Is it important for women to have skills on how to approach a guy?

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dontknocmebumpy · Accepted Answer

No not really. Because girls are like flowers. Guys are like bees. The flower jus sits there looking pretty using beautiful petals to attract the bees to it to make the bee wanna pollinate it. And stick his big needle into the flower. LOL

So, if the flower goes over and approaches the bee... All it has to do is look pretty and the bee will be interested in pollinating, he doesn't really care about the flowers approaching skills, u get what I'm saying?
Girls don't really have to do anything special to get us attracted to y'all, because y'all are already naturally attractive, you can even be goofy and dorky and I wouldn't care if you look good IL still fancey youThe polls are jus lying, or a lot of people have been brainwashed by society to think this is the politically correct answer, cos we all wanna be equal and we don't like to believe one gender has it easier attracting than the other, but the sad truth we don't want to admit.. is girls have it a lot easier when it comes to attracting the opposite genderAlso it should come naturally to y'all how to act around guys, it's not natural for guys it's something we have to learn, but it's in a girl DNA to jus know what to do, you don't really have to try

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

all you need is genuine confidence to be yourself...

disclaimer... you will not always be everyone´s type, nobody is

many people can feel entitled to a positive response just because they made the effort to approach but no, some people are just not available or not interested and that is not rejection per se... nobody is obligated nor entitled

many say that women can have anyone they want any time they want, that is not true either, I could count with two hands, all the times women have approached me with this intention, to have sex right away and no... it has never happened, I am just not into that

and there also the times in which was not about sex right away, but they were interested or intrigued, which, yes... sometimes you respond to see how it goes, but it does not always work, I´ve met many interesting people who seemed to be have a lot of good things about them, there was potential, however, timing can be everything so... this is also about expectations

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

Yes definitely. I wish I did before I met my boyfriend. I was awkward around boys I liked and just expected but one day I'd be approached by a guy I liked just by sitting there a doing nothing.

I was so immature and expected the man to do all the work because I didn't want to look desperate, I'd play hard to get and be really mean and rude because of course that's how you get guys to talk to you 😅. The first time I told a boy I liked him I went the wrong way about it and made a fool out of myself and it hurt so much because I wasn't used to being rejected but I think it's something young woman need to learn too as well as young men and learn it's something we all need to accept and normalise but not everyone is gonna like us and that's okay because there is always gonna be someone out there who does.

Plus it's really scary times for young men these days and I think if you really like someone you shouldn't feel scared to approach them. Imagine if you missed out on meeting the love of your life because you let fear get to you. If it is awkward and they reject you think at least you tried and is it gonna matter in 10 years time

Yurrasis · Accepted Answer

Yes. I think it's nice to be able to approach men without a problem and not always forcing the 'men need to make their moves first'.

I personally never confessed to a guy or initiated first, but I would do it if I'm given time to think about my decision. I've always been aproached before I could even muster up the courage to approach them lol

DonkeyDan · Answer

I think it's important for everyone to have the skills to approach someone regardless of gender. You can't rely on someone else to interpret your intentions and act on them. If you like someone you should be able to go up to them and tell them so. So often I see 2 people that clearly have some interest in each other, yet nothing ever happens between them because neither will make the first move. People need to be responsible for following their own happiness and making it happen, and not just waiting around for someone else to make a move.

Diodoro · Answer

No. Useful skillset for girls is how to assess whether or not a man is worth her time. Sorting the actors from the real deals. And how to comfortably get out of social situation they don't want to be in.

Every girls primary concern when meeting a guy is being stuck in a situation they don't want to be in and can't get out of. They don't want to deal with a crazy dude.

If they have those 2 skillsets under their belt they'll be fine no matter what. Because they can easily leave guys in a comfortable social manner that doesn't rub people the wrong way.

So she's not risking a crazy dude flipping the fuck out or being over the top bitch mode because they don't know any other way. And if she can tell if a guy is really who he says she is then she'll consistently pick good options without wasting her time on a guy she thought was a good deal for her.

TheBootyChest · Answer

It's not important for them to have "skills". All I want from a lady is for her to be able to express her interest in me as we are talking.

If I walk up to you or we doing something together and I say "I'm having a lot of fun with you." Instead of saying something to pretend you didn't hear me, or change the subject so that you can "play hard to get". Just come out and say that you are having just as much fun too, or even be the first one to say it yourself. Because if I hear that, then I know that if I ask you out you are more likely to say yes or even a maybe.

