What turns you off when you've just started texting with someone?

[melanieeeB]

Today some dude texted me on insta and asked me out for dinner after work.
I wanted to say yes but I was just really tired, I couldn't sleep last night. So I told him just that and that I just want to go home.

I went home, took a nap, cooked etc and now I checked my insta (my notifications are off) and Ughh I hate does desperate texts like so you gonna just leave me eat alone? Why are you not answering? Are you even still alive? etc... It's just so damn unattractive!

When I see stuff like that or someone who replies always immediately and seems to be on the phone all the time, or someone who is directly sexual.. I immediately turn them down and stop the contact and conversation. It's awful to me.

[Apulu_3]

When the things are directed to sexual convos. Some girl on here even texted me asking about masturbation and all. I just block the person when they talk about sexual things when I clearly say I'm uncomfortable. And frequent texts too when we both know that we have got nothing to talk about. It's difficult to hold up a conversation that way. I also don't like when people randomly text me and when I ask them what do they want to say then they don't really have a topic to converse on. I find it annoying because I don't really have an idea on how to start conversations with people I don't know properly. I like it when a person talks about appropriate topic and doesn't leaves on me that job of starting the conversation because I'm bad in it incase I don't know the person.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol why do you not thing guys won't have feelings , lol he was excited for the date that's all.

If it was the reverse in his shoes you would still say i don't like guys who would not respond immediately to my every message.

I could never understand how some women could be such hypocrites.

Lol these are the same people who are calling guys as desperate would cry about of they were in there shoes and justify themselves with dignity.

Well men are also not robots they can asks questions what would had have happened if you later responded in one text or just said not in the mood today will plan someother time.

By this response you could assure him as well that you are intrested .

Men are not mind readers when will ladies understand this 😌

[melanieeeB]

I did assure him back but he then went off

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Did you say that you will plan someother time?

[Guy13]

I hear 👂 ya and there is nothing more ugly than Self-me, myself, and I NEEDS right from the beginning. How can one of that sort take care/manage another’s heart… Obviously, they can’t manage themselves.—-My friends (guys now) are as bad. If they aren’t whining like a woman then they are speaking as if in guys Futbol lockeroom to a woman 🤷🏻‍♂️.
-You obviously have lots of confused men in both “East” and “Western” parts too. We do here as well with all the feminization and loss of gentlemen training.
-“more buzzing 🐝 with honey 🍯 than when spouting vinegar gets blank stairs.
🤷🏻‍♂️

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

Oh yeah, I can't stand that either and was actually going to list that as one of the things that turn me off during texting a person. Since in addition to what you shared, for me it rings a red flag in my head that the person is clingy and... I have yet to be proven wrong.

Another one for me is the whole texting a simple, "hey" or "hi" truly do not understand why people have not gotten the hint that no one like this! Its annoying as hell and lacks substance. I get these on my IG from time to time and dont bother replying.

One wonders as a reply. Just no.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Texting itself, when a phone call/real conversation is more personal.. But also, when they start talking too sexual too soon..
And I'm the opposite with the getting back to someone... Someone initiates the text, you reply back, then they take hours/days to reply back. If they were "too busy" to talk, why'd they text in the first place🤷🏼‍♀️

[jennifer_bloom]

If they never offer sympathy to something I say or if they are not committed to our conversations such as a sporadic and unpredictable texting schedule.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't have extended text discussions. If she is a potential romantic interest, I talk with her on the phone.

[SweetFyter]

I don't really use my phone for texting (my parents can access pretty much everything, I think). But when I'm on a website or chat, I do LOVE to have conversations and I think I'm pretty open about stuff.

BUT...

When the third text is something like, "Do you have any naked pics" or "What do you wear to bed" or stuff like that - I just block them. What makes ANYONE think ANYONE would talk about personal stuff right away like that? Someone who would do that, in my mind, doesn't care WHO I am at ALL. All he cares about is WHAT I am - female. I don't MIND talking about sexual stuff - I actually think it's pretty interesting the way guys thing versus how we think - but that's NOT the first topic just like it's NOT the first topic when you meet someone in person.

And, don't hate me, but when people cannot express themselves well enough in writing for me to understand them - then what's the point? That's not being mean, it's just that I can't enjoy talking (texting) with someone whose messages I have to GUESS at because of their improper grammar and spelling and such.

[Gigi2019]

This person sounds super immature, needy, annoying and selfish. If you like him regardless of his off-putting behavior, try to explain to him that you are a person and that you require your personal space. I wouldn't bother trying to explain anything to this child and I would just block him. Your call, of course.

[melanieeeB]

I did explain him and never talked to tim again lol This was the first time he texted me and then this shiit.. naaah I'm out😂

[Still-alive]

i get most of that... however

" someone who replies always immediately "

i HATE that this is a negative against people now. i sometimes have to deliberately wait a few minutes to not give the impression that im desperate or something. some people just reply quickly. why is this such a big deal?

