I told him I don't want kids but he came back anyways?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy, me and him were going good until the topic of having kids came up, he wants kids and I don't and it was a major clash between us.. So he took my number and didn't reply for a couple of days I thought he wasn't interested and took my number so I wouldn't feel bad or something.. But he recently just texted me saying he wanted to talk.. What do you think he really wants?
I'm 30 and he is 41...

[Berethor]

It's likely that now he want you for a casual relationship, nothing more.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NotWantingKidsIsWeird

[TommyMountainFigure]

When you say 'going good,' how far into the relationship exactly are you in? 20 or 30 minutes? It's a bit soon to even discuss kids is it not?

[Asker]

He was the one to bring it up.. And he said he needed and wanted kids and I told him I'm not up for it and I was clear..

[TommyMountainFigure]

It should be no great loss to you then if you've only just started talking.. right?

[Asker]

No its not.. But what does he want?

[TommyMountainFigure]

It sounds like he wants kids with you, and for you to change your mind on the subject

[Asker]

That's the least I want from him and I wish he didn't text me then..

[TommyMountainFigure]

Indeed!

[xiaolian]

You have a age gap he is looking for someone young I can tell you.