I don't think that anyone likes being in a position to ask a lady out on a date, especially if he is really excited about the idea of being with her in particular, only for her to say "No, leave me alone."

I could go on for hours and still probably go of course. But let me know if you want to hear more. Ask me questions too.

Hulk30 · Answer

i won't say no but i also won't say it's what women should be leadin with either whether it's sex or a relationship ya want which most women actually want relationships then ya should be usin your attractiveness to intice men to approach you because most men wanna be inticed to approach ya rather than ya approachin em and it's not to say ya can't do that all im sayin is if ya do that your robbin em of what they wanna do which if ya do it that way generally creates more romantic interest in ya and better increases your chances of actually gettin a commitment from em long-term

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

In general yes. Sometimes guys won’t approach you themselves for a range of reasons and so you have to do it. I’ve always been really awkward with that kind of stuff because I’m used to having the guys do all the work, but now I’m learning to approach guys myself.

mamuma02 · Answer

Yes
I'm not good with approaching guys in real life but I'm good at it online.

In real life, when I look a guy in the eyes and smile, they come to me by themself athought I didn't express any interest. They missunderstood. I smile just to be polite as a way to say "hey". That have been happening to me since I was 11 years old.

I used to look at the floor talking to guys because I didn't want them to missunderstand.

Maybe I have magical eyes 😅 lol

Seinna · Answer

Trust me, you don't want to have a guy who lacks the courage to approach you. Chances are if he can't do that, he won't be able to do other things traditionally expected of men - like protect you and your potential children.

Guy13 · Answer

The only skill a woman needs is to know how to play or suck either from the martini stirrer, long island ice tea straw, and/or a piece of fruit id you're with one of those Farmer Market type Girly. So there you ladies, how we know that we care Much about you, your well-being, ample supply of floss, Aim toothpaste, and making certain you get your 6 month dentist jaw x-ray and clean-outs...

NikolasGLT · Answer

Yes, it would help not a little, but a lot.
Being able to communicate is a basic social thing many people should know how to do regardless of their goal.
It is necessary and will lead to bigger success or more raw experience if a woman knows how to approach a guy she likes.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Less so than it is for a guy. Still useful, though, both because it gives you more options, and because it makes it easier to tell when he's trying something with you, so you can decide how best to respond. As an added bonus, it makes it easier to understand the difficulties and stresses of the traditionally male role; more empathy is always good.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Not only for girls, but guys should also be taught on how to approach a girl.
There are many girls I just want to talk with, but I simply don't know how to initiate the talk.
There were many girls who thought I was being rude or had attitude simply because I heard them but did not give any response. I was not able to at that time, because of their beauty at that time.

Instructions should be there.

dtweed1996 · Answer

It depends really my girl doesn’t have skills to charm a guy but she has trust issues because she has been played like multiple time’s but not completely because she thinks twice at who she takes her chances with especially with me even though we’re not really there

pizzalovershouse · Answer

It would be nice to see a psychologist teach this with using a girl an girl instructors I've had lots of young females start small talk like nice weather but never fallow up on the rest it's like they dont know what to say or do so yes a class like that would help I'm shure a lot of young females have thought I like him but he dint approach me so I talked to him an he still couldn't figure out i like him but he must not be interested so I wasn't being rude just she gave me mixed signals

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes I think so because women shouldn't always rely on men to approach them. Men like it when women approach them because it takes pressure off them to make the first move. If women don't take some action, they can be missing out on opportunities.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Well its not important to me because I am not going to approach them anyway. 🙃

gingerwolf08 · Answer

Yes because girls need to learn how to make the first move as well> also it boosts our confidence and gets us out of our comfort zone since society is telling us otherwise

yug_a_tsuj · Answer

Not really in my opinion, when I was on dating app, I put in description, I won't judge you if you just say "hi" as an opening message. If we can lead decent and meaningful conversation after, it doesn't really matter how you approach me at first.

