I love my boyfriend but have crush on someone else?

[Anonymous]

It has been a year since me and my boyfriend have been together. I really love him, but all of a sudden I have crush on othe guy , he works in office where I have trainee. I noticed that I think of him all the time , I love his voice, could listen all day .. love to look at him, I am so happy when I see him, I dream to kiss him and hug him.. I fantasize everyday about him I can't help it. But I know between us won't be anything because he is engaged and he is 26, I am 20. I also wouldn't leave my boyfriend never! But I feel guilty , I can't help it. Is this wrong? is this normal ? or am I really bad?

[neohiobiker]

Oh but you should leave him if you can't give your Boyfriend 100% you don't love him your just comfortable with him and it's safe cause your not alone but your still cheating on him if you can't give him both your body and mind 100% and if you marry without fixing your head you will end up divorced. and another thing age when your out of your teens doesn't matter. No it's not normal Yes you are wrong and yes your bad. remember in relationships TWO becomes ONE so what happens if this guy puts the moves on you in your state you will fall on your back we both know it. Better to break up then cheat. If your thinking this way something is wrong with your relationship turn the tables on your self would you mind if your Boyfriend does what you are doing and what you are hoping will happen?

[Asker]

But I wouldn't cheat him never, I can't even tink about leaving him, I can't halp myself and this feeling for this other boy, but I wouldn't change my boyfriend for this other guy

[neohiobiker]

but you are cheating on him with your mind you need professional help to help you grow and be a mature woman.

[rocksongwriter]

The man speaks the truth.

If you really loved your boyfriend, you'd be fantasizing about your boyfriend, not this other guy. You're just stuck in a comfort zone and are still with your boyfriend because he's familiar. You're boyfriend doesn't just isn't doing it for you anymore - so you fantasize about someone who is.

[Asker]

But it's just a harmless fantasy, attraction is not a choice, and I can't help it I am so attracted to this guy, but I would never replace my bf

[christiannajoy91]

Okay, I have experienced the same thing. If you think about someone else, it's okay - there are thousands of people in the world and we are wired to be attracted to other people. It's only cheating if you act on those feelings. Your boyfriend could have a crush on someone else too - it happens! If you really love your boyfriend as much as you say you do, a little schoolgirl crush isn't going to end it unless you pursue it.