He broke up with me bc of my body count? (Page 2)
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Well, let's see you lied to him. for most people, that's automatic grounds for a breakup in the first place. But it was wrong for him to have you do what he had you do.
I don't see this relationship lasting.
I mean if you hooked up with friends how do you think he would feel when you introduced him to your friends group and he knew they slept with you?
Not close friends like that. I understand where you’re coming from though
It's different for a guy to deal with an ex because it is like 1v1, and with guys who just slept with you because then it is like 1v9, it is unfair for women but it is what it is and no guy wants to go somewhere and hear that a lot of people from there slept with his girlfriend.
You lied to him, and you let 9 guys to have you, he right not to trust you.
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyGirlIsNotASlut
Not deliberately lying. He was asking questions that I was uncomfortable answering during sex
That guy makes no sense.
You slept with 9 guys, so what? Is not that much.
Trust me if that guy actually worries about that then he is not the kind of guy that you want to have.
You are well rid of that fool.
He is not looking for a partner.
He is sexually repressed, neurotic and wants to ‘own’ a woman.
He was probably terrible in bed, too.
Sounds like is way insecure... some is normal but as long as your being true he shouldn't have any thing to worry about it... sounds like it's him n not you
If I was dating someone who had previously nine guys I would probably leave or make them know it’s either put them aside and it’s only us or I would leave
all the people saying insecurity and all that bs lmao it’s not it’s literally a girl had 9 guys and that’s not sexist or anything it’s just facts
You lied and he's not good. I have a problem too with women who sleep around, as I am also not that kind of guy but I will ask you before sleeping with you, not in the bed. I may be am not so mature or experienced but will stay if I really like other stuff about you.
Everyone have preference I wouldn't say 9 is that high body count I have seen girls with 50+ body count. in my opinion you should work on yourself if you hook up with the 9 and just riding the shaft then you did bad choices. Ask forgiveness from God and start new page. To us higher body count less pair bond which is true that's why we don't invest anymore
I’ve been working on myself, but I’m not asking to be forgiven. God made me as I am, and although I’m not religious~ I take full responsibility for my choices.
Then he has choices too everyone is free. Good luck
A body count of 9 by the age of 30 is one thing; but 9 at the 18-24 range? in my opinion yeah that looks like a red flag. Add in the concept of multiple hookups to inform she's off the market, and long distance (LDRs always a bad idea in my opinion)... I think he's right to look at the situation as a hookup, but not want to have an expectation of monogamy there.
@DCooper yup everyone have preferences
Its the simple fact that you lied the 1st time about it. most people feel if you can about this then what else can you or will you lie about. to me he sounds like a controller but i dont him for getting upset about the lie.
Saying he can't trust you after you lied and said 2, but then became honest with 9 makes sense. The rest is an overreaction in my opinion.
So you dodged a bullet, lucky you! Imagine actually being with a toxic piece of shit like him. Phew!
There is no good that could ever come out of a conversation like that. If he is secure in the relationship he won't ask. Don't ask don't tell unless there is a health concern, in which case an std test is better anyway.
If he is to possessive and controlling then dumb him , it's understandable that he doesn't want you to do hookups while with him but he can't ask you to break up friendships
Oh I’d never do anything of the sort while in a relationship!!
Exactly so he should allow you to keep seeing them!
You both were not good for each other.
You dodged a bullet.
He seems very insecure, consider whether that's a dealbreaker.
This doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship if he can’t accept you.
If he were the right fit, he could still dissaprove of your body count but see past your flaws and love you regardless.
Instead its made him paranoid
It sounds to me like you might have dodged a bullet. Men like him are not worth being with anyway.
"He broke up with me bc of my body count"
"He’s asked me to message my hookups to tell them we can’t talk and that I’m seeing someone."
Wait, so which is it?
We’re not together - but he’s waiting to see how he feels about me and how I handle everything like the messaging before he feels there’s enough trust to rebuild the relationship again.
not only are you a cumdumpster, you're also a liar. But then again which woman doesn't lie? It's a natural talent for you.