At my age? Stay in. I don't have the energy to go out. I live with my wife, so we're already alone by ourselves. Life is perfect at home.
I prefer going out, if I'm not at work or out with friends I'm at home doing personal work/hobbies that I enjoy which can be several days out of the week maybe more. So in the end, I prefer going out for dates though I'm not opposed to indoors so long as it's something fun and entertaining.
I'm not outgoing at all. I'm happy staying home all day. But if it were a date, I'd prefer to take her out. It'll be nice to eat out, walk in the park a bit. It's an excuse to dress up a bit fancier too. Plus I don't have to cook and wash dishes after :D
Interesting poll results. Obviously women are looking for a fun or exciting outing- an experience for both to share and enjoy. While men, or "boys" these days; quite obviously have little to offer other than hang out indoors. C'mon guys. Want to know why women don't come to you? Because most of you ain't creative or imaginative or can't think beyond the peckerhead in your pants.
it all depends on the girl I guess. I am a pretty good cook so I have cooked for a date before and that went extremely well for me. 👌👈
but I also love great restaurants and surprising my date as well. I guess it just depends on the person and how I'm feeling. being comfortable and confident is the key to success on a date.
Rather stay in and sext as much as possible... don't want to go out and to find people giving me the "stare" that i don't wear my mask, or try to fart to "mask" a cough, etc... would just mess up my date...
First dates should be go out. After that I am fine with either. I hardly would call the stay in as dates thought. It's just time spent together. Which is the important part.
At your age, staying in is a good start to dating. Maybe watch a movie on TV or play video or board games. When you get a little older, going out to lunch and a movie at the cinema is a good date.
I like how in the poll results them women want to go out and the men want to stay in and the reason being is because the guys got a fucking pay for it all the time I'd love to go out to I'd rather go out every time someone was paying for my ass
I took a girl out and did something fun that DID NOT involve paying lots of money. Get creative man. Find out what she likes and do something about it.
@mobiusforniner no you're missing the point it's not that it cost a lot of money but the fact that more women would rather go out it's because the guys going to pay for it regardless of what it costs
Unless the guy is a horrible cook, it is a great way to spend intimate time together making a meal and means a lot more than going out to eat. Plus in the time we are in, where everything is becoming more expensive, it's easier on the wallet.
