Why do so many guys prefer good looks verses a good personality when dating girls?

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FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

It’s not just men. Looks matter and as much as people like to bring in the fairytale quotes “Looks fade” or “What if that person gets injured” is a line that’s a band-aid for those who doesn’t want to admit that looks matter. Good looks may not be the end all be all but how can you feel aroused if you’re not even physically attracted to that individual? It may come off as shallow to some but that’s human nature. Sometimes I’m not even aware how attracted or interested I am in a person until we have more conversation and I recognize the strong emotions.

No one will say “Oh wow, that personality looks good let me give him a hint to let him know I’m attracted to him.” The first thing I notice is the only information I can utilize. My eyes see an attractive guy and now I’m intrigued to find out what’s next.

Why wouldn’t men prefer looks? I have to be with a man that I’m attracted to or it’s not going to work out. Some people will accept “oh they’re so sweet” but I wasn’t attracted to this person at first glance. There are people out there who is good loooking that some may categorize as shallow who is willing to be loyal with a great personality.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Humans are attracted to the visual aspect of people. They like what they see, so they go after it. You can’t really see someone’s personality just by looking at them.
After all, most people wouldn’t bother talking to someone they didn’t find visually appealing.

WhatThaPhucc · Accepted Answer

Are you blind,. in denial, or jus making accusations?
99.9 percent of the guys I see on this website say they prefer personality over looks... And I don't get why... I think personality is unimportant,. since guys usually are only. motivated by sex... We usually only want a hot girl for sex so it feels better... Most guys don't care about love or having companionship, we jus want a hot piece of meat to plow our rod into... so looks should only matter not personality, that's the way guys are suppose to be... it's in our nature, we was programmed to be visual... Think of bees and flowers... Girls are the flowers jus sit there to look pretty so many bees wanna come over and pollinate the pretty looking flower.. and guys/bees are motivated to be visual and only be attracted by multiple pretty flowers / girls.. so they pollinate more, spread their seed.. and increase the human population, or flower population... So there's your answer. We was programmed that way by nature, it makes the most sense

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

This can be a very complicated subject and more than one person male or female has been hurt by it. I am 63 and honestly don't fool around much with children. I have gone out with 20 somethings, but am not all comfortable. I prefer 34+. I don't place all that much on looks. I sometimes spend a lot of time with a lady who was in a really bad car crash that has left her face scarred. She is one of the sweetest people I have ever known. Giving and open. The only reason she is single is her husband died in that crash many years ago. This is what I value. Be a stickler on personal hygiene. Wash your hair and wear clean clothes. Brush your teeth. Some women during "that time" of the month can lose focus on smell and I hate this. Oh, not all men are like this. In fact, I know more that just want a girl who will always keep her shoes under HIS bed!

Desconhecida · Answer

I don't think guys prefer dating someone only for the looks -- sure, it's what makes them interested and they love to show a good looking woman off to their friends. But to take a girl seriously, she needs more than a pretty cover since relationships are not only sex.
Men need to want to stay by her side after the orgasm -- that's when we know they like someone.

TheorionMage · Answer

Whether they openly acknowledge it... they're responding to the potential genetic advantages an attractive woman will impart to their potential offspring. '

Alluring' females have a far wider choice of Suitors than merely 'competent' & proficient women.
The cosmetics & fashion industries aren't overtly highlighting non-physical acumen!

Oddly though, the cartoon character of 'Velma Dinkley' is often more fantasy-eroticized than the character of Daphne Blake. (Check Deviantart. com) In the live action movie Daphne helped 'tart up' Velma in that red leather fitted cat suit and her hair & make-up. <3 ;)

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I've dated everything from 2's to 10's. It seems to me that no matter where you are on the looks scale, there's a fairly equal possibility of your personality being garbage.

Worth noting is that those on the extremes, either really ugly or amazingly attractive, the personality is more likely to be complete shit.

All that being said, wealth seems to be the most accurate indicator of a terrible person. Those born into wealth often are spoiled and inconsiderate assholes regardless of looks.

DaveJord · Answer

None of your answer A through G address the question.

Because every guy hopes to find a attractive women with a great personality. But its far easier at a glance to see if she's good looking, so the only way to figure out the other half of the equation is to get to know her... but if you want looks and personality it starts with the looks.

As guys get older their idea of beauty changes. Because every women ages different, so some at 20 may not look as good at 30, and some at 30 can look way better than they did at 20. Plus as guys get older they want more than just looks in a women, because by a certain age they have been burned so many times that looks stop being as important or they end up alone and lonely.

Beautyforeverybody · Answer

See, you wouldn’t be interested in getting to know someone unless you are into how they look. Also I believe physical attraction plays a huge role in relationships.

