How much notice would you give if you were going to cancel a FIRST date? (Page 2)
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I am sorry that this happened tp you. I get why you are upset. This guy handled it badly. he should have called you instead of texting you. He probably is really sorry and if you really like him you might give him a one time pass on this.
RE Update: This guy is a loser. I would never do something like that.
I would give as much notice as I could. He probably thought he could before he texted you. I highly doubt he waited to tell you he couldn't. Also talking while driving is as bad as texting. So I don't see how texting you is worse than calling you, since you'd be on the road either way.
It would of rang through the truck and I could of answered by pushing the phone button on the steering wheel. No different than if I had a passenger I was talking to, 100% hands free.
Now maybe it is dangerous for someone to be driving and talking to a passenger, then it would be.
My mom's car can read her phone's text messages, so I assumed if it had hands free calls the same would be true for texts.
That part is broken, or not setup. Keep in mind I don't normally drive, I usually take mass transit but my dad wanted me to drive since it would be later at night when routes stop going.
The system never even told me I had a text, so likely just not setup since I don't drive enough.
As per your second update, that was not a good reason to cancel. Unless I had substantial money riding on doing well I wouldn't cancel for that.
I'd let my date know as soon as possible.
Regarding your situation, something may have actually come up last minute, and he didn't have the time to do anything other than send a quick text message.
An hours notice is only ok if there is an emergency. Same for friends or whomever really.
I don't accept such with newly acquaintances at all. I don't want to let someone into my life who takes plans so lightly.
I suppose it's possible that something did come up last minute. But I agree with you that he should have called instead of text. I'd leave the ball in his court. If he wants to try again he should ask you out and come to you.
Several hours at the very least, but the day before is the ideal. If a guy cancels me just an hour before, I'd probably close that door forever, unless something really urgent came up.
The amount of Notice depends on when he knew he had to Cancel. If he texted you as soon as he knew he had to cancel then the hour was all he had to tell you. He probably texted you because he didn’t want to have a conversation about it!
This is why you never ask a man on a date. Hopefully you learned your lesson.
Pretty much and bet he and other guys will complain no girl ever asks them out.
Yeah but the thing is... if a mans not in the state of mind to ask a girl out, he's not in the right place to go on a date or treat a girl right. Those men complaining have some personal internal and emotional work they need to figure out before they are with someone.
At least 24 hour notice I don’t cancel dates unless it’s really genuine somethings come up where I need to be
He must’ve known where you were travelling from, so I’m not sure why he didn’t call earlier.
As soon as possible but anything can happen last minute. I would only cancel last minute if something out of my control happened.
Somebody hotter than you came along that's what happened that he was trying to keep it short and sweet so as we are here debating he's having some ball pounding sex right now
I doubt there's anyone hotter😁
@ilistengood what about Jasmine please I'm way hotter than her
Alright take it out then see what you really got
OO, was simply trying to make kas feel better
@ilistengood but let's be honest you're trying to make yourself feel better and hey that's part of Mother Nature
There's always gotta be one
@ilistengood absolutely
Damn sorry to hear it didn't work out, his loss, you just keep doing you
It would have to be something like my family member is going to the hospital. And it would require a phone call. Well, at least you found out early that he is a jerk. I wish you all the best.
I think you need to give an hour notice before. Last minute BS. Unless it’s a family emergency or car accident. I wouldn’t even be friends I’d block him.
I'd give as much as I possibly could, with an apology, but I'm respectful of women and their time like that.
I try to make sure everything is done before than so I won't have to but if depends on when that something comes up and how important it is
It depends of the context like if you are dating a firefighter or paramedic then you shouldn't be surprised if they cancel the date 5 mins before.
Cancelling the first date is incredibly disrespectful. You both have spent a lot of time talking by now. Once you both get to know each other its a whole other story.
If that was a first date here wouldn't be a second one.
This ^^🔥🤟🤟 I'd drop him by the way