If a guy asks you out to eat then he is supposed to pay for everything, right? (Page 2)
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You should never go out with someone with the assumption they will automatically be paying. If they make that offer then sure but I find it weird to get offended if you have to pay for what you ordered regardless of who asked who
If he insists, sure. I won't make it a problem if he really wants to do that. But I honestly want to pay for my order.
Gem of a girl
I appreciate the sentiment, but if I am pursuing a woman romantically, I want to pay. Don't rob a man of his pride in being able to provide.
@jerdanro I wouldn't expect you to pay for everything, but yes if you insist. Sure you do you. But what is this pride behind it? Wouldn't it be more appealing if we show you we can take care of ourselves?
@JosyJosy. Many men, take pride in being able to provide and protect, even if our partner can do that herself. There are other qualities I value in myself, but I still believe in traditional masculinity which includes chivalry and respect.
By pride I mean genuine pride, not hubris.
I always offer to pay my bill unless guy insist that it is on him.
I take it as is, if he directly asked me out and I said yes then he should. If it is going to be romantic.
If it is just a guy asking me out as friends, then I'll pay for myself.
The person who does the asking is the one that pays if it's a date. Casual outings are different. I may be old fashioned but no woman has ever spent a dime on a date I took her on.
There are some guys that think that entitles them to some action because they paid but that is just plain wrong. The idea is to build a relationship on a date and not lay to get sex.
It's much more rewarding to be a gentleman.
You make no sense. Please explain why a woman can't ask out men and pay? Like 10% of women do. Which leaves 90% of men will always pay.
I did say the person that does the asking is the person that pays in my first line.
tbh here... most women says they will pay for the date if they asked u out... but still they except the guy to pay.. ... wtf... where is the " one who ask will pay " rule here? and if the guy ask her out... she would expect him to pay cause its his duty lmao... some will say this part of the tradition for a man to pay... no b'tch its not... if u can't stay at home and cook then why expect a man to follow the tradition?
Nobody should be supposed to.
However it would be decent to pay for the first meal/date, by whoever asked the other person out.
Should also be totally acceptable to let your date know that it will be 50/50 all the way. Or i pay for the ride you pay for the ice cream etc etc.
Obviously. His problem.
We don't have much free time and have other things to attend to. So if he's really interested then it's his job.
So, all penny pinching broke guys disagree with me to even pay for 1 meal. Then get lost and don't call someone above your league. Y'all are good for nothing f**boys who failed in life. Stop thinking about getting laid, if you don't even wanna spend bare minimum on your girl. Go for C-grade cheap prostitutes instead.
Stop wasting girls time. We want free food because you guys ain't loyal to one woman. So give us something positive to remember in exchange of draining our time and energy.
You can call it what you want to call it it doesn't bother me even if I was going out with you to have lunch or something I would still buy it I do it because I want to do it not because there's a title behind it
Usually, yes, the one who asks the other out for a meal pays. In the case of your question, yes, the guy inviting pays. However, I always offer to split the bill. If he accepts my offer, I'd be happy to share the expense.
oh really? or maybe next time u won't go on date with him... lol just kidding... by the way yours the only answer which is pretty good out of all the bull shit i just read... many are saying its traditional for a man to pay on a date... like wtf... isn't women staying at home and cooking for men traditional too? yes but obviously she just want the good part of the tradition but rest modern.. lmao
If he made the invitation, he ought to at least offer to pay. He asked her to give up her afternoon or evening that she could have spent doing anything else.
Guess it depends on the guy. Every guy I've gone out with has told me before the date that he plans on covering it :p so it's been nice not to have to stress over who's gonna pay or if I should offer and all that.
Within limits, don't be the girl that treats him as an open bar or a luxery meal. Order something in the same price range as him and keep in par with him on drinks.
No. Firstly because it’s obviously fair to pay for whatever you order or use.
Secondly, because these kinds of ideas are women being manipulative. They will say “whoever asks pays” then only separately acknowledge that they never ask and always lure men into approaching. When considered together these facets paint a gross picture.
Are you an escort? If not, why would you expect him to pay for your company?
If you expect him to pay for everything, wouldn't it be fair that he expect sex from you?
When will you women let go of your hypocrisy in all things related to traditional gender roles.
yes tell her to split the bill... or else leave the bitch with the whole bill...
When I’ve been asked out I usually have let the guy pay.
And most grown men appreciate that.
if its the woman asking a guy out to dinner, even if its her brother or dad, if she's asked him. then she's supposed to pay.
If a guy asks her out then he's supposed to pay
thats how id do it
Women overwhelmingly don’t ask men out period.
@VanillaSalt not all women are the same. i personally would ask a guy out if id want. and i know there's more women out there who would too.
Ok yhen in your case honestly… how many men have hit on you? How many have you hit on? I don’t mean a smile I mean initiating a real interaction.
I bet more men hit on you at least 3:1…
So whether your willing to or not is irrelevant because it’s against OVERWHELMINGLY men hitting on women.
@VanillaSalt you're right honestly lmao i just noticed that and i can't even count how many men have hit on me because i usually keep getting men hitting on me like every month and i dont think I've ever initiated something, other than with my S. O, but he's fallen in love with me first too, so I'm not sure
but why does that matter if the context is just any guy. because I could just ask my dad or brothers out for lunch and I could pay if I'm independent
Context is left open but let’s be honest what was meant… and it matters greatly. So much talk about equality when their suffering but when it comes time to trade in their privileges we don’t wanna discuss it.
You hear women these days saying more and more she’ll ask a man out and she’ll pay but… that’s not what she wants. She wants him to ask her and she wants him to pay cause it makes her feel special. So basically it’s a battle of wants. Do you want to feel special or do you want to feel equal?
@VanillaSalt I'd rather want to be equal.
Ok then but if you want equal then tell me… why arnt women asking at a 50/50? Then men and women would each pay 50% of the time… also tell me… How must I play this game as a man? If I pay and she wants equality then it’s unfair for me but if she wants traditionalism and I don’t pay I’m not a real man. There’s many MANY women whom go out on dates and never have any interest in men their just out to get free food. It’s possible as a woman to never pay for food in college without having to put out. You can’t say that as a man.
What I suggest is if you want equality split the check. If you want traditional values then the man should pay. Your way don’t work because women rarely if ever ask men out and with the polar opposites in dating right now it’s easier.
@VanillaSalt yeah ig splitting is best
There's always the option of going 50/50 on the bill; but to answer the question, if he's the one inviting you to dinner, then he's expected to pay. Same for you if you invited him out.
It’s not quite that black and white. Only children get to eat on someone else’s dime under all circumstances. If you’re a grown adult, you should at least offer to take turns footing the bill or split the costs evenly. Don’t preach this “women can do everything men can do” shit, and then still expect us to pay for your food. That’s bullshit.
For the first date, I would say yes always, maybe for the second and third. At some point after a number of dates it's ok for the girl to cover if she wants to.