I was talking to a guy pretty regularly for about a month. We were talking every day and things were going well. And just to note- 90% of the time, he would call/text first.
We finally went on a date (went very well), but he started acting more distant for a few days. Tried not to think anything of it and we ended up going on a second date last Friday (a couple weeks after the first). It went well too, except we came a little close to crossing some boundaries we both set (nothing major- just more flirting and kissing than was probably best. Lol). We planned to see each other again. He called for a few minutes on his way to work the next day and said he just wanted to call since we hadn’t talked since the day before.
Then, Sunday (close to about 2 months and 2 dates into this), I asked him, via text, if he was talking to anyone else. I didn’t ask it harshly or anything and just said I wanted to be transparent, not wanting to make assumptions. He said he’s not. And that was all.
I called him Monday night and we talked for just a couple minutes and I didn’t hear from him at all yesterday. I honestly feel like he’s avoiding me. I know he has things going on, but he’s always at least texted…
I feel like I’ve been following his cues and matching his level of flirting/communicating. Maybe it’s because I felt really vulnerable, asking about dating other people, but now I’m afraid I came on too strong between that and maybe I flirted too much on Friday (I didn’t think I was..). We’ve talked about possibly dating (like moving toward a relationship), so I don’t think it was out of line to ask.
But it’s the only thing I can think of that I could have done wrong..
How do I handle that? I don’t want to make matters worse and become annoying. Can I fix it? What’s the deal? Do guys just start communicating less over time? We’re talking less frequently, but…why would he ask me out again if he’s losing interest? Ugh.
