I whole heartedly don't understand how friends and you find the same guys attractive. I've had so many different friends and we never found the same guys attractive. Of course in general a group of women can agree a guy is handsome, but not in the way where you're like omg he's dating you I want to date him or even having 1 thought of my friends boyfriend, especially because she's my friend so she's told me what he's like and if they broke up, then I would know why and hell yeah I'd make judgments on them cause she's my friend we get along but it doesn't mean we have the same mind, just mindset to do the same things for fun and like to talk about. I read this book once where I think this guy was trying to get his ex back so he reached out to her friend and if the friend agrees then yeah you'd be there to be supportive but you're also agreeing to allowing this person to contact you frquently until the goal is met. In real life, it's like you ask an exes friend can you talk to them, they'd say yes or no and they'd either say what they said and walk away or say sorry I don't get into that. You don't actually meet a friend who says sure I'll help you on the weekends and after school or work to come up with a plan to get my friend back with you, that's only in movies.
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That's one of those unspoken rules: even if you're the perfect match, you don't date your friend's ex. Even if they swear they're over their ex, we ALL know the minute they see you dating said ex, especially if you two last longer, it's going to cause some animosity between the friendship. No thanks.
Thankfully, I don't have any female friends, so if one of my guy friends exes wanted to date me, I'd be very concerned, haha.
I did only once, but it was a year after they broke up and he had moved away, so there was no chance of him ever seeing us together, and zero chance of them ever getting back together.
I wouldn't date someone who a close friend had dated without talking to him first if he was still around. That's just rude.
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Probably not. I try to hold on to my friends, not drive them away from me.
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Absolutely not! That crosses girl-code!
Even with consent of the friend, or if they ended on good terms, it is wrong in my opinion. I like to share my relationship details with my friends, and I’m sure my friend wouldn’t want to hear about it.Never. It is not worth the drama
I don't have any female friends currently and my best friend isn't a gay so of course this won't happen to me as I am not a lebisian that I will date his ex girlfriend. However if such situation happens then no I won't. He was my friend's EX for a reason and surely I'm not having a bad person as friend that they will be in wrong side. However if their break up happened for innocent reasons like loosing feelings or something which didn't had anyone's fault then and if I have feelings for her EX then maybe I will date. My friend won't get hurted too as no one was at fault. Also I won't have a friend who will break up for light reasons so I'm sure that she won't have feelings for him afterwards.
If they broke up bc he was cruel or he cheated or smth hell no. If he broke her heart he’ll no. If I never liked him in the first place ( as her boyfriend), duh. No
BUT if they broke up bc of a mutual falling out of love, and there were no hard feelings between the two, then I don’t see the problem with somewhere down the line dating a friends ex.
If there were hard feelings than obviously not. Funny enough, a lot of my friends have told me I would have been a better fit for their exes than they were. -not in a bad way. Just in a we had more shared interests wayI dont do friends anymore for a reason lol. I can’t promise i won't do what my past friends once did to me. But i do have certain people that I made a pact with that I will never want their exes. there's too many fish in the sea to be riding the leftovers of someone you know
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There is no black and white answer to this question – it depends on the situation. If you and your friend have already talked about it and agreed that it's okay for you to date each other's exes, then go for it! But if you're not sure how your friend would feel about it, it's probably best to steer clear. After all, you don't want to ruin your friendship over a romantic relationship.
NEVER, unless it was totally okay with her first! And even then, it is still very dangerous! So many things could go wrong, also I just dont think i could be with a guy once he had slept with my good friend, it would just be too weird! I guess under exactly the right circumstances, and even then there had better be a very long time between their break-up and the start of you dating! Talk about fraught with danger! ⚠️ ⛔️ 🤯
@Desconhecida Dating a good friend's ex will destroy the close bond I have with that person. Thus, I will turn down a date from my friend's ex even if she's financially independent & has an established career.
Only if:
1) She was okay with it
2) They broke up for reasons such as them simply not being the right people for each other and moved on maturely.
Even if she was okay with it I would not get with a guy who maliciously hurt her, or cheated etcNever. I’ve had it happen to me though and it was the most painful betrayal I’ve ever gone through as an adult. Don’t be a Cassie, be a Maddy. 🙏🙏 in my opinion, anyone who would willingly date a friend’s ex was never a friend in the first place. It is a selfish, sneaky thing to do. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
I used to think it was fine because nobody is anyone's property, but it's beyond that, as no matter what, it usually is an awkward situation that usually results in a bad ending. I think friends are to be valued and that's the most important thing, so no.
Yes. Have done before and I really don't care if they don't like it. If they're broken up, they're broken up. Now of course if there is something still between them, then I will refrain because who wants to date someone still in love with their ex? Now that's a recipe for disaster.
Yeah I have, it was called School.
we pretty much dated a huge mix of people, you could date one girl one week, then a week later her friend, then your mate was dating your ex, then you dated his ex etc.
i worked with 2 guys who eventually married each other’s ex wives, good bit of time etc between each.I have, but I was also good friends with her. And I made sure to get his blessing. Took him a few days to say yes, which was more than reasonable. He was dating some other chick anyway.
But wading in the middle of relationship drama, even broken ones, can be dangerous. Tread carefully and openly, is my advice.I wouldn’t ever do it if the person was truly my friend, however, most people don’t know what friends are, so, if she wasn’t truly my friend, then there’s no code to break. Lol
Nah, my friends date unattractive guys. But no even if they didn't, I wouldn't do that. I'm not that desperate that I need to take one of my friends exes to feel worthy of love.
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one of my close friends'... never
one of my good friends'... I really doubt it
one of an acquaintances'... maybe, depends on the circumstances No. I would never even look at someone I knew my friend dated or was involved with that way. Chics before dicks mate.
hell Nah. Once I catch wind that the person is an ex of a friend of mine. I become instantly dry down there and turn off my attraction to them.
If he gave me permission I would, I wouldn’t do that behind a friends back
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