Girls, after you made the first move and approached him.. was it worth it? Did he meet your expectations?

[Anonymous]

I wanna approach a guy I really like but people say the guy will find you an easy catch and use you.. Or even find you desperate and turn you down.. Based on your experience.. What happened? I Need to know before I make my decision.. no judge of course 😊

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Okay people i need experience not vague scenarios...

[Sorn40]

One woman I dated for awhile finally asked me out because she got tired of me making a move.

To be honest, I wanted to but I wasn't exactly sure if she was interested in me. We went out for awhile and I made some mistakes with that relationship and it's over now but sometimes I regret I didn't stay with her.

Oh, and one other woman I felt was trying to ask me out besides the first one I listed here. I was not interested in that woman. I tried to let her down easily though as I felt what she was doing was brave.

If women asked me out, I would consider it. I'm also at a point in life where I don't want any more games.

[Anonymous]

"the guy will find you an easy catch and use you.. Or even find you desperate and turn you down" - "people", probably all women right? lol While there could be some guys (but if so, those are the type that would have NO respect for you period, even if you didn't ask them out, in which case you don't want those guys anyway hopefully). I know a lot of guys (and personally as well) would LOVE to be asked out, and even if I wasn't interested, would love to be asked. And quite the opposite, I'd have immediate RESPECT for her courage to approach me. I'm always telling women on here they need to do more approaching! Especially the ones that complain they can't find anybody, but don't do any.

[Opinion Owner]

I say approach him. Or at least "help" with that process, like going up to him and trying to make conversation. Showing interest.

[devilish-cutie]

go for it, a right guy would appreciate it, wrong would have an issue about it
but dont do all the work, he gotta meet you to some extent

[Asker]

Okay I need experience... Did you ever do it? How did it turn out?

[devilish-cutie]

yes mroe times, well it went ok, they went on a date with me but some would think you are easy
first what i wrote is based on my experience

[Asker]

Just ok? And some of them do find you easy? Mix that with what the guys Said.. It doesn't seem very encouraging...

[devilish-cutie]

well it is better to let the man do it but there are no strict rules or guarantees and it totally depends on the man
I personally prefer to go for what i want and dont like to waste my time waitng on a guy cause he may take forever
but i always make sure that effort is mutual. Eg. if i asked him on a date first, i expect him to ask for a second

[Asker]

Hmmmm

[Кураж]

Only desperate men will find desperate women attractive, but even then it isn't a guarantee.
The chances of a woman succeeding in making the first move are, in my opinion, very low.
It would never work on me personally, that's for sure.

[Asker]

I don't understand.. You're saying that any woman who approaches is automatically desperate?

[Кураж]

Sure seems that way to me.

[Asker]

Oh i see... Do you notice that other guys agree on that too?

[Кураж]

It's true that plenty of men would appreciate a woman to make the first move.
Except, those men are mostly schizoid dolts who can't or won't make the first move themselves, because they either lack the confidence and social skills or have given up and grown embittered due to failures of their own.
Such men want to be approached because it would be easy, it wouldn't mean yet another rejection for them; if the woman does the work for them it's the "ideal scenario".

Now the problem is, do you as woman actually want to approach and succeed with men such as those?
Ask yourself why a man who likes you would not make the first move, and count how many reasons you can come up with that would not be negative.

[Asker]

You got a point

[Scintiale]

Awesome answer

[Honesttguy]

Approach in a way to not come off as desperate and needy, now u see challange guys face when they have to approach women.
All those "weird guys" doesn't mean they are weird they just fuked up when approached you.

[moviedude714]

Why do I get the feeling it will forever be rare for women to approach a guy or for a woman to be the initiator when it comes to starting a relationship with a guy, I just don't see that ever becoming more common

[Anonymous]

If this is your concern you're really not ready for a relationship anyhow.

[Scintiale]

Dont do it.

[Asker]

Really? Why exactly?

[Scintiale]

Its the mans role to pursue. Do you want to be a man?

[Asker]

Okay I hear you