Forgive? It's possible.
Forget? Not unless you get whacked in the head and develop amnesia.
That said, your choices are to stay and try to work it out, or end it and move on.
Either way, you'll always carry that emotional scar despite all of his apologies and both of your attempts to right the ship.
Betrayal is a hard thing to overcome. Have you sought coupled counseling? Attending and understanding each other and the whys behind it, may help, nut you're never going to forget... and that's unfortunate.
Lastly, if it IS over, TRY not to let it influence your future relationships. That's hard too.
Moving forward isn't an option. It's what we all do everyday, despite our hardships. One foot in front of the other.
Good luck
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It requires u to forgive him there is a reason most people end up breaking up because truly forgiving and learning to trust again is super hard especially if it was a affair not just him sleeping with someone else if u can't get iver that u will never be happy in this relationship even with u having a child u will grow resentment and end up hating him and the situation
So I have a rule in relationships for this reason: cheating means automatic dismissal. It sounds harsh but for me it's true. Some people can truly forgive their SO if they cheated. I am not one of those people and it doesn't sound like you are either if its still on your brain two years later.. For me if an SO cheats it shatters any amount of trust I had for that person and it can't be taken back. My mind would always wonder if they'd do it again, or whatever the case. That would cause doubts on my end even if they never did it again and I wouldn't want to drag someone through hell because I couldn't forgive them.
You may NOT Forget but just Forgive. You may for a long Time be Wary and keep Wondering and have your Mind keep Wandering because you may Continue with Trust Issues. If you Both have a Daughter, Work it Out as a Couple or make Arrangements to Co parent. It won't Disappear for now... xx
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Maybe, but it not going to be easy for you, and leaving him while you have a daughter is not going to be easy as well, you don't want to become a single mom, and it understandably.
That's bad news if he is still talking to her. You should ask him to go to couples counseling. If he doesn't want to commit, you might need to leave him.
On other note call his so call girlfriend and give her some of the babysitting duties... and get yourself some free time... and you three can go to couple councelling together. One thing I can definitely tell you is your boyfriend just wants a change from his so called boring life. He may cheat with other women also. So try something different.
Knowing what I know about you, it's a definite no. Trust me, I'm a random guy
all thr time you are asking us to help NO forget then you can forgive
Only if your so realizes his mistakes.
You tell us...
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