I (16F) am scared to break up with my boyfriend that treats me like shit and I need advice? (Page 2)

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I (16F) and my boyfriend (16M) have been together for almost a year and I’m having a few troubles. For the first bit, he was fine and nice to me but he’s slowly started to change and it’s getting too much.  I’ll list a few things:  He makes hurtful jokes and I’ve been saying for ages that I’m not okay with them. He jokes about how I look, how I act, etc. he jokes that I have no friends, that dogs aren’t friends and mean stuff like that. He was telling his friends the other day that I’m not quite with it.  He has little respect of my mum and me. We are not allowed in my room alone (because my mum doesn’t trust him) and every time I go into my room quickly, he follows me (knowing this rule). Then harasses me into kissing him, hugging him and constantly tries to grab me against my wishes. I was on face time with him while he was playing a video game, talking online with his friends and he muted himself. I thought that was weird because he never does that that. I asked him what he said and he didn’t tell me at first, but I pushed. He told his friends that we had sex (which we haven’t). I explained how disrespectful that is but he just didn’t get it.  He started thinking guys were paying me attention, so he was constantly trying to tell me what I wasn’t allowed to wear. He would make me show him my outfits, proceed to slut shame me and then tell me I need to change. I never did.  I asked him if I could show him a funny youtube video on his phone and he refused to let me and then started deleting all his search history. My mum and cousin don’t particularly like him so he talks shit about them. Whenever I try talk to him about what he’s doing, he deflects and blames me.  I think to break up with him. The thing is, I’m scared. I’m deathly afraid of making the wrong choice - breaking up with him and regretting it. I don’t want to go through the hurt and the sadness. I don’t think I’m ready.  Should I? And how do I get over the fear of hurt and possibly of mistake?

JoyGirl · Answer

You should. He is hurting you and doesn’t seem to care…

bowenw · Answer

It seems clear you should break up. He can be disrespectful and you aren't happy.

noohair · Answer

If you don't respect yourself, why should he. You are young, you don't need an assho! e boyfriend. That is what I would tell my daughter.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I think it's time to start being very busy and do not have time for him. Concentrate on your studies as an excuse.

crmoore · Answer

The relationship sounds incredibly unhealthy. I definitely suggest you break up.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Deserve better than that so break up with him and do you

Zygum · Answer

Boyfriend is for sex, if you don't like, then break off, so that he can find other girlfriend

SignedAutographs · Answer

Shouldn't be dating at that age anyway

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