I have a boyfriend but have feelings for another guy?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy at work and we instantly connected. He flirted with me a lot, is attracted to me, and we used to have a lot of playful banter so much so that once our mutual friend even commented on how we act like a couple (which came as a surprise to me). He likes my personality a lot too and notices small things about me that mostly people don't.

I had stopped talking to him from some time ago because I realized I was developing feelings for him in some way like for eg: I was starting to get jealous at the thought of him being with other girls.

I left the job recently it"s not even been a month but I miss him now now that he's gone from my life so I guess distancing myself from him didn't work.. what should I do now?

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I forgot to add he has a girlfriend too.

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I think I need to add some more things, he was the one who initiated our friendship, he was the one who flirted with me all the time, got jealous of my guy friends, and said that he doesn't care that he has a girlfriend he's still open to getting involved with someone that he's interested in. He even got very upset when I started ignoring him (he tried to kiss me and I didn't encourage it so it didn't happen) and used to make me feel guilty for doing it.

[Jfranco12]

First off, If you’re not happy with your current boyfriend then you need to address that and talk to him to try and work on things. If you are going to pursue this other guy make sure he is not in relationship and make sure you end things with your current boyfriend first. Second, this guy was willing to cheat on his girlfriend, I don’t care what the reasons are, if he’s willing to cheat on her then he’s willing to cheat on you too. Ask yourself if you want to be with someone who is would easily cheat.

[Asker]

I do realise that he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend and it would have definitely happened had I allowed it... the way he was pursuing me. I was logical about that that's why I distanced myself from him but I can't help how I feel even after distancing myself. He recently wished me on my birthday too with hearts even though like I said I had stopped talking to him since a long time.

[Jfranco12]

The feeling will pass with time, it’s only been a month, do not cave to it. Focus on improving your current relationship. Contacting this other guy will not be worth it. He’s probably does the same thing with other girls too.

[Asker]

I'm not contacting him he's still trying to be in touch with me like I said he recently wished me on my birthday.

[Jfranco12]

I see, well you can either ignore him or just be really short/brief and he will get the hint eventually

[Asker]

I've been ignoring him for like over 2 months now

[Jfranco12]

keep ignoring him or just block his number

[PositiveNote]

The other guys are right, contact him and drop your other... He's got another, so bye, bye.

There is nothing in the law to prevent you from searching out if someone is truly your mate. Never let anyone stop you from searching, never let anyone tell you how to go about it, either. It's your life, do what you need to get it right! (The FIRST time!)

[jahaims]

Dump your boyfriend then. You aren't in a healthy relationship if you catch feelings for others.

[Stevefiveo]

Go talk to him and ask him out.

[Asker]

He has a girlfriend too

[Stevefiveo]

All's fair in love and war. If you want him, go get him.

[lycanthrope3]

Go for it