Do you think it is cheating of your partner considers someone else attractive, even though they never act on those feelings? (Page 2)
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No. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that everyone in the world suddenly becomes ugly to you. I’m married but I still look at people and think “oh wow they’re hot” but I would never feel the need to act on that.
However I would never tell my partner when I think someone looks good unless they’re a celebrity or something. Especially if it’s one of their friends. It’s respectful to just keep quiet about it.
As I told my ex-fiance when we first started our 10 years together, I'm GONNA look but that doesn't mean I WANNA fuck them, because, I'm MADLY in love with YOU and NO ONE is EVER gonna take me away from you!! Those girls are just eye candy! I'm looking at them the same way anyone would look at great art in a museum: something beautiful to admire FOR the beauty of it but, that's all!! Of course, SHE'S the one that started cheating on ME after 10 years of my loyalty!!
No you can't help that you find someone attractive. It's a very natural thing. It's harmless unless you act on it. If a partner has an issue with you simply finding another person attractive then they need some serious help
I'm sorry but only insecure folks will consider that cheating. Cheating is actually doing something with that other person that is out of context (e. g. more than just being friendly), not just considering that person attractive. That is just being honest.
Well, we aren’t blind and we notice attractive women. That is not cheating in the least, although a really insecure woman might think so.
The question was prompted when I read a post by a really insecure woman.
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There is that one verse that says if you look upon a woman with lust that you have already committed adultery with her in your heart, So maybe that could be considered cheating.
No, that's not how it works.
@Bel88 It could be in God's eyes. His view is the only one that counts.
God no. You can appreciate art without owning or want to own a piece. I’m the type of girl who will happily talk about someone else being hot, regardless of gender. We don’t stop seeing people just because we’re in a relationship
No. There are so many people in the world, of course he and I will both find other people attractive, it’s natural. It only becomes problematic when you consider cheating and/or act upon those feelings.
No lol. That’s ridiculous, he’s a human being and he’s gonna naturally find other people attractive. I find other people attractive to and my boyfriend doesn’t mind bc that’s human nature. It’s only cheating if you act out on it, tho.
No. I'm not the only woman around. I'd like to think he knows attractive when he sees it and chooses to be with me.
If that is cheating, then virtually all of humanity, including those currently alive, those who have lived, and those yet to live, have cheated.
My wife had a thing for Edward Norton. Was she having an affair with Edward Norton? Unbeknownst to her and Ed Norton?
No. That's just acknowledging that a person is attractive.
Maybe never say "yeah, she's way prettier than you" because that's a pretty quick way to see how comfortable the couch is.
It’s not cheating but he should keep those thoughts to himself and never act upon them like flirting with the person etc. otherwise it’s just disrespectful.
Having a partner does not make you legally blind. Its life. You can still find attraction with other people and in other people without being in a romantic relationship with them. Its not cheating.
I wouldn’t consider it cheating I mean we all are gonna see people we find attractive is one way or another sooner or later.
So long as your aren’t being disrespectful with it and aren’t acting on anything and staying loyal you should be ok.
I’ve made comments such as “He’s beautiful.. but still has nothing on you.” and mean it. If you do have thoughts that cross your mind they are natural thoughts, unpreventable.
No people are going to look. Shit I look at the time. Looking is harmless. In my opinion as long as they come home to you that's what matters
Admitting someone is attractive is having a mature conversation. Not cheating.
No. Wifey points out the really exceptional ones.
Cheating is where you invest your feelings and emotions with another, or have sex with them. 'Considering' or looking at something or someone isn't cheating.
No. It's hard not to find other people attractive. It happens. They just not gotta act on it. Moreover, they shouldn't repeat it several times either. That's still acting on it. Saying it once or confirming it cause you asked a specific question might be different but it happens.
People in love will say they don't find other people attractive but I don't believe that's true. Things can change over time and vary on the existing environment.