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

Most of these guys who pick a girl solely based on her looks usually aren't looking for something long-term. Chances are they're only looking for sex really, they're not giving it any real thought because they're not interested in romance or love. Most of the guys who are actually dating for keeps will choose the personality over the looks believe me.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Misguided or either they are not interested in a depth of a person as satisfaction in a relationship. It’s one or the other. I can’t personally stand being around someone for more than an hour if their personality is absurd regardless if they’re hot or not. Personality is what makes me stay interested and happy, The looks are important but it’s not what keeps me grounded to someone

lucas262 · Answer

Iv seen many beautiful women who where complete abusive bitches.

Iv seen the opposite.

And iv seen good girls get ruined.
Abused etc.

She should be attractive to you. And there is a lot a woman can do to make herself more attractive. Not just physically.

Lotta men will want a woman who is a good partner to him. Has eyes only for him, genuine desire for him, cooks for him just generally takes care of him. Men love that shit because nobody gives a fuck about us, so when we get it. It's like crack.

For example Maybe I'm not into Asian women but she's so good to and for me now I love Asians that kind of thing.

KingofCups · Answer

I'm so over this discussion. Your personality is just a series of numerological patterns which fire frequently, to put it simply you are the sum of your tendencies.

The beautiful body of a woman implies that she cares about her health and that she has active tendencies, enjoy challenges, and operates at certain level of fitness.

If you're upset that men prefer women who are fit, well then get out of your head and start living in your body. It'll really improve your sex life as well.

Kate090 · Answer

Actually not a lot of guys are like that , and the ones that are, pay no attention to them because those are the guys who objectify women anyway, they watch too much porn and then lust after women who have body types and looks of those porn stars. You don’t want a guy like that anyway, they won’t stay with you for the long haul of he’s just after looks. It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who just wants you for your body.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I have no idea because looks fade over time. Besides, the hot ones have the shittiest personalities majority of the time.

I just have a type and am extremely picky when it comes to the girls I find attractive. But I don’t want to date any of them. Even the ones that are my type.

Anonymous · Answer

I think bragging rights is a crass way of putting it. Why do women want a guy that's got money, has status, has a lot of friends etc?
Because whether people will admit it we all do this. Our worth is measured not only by who we are but the company we keep. Of course a guy wants a beautiful woman. Because to accept less is to say to the world " this is what I'm worth".

Petermorgan34 · Answer

None. It takes a balance of both you could have a good looking woman but uglier than sin on the inside, and vise versa, now one is clearly better than the other but if you can't be attracted to someone physically it just simply will not work

Anonymous · Answer

They don't. Nobody does. They just don't realize it just you've seen what the other side is like compared to the latter side. Looks make u feel something right away and you act. But you have to act first to ever feel something from personality. A lot of married men out miserable. 97% of people have some personality flaw and dont even realize it. You can't buy courtesy in the real world. Although it is the cheapest trait to develop.

sensible27 · Answer

I think it's more of a filteration system. Animals didn't really evolve to have such broad communication abilities and deep personalities, you just required a fertile partner and a lack of severe red flags.

Anonymous · Answer

Not always. They’ll have to be attracted to the person, yes, but many guys have told me that they’d rather a girl who’s not necessarily a stunner but they’re attracted to and who they click with, over a drop dead gorgeous stunner who they don’t click with.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

For the same reason why people buy Ferrari's for crazy amount of money, Knowing that it might not make it if you decide to have a road trip in it from New York City to Los Angeles.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Because they are shallow but everyone is shallow when it comes to dating tbh. Women also like hot tall guys but in my experience women get judged in a harsh for prefering tall men while noone says anything when a guy preferes pretty girls in my experience. This is why women ain't honest since they are afraid of getting judged
I can't generalize of course and i mentioned many times that this my experience and so it is anecdotal.

Raidernation01 · Answer

Yes well it will be a sad wedding night when They can't consummate the marriage because he's not attracted to her. Unfortunately physical attractiveness is important to men. When it comes to sex with men it's physical first, and with women it's emotional first. A lot of people wanted to debate me about that but I'm going to stand by it.

cth96190 · Answer

Because whether they realise it or not, they want her DNA in their children. Most women are somewhere on a scale that ranges from insane to insufferable bitch.

InferiorElegy · Answer

Its not just guys, in fact more so it is females that want looks over personality.
There are more ugly or obese females out there in relationships than there are ugly guys or obese guys who have even had a single date, because guys will more likely go for any female whereas females won't go for an ugly or obese guy unless he's loaded.

