How does one keep an open heart?

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I’m at the point I want to give up on dating and relationships.. I am tired of investing and trying to meet people. I I came to this place in the past and again 8 years ago. Between the mind games , playing games, bs with dating, and drama I’m beyond tired of it. It’s not even about being patience it’s about protecting my sanity and health..

From my observation the dating world is extremely toxic exclusively with online dating being there are a lot of broken people online.

I had people tell me not to close off , I’m not closed off I don’t have time for the stress of dating anymore.. my mental and emotional health won’t allow it.. it’s peaceful when your by yourself and don’t have to deal with the stress of people or their baggage.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

This level of self unawareness is rather typical. You're simply un-date-able.
You've spent the last decade spurning perfectly good prospects, always opting for what you thought was the edgy hardcore guy. Then you blame it on them. Also typical.

And based on your question, no man will want you. You'll die alone and lonely. Hope you like cats.

I will also tell you that when you hit the wall at forty, your prospects shrink even further, to near nill. It's just not gonna happen. Short of some kind of come-to-jesus moment.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Do what I do: Give up looking for someone, but don't give up the possibility of it happening. I think of finding a good woman like winning the lottery: Extremely unlikely, but not impossible.

Honestly, it's easy to date if you're a woman. Dating is only hard if you're an unattractive and/or not-tall man. If you're female though, all you got to do is not pick douchebags.

ohshee · Answer

An open heart means you can see and feel both side a closed heart is when it's all about you no matter what me me me my way bla bla you dont judge. You let it happen to experience and learn him to. some guys only know one thing one way. And if they mess up they get are embarrassed about it if you let a guy grow didn't you doing that with an open heart and with understanding
I'm sorry you never experienced this before in your life but this isn't the way that it should happen at least for me and let him know that it goes both ways you have to understand most guys most men don't know what the fuck they're doing because they've never taken the time to learn they were never taught they've never experienced it by seeing their parents do it
And when that happens if the girl is spoiled and she only wants what she wants and it's never going to go anywhere

DavidRaul · Answer

Well you are somewhat exactly right. I have been doing the online dating for a long time and never have been able to find a good match. Its hard for me to socialize due to my situation, so online dating was the last shot. You really get fed up with the whole scenario at one point. But still don't loose hope:)

Juxtapose · Answer

In order to get anything good in life you're going to have to be willing to get uncomfortable and be her. If this is too hard for you then you're not cut out for it.

I would know, since I'm not trying hard enough and I still don't have a life partner yet.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Generally I alternative between being open to romance and taking time to work on myself. When you're getting tired of one yoi switch.

jimmy2 · Answer

Well when you let go that when a man of your dreams comes

boggboss · Answer

But if u are happy single stay single

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