Berethor · Answer

No because it's men who are doing it most of the time.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I think It's important for everyone to have the ability to converse freely with other people. It would certainly cut down on lowliness, and perhaps mental health issues too.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

It definitely helps to have some skills and not come across like a ditz or clumsy.. although I’m sure there are some guys who probably wouldn’t be bothered by that.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably, if they want to be successful. Same goes for men. I've had women approach me several times before. Not one of them got my number. So apparently there is room for improvement.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. Having a skill to approach people without being rejected is useful, not only for dating. The first impression is very important, this isn't limited to appearance alone.

demonics · Answer

Now is a great time to learn! Scarcity won't be kind to those who've depended on others for all of their lives. Older women find this out the hard way... If you've spent your entire life just sitting there and being cute and guys approach you, what happens when you're no longer cute or the availability of men dwindles?

moviedude714 · Answer

Not really because women are still not expected to approach a guy despite how modern the world has become, women approaching guys will probably forever be rare

MakeUpModel91 · Answer

Yes most definitely. I am shy AF when I like a guy. They tend to then think I am not interested. (Previous experience) 🙈🤣

Bside · Answer

I ask guys out all the time. No big deal. people hate rejection it's not personal. Shoot your shot to get anywhere. Screwing around is unproductive. Confidence is attractive.

exitseven · Answer

It is good to have a wide variety of social skills including how to approach guys.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe that can come naturally all you got do is make small talk or make body language such as staring, smiling, etc.

Jouth · Answer

If she wants to meet more guys, yes. The world is my dating app. Which is why I meet tons of awesome people!! It took a lot of years of practice and rejection to be able to approach people.

annabananna · Answer

Practice conversing with other people and general and that will help you when approaching a guy you are interested in.

Dargil · Answer

Skills on how to approach me? Heck no. I am not a hot house plant. Just say: "Maybe you can take me out for coffee sometime." That is a GREEN LIGHT.

RealMarek · Answer

So many men will approach women that it is more important to know how to decline them and to be able to tell them to f-off if they don’t take the first “no” for an answer.

Chthou95 · Answer

Not really. Because it's not the norm. And guys aren't that hard to talk to compared to women. If she approaches, she's already won

GlassTop · Answer

No. Unless she’s trying to pull a guy out of her league.

ChiPaPa · Answer

No. women don't need or want to approach men most of the time, anyway.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

It's useful but not "important" you never know when you're gonna use it

bulletbob555 · Answer

In a time when women asked more than now. I have to say sometimes the woman approach made a difference.

GingerGuy · Answer

Examples of "skills"? lol It's no different that a guy approaching you, just do it. It just shows CONFIDENCE, which is attractive to both sexes, not just for you.

dolemite89 · Answer

even if they know how to talk to guys, most girls are too nervous/afraid of rejection to do it

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Personally if she's going to talk with me than she doesn't needs any skills other than being herself

BaldAvenger · Answer

I don't think a woman's approach makes or breaks a guys desire for her

dragoblack · Answer

Pfft, no. Guys are happy just to have someone interested in them and can hold a conversation. Women on the other hand, is like walking on eggshells just to keep their interest.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Yes, I think that if a girl likes a guy, she should be able to initiate approach

Djaay · Answer

The only skillset needed is outwardly character and a smile.

Better_off_here · Answer

no because for woman it is about looks for the most part, not skills.

Manab · Answer

Women can be weird approaching guys. I had some and they were very weird about it.

rapfan107 · Answer

Its an overall good skill to know how to approach people

proNutro · Answer

Skills? I just go up to them with confidence and make conversation

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

That is something everyone should develop by 25 at the latest. Nothing hotter than an independent woman who speaks with conviction.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

No she just need to get a skill how to respond to approach

rabbitzzz · Answer

Don't worry players will approach you.

Massageman · Answer

It would certainly save a lot of time. :- )

SmokyOne · Answer

Another thing men won't notice and girls will find their hurtful.  Just talk to the guy.

Playboy2424 · Answer

Many woman's already have this skill... Trust me they are more smarter than man.

Blake170 · Answer

I really like a confident girl, I'll most likely say yes since I'm single.

Lucina_Rose · Answer

It's important for anyone. But the person's perception being approached also matters.

theelegantman · Answer

get naked enough and make him feel that you can have sex with him if he wants. nothing more needed

Shy_Steve · Answer

It is up to her if She would rather date Players and possible Cheaters or Genuine Guys.

Citizenkirk · Answer

People skills are always important

Lynx122 · Answer

Just let guys approach you ^^

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