[Ghostluck]

It's not, and if they make it a big deal, run like hell. if somebody feels that my genuine interest in them is a bad thing because I am interested enough not to keep them hanging when they text me, that tells me everything I need to know about them and I run like hell. It tells me they are highly stuck on themselves, and that is a huge turnoff.

[melanieeeB]

Like when there is a conversation going on , it's totally fine !
I meant when every single time when there is an immediate response, it's as if the person does nothing the whole day instead of sitting on their phone

[Ghostluck]

Considering this day and age, a phone is pretty much attached to your hip, it's understandable that it would appear that way. However, you have to consider that most people these days always has their phone within earshot. So although it may appear like they are just sitting on their phone, chances are, they are not. They simply just aren't trying to disrespect you by not replying within a reasonable time frame because they don't want you thinking that they aren't that interested, when in fact they are interested. This goes back to when I was talking about expectations. People have ridiculous expectations and it puts us in a position where we just stop caring about expectations. That's not a good thing, but that is indeed what ends up happening.

[CrazyGirl2]

The big one for me is the guy who immediately makes it sexual! I honestly can’t think of anything that can turn me off quicker than
Him: Hey Laura
me: hey, its joe right?
Him: Yeah, you’ll never forget me once you see my 8 inch cock… TRUST ME!
me: Okay, well you have fun with that bye 👋🏼

[TwinkleLily5]

A person who asks me WYD
short replies like K, Yes,
No reply
Reply’s after an hour
Selective to which texts they reply to
Super long texts
Texting to often
Someone who constantly sends pictures
Sexual texts from someone you don’t know
Scam sexual texts from bots

[Little_Bumblebee]

I agree with the first one when they keep texting you, poking you when you don't reply to them immediately as if you're not allowed to have a life, or do something besides being on your phone.
It's so unattractive. I get it if you need a fast response because of something time-sensitive, or something, but besides that... relax, please.

Also, if they keep going back to the same topic so a conversation just goes in a loop, or they cannot talk about anything but sex stuff.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Needy guys, that get pushing when you barely know them is annoying.

I text a lot, just like I chat a lot here in DM's but I'm not instant, but I always do get around to responding unless the last thing said was a conversation ender.

I'm often working, sleeping, cooking, or driving or riding all of which I can't text and do at the same time.

[NathanDavis]

I don't know... I still meet people in person, we don't do much texting... so by the time we're messaging each other, we already have met fairly enough in person, so the texting doesn't feel like "let's see how it goes" but that's my experience... lol

[DizzyDesii]

I like deep meaningful conversations. Even if its just about hobbies, i want to hear him express how he's passionate about something. I hate when someone takes too long to reply or gives one word answers. If its someone i’m not dating, its whateve. But when dating, its different

[Tiptoetamm]

When they tell me they love me immediately. That shit spooks me away so fast. I also don't like possessive texting non stop asking where I am. I'm an independent woman I won't go andaybwothout talking to you relax clingy men turn me off big time

[melanieeeB]

Ohh yeah that one too! I forgot about that shit lol

[JSmuve]

Girls who are boring and don't know how to have a conversation or flirtGirls who don't bother getting to know meGirls who take forever to respond. Like I know your phone is pretty much glued to your hand. If you're not going to put in effort, then obviously you're not interested enough. Girls who are prudesGirls who go on about their exes or talk about their emotional issues

[moonpie89]

I'm the exact same way. It would turn me off. I will keep messaging him though if everything else is fine. I get turned off by weird sexual questions in the beginning. I hate when a guy makes assumptions about me right away based on the type of girls he dated. Conversations in the beginning should be fun and flirty.

[Ghostluck]

A guy can't win, he texts back too soon, he's desperate. If he waits five damn minutes, he's ignoring you. Us guys just get tired of playing by the woman's "rules" and we just do whatever the hell we feel like. If you run, you run, bye. For me, if a chick runs, that's on her. Especially if she runs before she even knows anything about me. Then, 2 months later when she is complaining about how no guy treats her right, I just start laughing my rear end off.

It's a twisted game of expectations. I don't play the game of expectations very well. That game will chase me off if I don't chase you off first. Either way it goes, it's going to end.

[IDontBelieveIt]

yes well said too many play games seen women behave like this many times now they can f off I never believe females now when they say they been treated bad, a lot of the older generation say the younger females dont know when they have it good I know its not everyone but I need to see good now as losing hope very quickly

[Kaneki05]

Hmm never really come across stuff that does, never talked to anyone that annoying in text. Think I would be lucky to get someone desperate for me lol.
Though I can see why it's annoying and understand why that is bad.

[Sour-rose]

"Whaddya wearin'?"

"So are you single or married? Have any kids?"

*leads up to a dick pig with a winky face*

:)... mofos don't know who da fuk they talkin' to.

[desidoll]

There are a few for me:
1) too needy
2) pretend to have a decent convo then to turn it into something sexual
3) play stupid mind game by acting like they ghost me then when they lost the game, they get mad

[Squaresquirrel]

My turn off is texting on the whole. Just call me! If you are not willing to do that, we are not looking for each other.
Or text me to ask when would be good to call.