Would you ever date a good friend's ex?

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Kkstarzz96 · Accepted Answer

I whole heartedly don't understand how friends and you find the same guys attractive. I've had so many different friends and we never found the same guys attractive. Of course in general a group of women can agree a guy is handsome, but not in the way where you're like omg he's dating you I want to date him or even having 1 thought of my friends boyfriend, especially because she's my friend so she's told me what he's like and if they broke up, then I would know why and hell yeah I'd make judgments on them cause she's my friend we get along but it doesn't mean we have the same mind, just mindset to do the same things for fun and like to talk about. I read this book once where I think this guy was trying to get his ex back so he reached out to her friend and if the friend agrees then yeah you'd be there to be supportive but you're also agreeing to allowing this person to contact you frquently until the goal is met. In real life, it's like you ask an exes friend can you talk to them, they'd say yes or no and they'd either say what they said and walk away or say sorry I don't get into that. You don't actually meet a friend who says sure I'll help you on the weekends and after school or work to come up with a plan to get my friend back with you, that's only in movies.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

That's one of those unspoken rules: even if you're the perfect match, you don't date your friend's ex. Even if they swear they're over their ex, we ALL know the minute they see you dating said ex, especially if you two last longer, it's going to cause some animosity between the friendship. No thanks.

Thankfully, I don't have any female friends, so if one of my guy friends exes wanted to date me, I'd be very concerned, haha.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I did only once, but it was a year after they broke up and he had moved away, so there was no chance of him ever seeing us together, and zero chance of them ever getting back together.

I wouldn't date someone who a close friend had dated without talking to him first if he was still around. That's just rude.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Probably not. I try to hold on to my friends, not drive them away from me.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Absolutely not! That crosses girl-code!
Even with consent of the friend, or if they ended on good terms, it is wrong in my opinion. I like to share my relationship details with my friends, and I’m sure my friend wouldn’t want to hear about it.

AwesomeCookie · Answer

Never. It is not worth the drama

Apulu_3 · Answer

I don't have any female friends currently and my best friend isn't a gay so of course this won't happen to me as I am not a lebisian that I will date his ex girlfriend. However if such situation happens then no I won't. He was my friend's EX for a reason and surely I'm not having a bad person as friend that they will be in wrong side. However if their break up happened for innocent reasons like loosing feelings or something which didn't had anyone's fault then and if I have feelings for her EX then maybe I will date. My friend won't get hurted too as no one was at fault. Also I won't have a friend who will break up for light reasons so I'm sure that she won't have feelings for him afterwards.

KatieGotMail · Answer

If they broke up bc he was cruel or he cheated or smth hell no. If he broke her heart he’ll no. If I never liked him in the first place ( as her boyfriend), duh. No
BUT if they broke up bc of a mutual falling out of love, and there were no hard feelings between the two, then I don’t see the problem with somewhere down the line dating a friends ex.
If there were hard feelings than obviously not. Funny enough, a lot of my friends have told me I would have been a better fit for their exes than they were. -not in a bad way. Just in a we had more shared interests way

DizzyDesii · Answer

I dont do friends anymore for a reason lol. I can’t promise i won't do what my past friends once did to me. But i do have certain people that I made a pact with that I will never want their exes. there's too many fish in the sea to be riding the leftovers of someone you know

ahmetakkaya · Answer

There is no black and white answer to this question – it depends on the situation. If you and your friend have already talked about it and agreed that it's okay for you to date each other's exes, then go for it! But if you're not sure how your friend would feel about it, it's probably best to steer clear. After all, you don't want to ruin your friendship over a romantic relationship.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

NEVER, unless it was totally okay with her first! And even then, it is still very dangerous! So many things could go wrong, also I just dont think i could be with a guy once he had slept with my good friend, it would just be too weird! I guess under exactly the right circumstances, and even then there had better be a very long time between their break-up and the start of you dating! Talk about fraught with danger! ⚠️ ⛔️ 🤯

Shiningtempest · Answer

@desconhecida Dating a good friend's ex will destroy the close bond I have with that person. Thus, I will turn down a date from my friend's ex even if she's financially independent & has an established career.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Only if:
1) She was okay with it
2) They broke up for reasons such as them simply not being the right people for each other and moved on maturely.

Even if she was okay with it I would not get with a guy who maliciously hurt her, or cheated etc

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Never. I’ve had it happen to me though and it was the most painful betrayal I’ve ever gone through as an adult. Don’t be a Cassie, be a Maddy. 🙏🙏 in my opinion, anyone who would willingly date a friend’s ex was never a friend in the first place. It is a selfish, sneaky thing to do. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

TheMVPofGaG · Answer

I used to think it was fine because nobody is anyone's property, but it's beyond that, as no matter what, it usually is an awkward situation that usually results in a bad ending. I think friends are to be valued and that's the most important thing, so no.

bananamber · Answer

Yes. Have done before and I really don't care if they don't like it. If they're broken up, they're broken up. Now of course if there is something still between them, then I will refrain because who wants to date someone still in love with their ex? Now that's a recipe for disaster.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah I have, it was called School.

we pretty much dated a huge mix of people, you could date one girl one week, then a week later her friend, then your mate was dating your ex, then you dated his ex etc.

i worked with 2 guys who eventually married each other’s ex wives, good bit of time etc between each.

