Do you agree men are only as faithful as their options?

[TsAubreyKate]

Women do too don’t even say that shit it will be removed 🙄
thats just redirecting and doesn’t further the conversation

Yes

No

[SenileOldMan]

No. I find that a very bleak and depressing of humanity. I think a man with many options has more temptations and challenges than one with few and so it's understandable if more men fail with more options, and I think it's also nobler if they succeed in terms of fidelity. But I don't think anyone is only as moral as their options.

[SenileOldMan]

With that said, I don't like some man who is so unpopular with women judging some Tiger Woods for their infidelity with such confidence as though they would not fail the same way he did given the same options. I don't think they can even imagine having such options. People judge quickly and people talk big. But I don't think a man as popular as Tiger Woods has to cheat, and I'm sure I can find at least some examples who didn't.

[SenileOldMan]

My thought on morality though is not that people are only as moral as their options, or even as moral as the consequences. Some people seem to think that if there were no laws against murdering people, we would all be murderers. I really don't think that's true. I think the reason there are laws against murderers is that there are some legit sociopaths and psychopaths out there, like the ones who would kill in a lawless disaster scenario. But I don't think everyone would. The laws are intended to protect against the minority of people who would as I see it. Most people are decent enough just through their conscience. At least I hope so.

[SenileOldMan]

I also think this is a harmful kind of concept. I've never been anywhere near as popular as Tiger Woods and I might very well fail if I did, but a lot of the driving force behind my fidelity towards my wife is the belief and ideal that a man can be faithful in spite of his options. Whatever few options I had while being married was based at least partly on that ideal, and knowing I have a loving wife at home when some tipsy girl tries to flirt with me at a bar. I look down at my wedding ring and remember I have a loving wife and that wards off all the hassles of getting mixed up with questionable women. And a side of me does want to fuck them if that's a big shocker to some people, or if they'll judge me for my temptations rather than my actions. But it's that ideal image of what a good man should be, and the way I picture my wife smiling, and welcoming me home, that helps me resist such temptations. I have this ideal image of a man and I fall far short of it, but it's important to me to even be as okay as I am. We start developing an image of a man as a beast unable to resist temptations and we have no motivation left to be better than what we are.

[2021biguy]

A caring woman that is attractive, doesn't cheat and wants commitment should be valued, not cheated on.

[NopeWhatTime]

No, just because someone else is unfaithful doesn't give you the right to be

[jahaims]

Nope.

[Northernlights25]

No I do not.

[TsAubreyKate]

Sir you are lying to yourself if you think you’re better than that

[Northernlights25]

No I am not.