Hypnos0929 · Answer

D is the closest wrong answer.
Truth is looks attract personality just isn't enough to attract immediately like looks. Personality matters after I'm attracted to you and it can make or break the relationship but I have to be able to see myself with you

bamesjond0069 · Answer

None of these. For men sex is highly important and if you are the complete package in every way but ugly... you're useless to us because we won't even want to have sex! If i was forced to be married id rather a hot stripper than a hideous housewife. Although id prefer a hot housewife the most. I just would not even tolerate a dirty look a bad word nothing from an ugly girl or else id put her out and make her work overtime so i didn't have to even see her.

Quigly · Answer

I don't discriminate against a girl if she is ugly.
I don't discriminate against a girl if she isn't ugly.

The wrong personality is a deal breaker with either.

I don't care that others might think I'm shallow if I am with a good looking girl.
I am a mentally strong enough and secure individual to be with her regardless.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Look are more obvious. So the order of operations which looking for a partner ends up being looks then personality, even though I would say personality is more important.

jaybee281 · Answer

Because my psyche has unconscious standards for who I like to kiss and fuck - there is a reason why we get smitten at the sight of a certain girl while we'd be burping if a 6 was walking by - That's natural selection for you..

Firesparks · Answer

I don't care how good looking a girl is cause if she has a bad personality n bad attitude, her good looks makes her look ugly... n I'll walk away from any girl regardless on how she or the public views as good looking...

slatyb · Answer

They are stupidly trying to impress others. That's not the route to happiness.

Avicenna · Answer

That’s not universal, but great beauty is relatively rare and is therefore prized.

tzdc21 · Answer

The looks get them through the door. Personality keeps them there. Even if she is the nicest person on the planet, if she's not at least somewhat attractive, they're not gonna bother. That's just the way it is.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Why do so many women prefer good looks over a good personality or even worse bad boys over someone with a good personality?

Tomtom9494 · Answer

Why do women? I’m a good guy with a caring heart yet women just look at me and immediately away and never back again. I’m still a virgin, I cannot make friends and never been on a date

jerdanro · Answer

I want to be attracted to who I'm with as well as liking them. But some people have ridiculous beauty standards. And when I love someone, they are beautiful. Not the other way around

Doflamingo1 · Answer

Add this to your list:” Because we are visual creatures, and rather have something good to look at.”

HighValue · Answer

A good looking guy shouldn't have to settle for an ugly girl. Only obese people, or people with ugly faces complain about others not likin ugly people.

Prof_Don · Answer

Most of it is bragging rights. The value of having a “hot chick” matters to some guys.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Initially good looks matter but a pretty face gets boring real quick if her personality is total 💩💩

Priv9696 · Answer

When you date someone who you’re not initially attracted to as you grow to love them, their looks will become beautiful 🤩

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Men have been valued more on status and income women for there beauty. Beauty boasts a women's ego and status boasts ego for men  If ladies prefer a guy with stability so men choose the beauty

zagor · Answer

You can't tell a girl's personality by looking at her across the dance floor.

snger4lif · Answer

Easier than the time it takes and effort to invest in personality

dustybiker · Answer

Only a small percentage of people (both genders) do this. I’m glad. It’s like they’re waving a flag so you can avoid them.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why so many girls prefer good looks verses a good personality when dating guys.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Vanity. I'd like to add that not so good looks does not precipitate towards any improved or shitty personality.

msc545 · Answer

Good looks are something that they see immediately. A good (or bad) personality usually takes time to discover.

Hangry06 · Answer

Humans are visual. Women have always been valued by beauty. That is how men used to choose a woman fit for childbearing

bgreek · Answer

Let me think I'll take a chick with a good personality anytime

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Because it starts with attraction. We want a good personality also

Diodoro · Answer

I notice it's never attractive people complaining about others prizing looks above whatever

globetrotter22 · Answer

Women can be shallow too. But men’s brains can get hijacked with attractive women. We overlook red flags

donnny2367764 · Answer

Truth be told, good looking girls make great dates. Great fucking partners. But they also make excellent cheaters in the end, so they're really not marriage material

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Good looks get your attention, good personality keeps you around.

Grubhub · Answer

Good personality is always better than looks. Both preferably. Nothing wants a busted woman

Anonymous · Answer

Because we know that a woman's personality isn't concrete.

mattissebfan5 · Answer

I mean I haven't had a partner but it's pretty easy at first visual attraction but for relationship it's personality long term natural

legalboxers · Answer

I go on personality. she can be good looking but have a nasty disposition..

malwins · Answer

for women a man only needs to be goodlooking enough

AkshiJanjua · Answer

At the start looks matter but then personality holds the attraction

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

None of these answers are correct. We’re just being men. Men are visual creatures. That doesn’t mean we place no importance on personality. The looks are what initially attracts us, the personality is what makes us stay.

Exterminatore · Answer

Because you can’t have sex with personality, but you can with good looks.

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