OddBeMe · Answer

I have, but I was also good friends with her. And I made sure to get his blessing. Took him a few days to say yes, which was more than reasonable. He was dating some other chick anyway.

But wading in the middle of relationship drama, even broken ones, can be dangerous. Tread carefully and openly, is my advice.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

I wouldn’t ever do it if the person was truly my friend, however, most people don’t know what friends are, so, if she wasn’t truly my friend, then there’s no code to break. Lol

anniisa97 · Answer

Nah, my friends date unattractive guys. But no even if they didn't, I wouldn't do that. I'm not that desperate that I need to take one of my friends exes to feel worthy of love.

NathanDavis · Answer

one of my close friends'... never one of my good friends'... I really doubt it one of an acquaintances'... maybe, depends on the circumstances

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

No. I would never even look at someone I knew my friend dated or was involved with that way. Chics before dicks mate.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

hell Nah. Once I catch wind that the person is an ex of a friend of mine. I become instantly dry down there and turn off my attraction to them.

mb120101 · Answer

If he gave me permission I would, I wouldn’t do that behind a friends back

MrCommodore · Answer

No, never, it's something I would avoid like plague.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I would not, unless it was like a soulmate situation and even then I would talk to my friend about it first.

The1Girl · Answer

No, I wouldn't do that. Sisters before blisters and all that.

Elliegirl · Answer

Girl code- Friends don’t date friends exes without her permission.

LingyRolls · Answer

If she was okay with it and I was into him. Why not.

sissyalexa · Answer

Definitely! A partner will always mean more than a mate to me 🥰

WalkingInTheRain7 · Answer

Eh... I don't know, that's a touchy subject. It would really depend on the person or the situation.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends on who the friend was and why they broke up.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I value our friendship more than a ex that clearly wasn't good enough for my friend.

imjustadude · Answer

Sounds complicated. Might hit it and quit it before moving to a different time zone.

Avicenna · Answer

No, my male friends have very different tastes in women than I do

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably not. I feel like that would be inconsiderate. My loyalty to my friends is more important to me than any benefit of a potential romance.

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

I fucked a girls sister before if that counts I was just her side guy and her sister didn’t know we knew each other and had already been having sex I did though

humanearth · Answer

I did worse, I stolen my friends girl.  That back in the late 1980s,

Phoenix98 · Answer

I have but only because certain circumstances that won’t be replicated allowed for it.

skyeee_ · Answer

it depends on the reason why they broke up. because if the ex cheated i wouldn't wanna be with him

exitseven · Answer

I would if he was done with her. I might talk to him about it first.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not likely. Not a serious ex. If only been a few dates then maybe at a push, if mate was OK with it

Anonymous · Answer

No. If they do, they were never your friend to begin with. HAS EUPHORIA NOT TAUGHT y'all ANYTHING? Hello? We’re talking about a “Cassie” here.

krin_m · Answer

Most probably not. IF he is a good friend, I would have an idea of what went wrong with them and there will be too many conflicts of interest. But then, who knows how the matters of heart work! :-)

skytatoe · Answer

Not if they had a real realtionship. If there were deep feelings involved, fuck no.

ragooo8 · Answer

Not without their consent as you risk a friendship if for instance he still loves her.

annabananna · Answer

No I wouldn’t. There are way too many other guys to choose from.

Guslove · Answer

Kinda yea I didn’t want him to find out because I didn’t want it to affect our friendship we had been buddies since grade school. It didn’t last long I don’t think it would have worked out anyway…..

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

No I'd be too grossed out. Just thing been in her 🤢🤮

Anonymous · Answer

I would best that pussy up like it was nobody’s business to but mine… and whomever it is that your swollen and yearning for you should let’em… if not not I’ll care for your little body so good…

Hulk30 · Answer

yea provided i knew their thing was over and done so i wouldn't look like a fake ass opportunist friend

MrJMM · Answer

Nah! Ex’s are not good. We stay away from them until the bitter end.

IsoUser · Answer

To be perfectly honest I would discuss with friend first.

jirwin7979 · Answer

no way thats like crushing friendship with a 500mile wide astroid

DangItBobby · Answer

Some things are just off limits, there’s plenty of other people. Why even bother?

nik4play · Answer

Why not? I don't think it would matter. If you like someone, you like someone

Fillipo1 · Answer

Maybe. But it will depend on the circumstances behind their breakup.

aileenleon58 · Answer

Depends on their relationship and if the friends okay and other stuff

Anonymous · Answer

Nope!!! Never unless I get the go ahead and everyone is on good terms

Anonymous · Answer

That's low-key distasteful, but if your friend is ok with it, you do you

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the circumstance and not without their knowledge.

Aurora1010 · Answer

No, I don't think that would be a good idea

RobT312 · Answer

As long as she really is an ex.

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