Is there something morally wrong/gross/creepy about someone who's 30 dating someone who's 19? If so, what's wrong with that?

[Anonymous]

I can see why there might be issues in terms of not getting along with each other because they are in different stages of their lives, but I'm wondering, do you think there's something morally wrong or creepy about this?

Nothing wrong

Kinda wrong

Completely wrong

[Zweihander9005]

I read an answer to this question a long time ago that really stuck with me. It said these sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships can be based on love: The sugar daddy loves the sugar baby because she’s the only person that doesn’t judge him. While everyone else is talking about how much of a piece of shit he is, the sugar baby is there to show him the love that he needs.

As for the sugar baby she loves the sugar daddy for the same reason, he’s not judging her for being financially dependent. That and he gives her a lifestyle that she probably wouldn’t have experienced from a younger man. It’s not just purely sexual like most people like to assume, these people have a need for love that society won’t let them have.

[slatyb]

The 30-year-olds who got on teenagers are usually rather immature. They hit on very young women because women close to their age won't date them. I've known three young women that married men about 30 and it was a disaster for all three.

[Anonymous]

It's kinda weird. They're both consenting adults, but I'd be a little worried that the 19 year old is being manipulated. The 19 year old isn't being manipulated in any way, then I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong, although it might just be a poor relationship due to maturity differences.

[ColHathi]

^This. 👌

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was 31 I met a 20 year old I thought was good looking and I felt like a disgusting sicko for finding a guy that young physically attractive and I never tried to date him.

[bean2k21]

I dated an 18 yr old when I was 39. I used to throw a big pile of money on the bed and bang her on it.

[Asker]

How was the experience? Would you do it again?

[bean2k21]

Banging an 18 yr old on a big pile of money is the worst feeling ever.

[Iron_Man]

Whats the problem I had a 19-year-old girlfriend when I was 31 We really hit it off

[Asker]

Nice. What were some things that you thought were better or worse about being with someone with that much age difference? Or do you think it's all the same?

[Iron_Man]

Prime timo on beauty more motivation more energy more positive thinking. The downside was there was no downside just a little bit of insecurities for the younger person

[Iron_Man]

Typo I mean prime time

[Asker]

awesome! thanks for the input

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with it. But statistically speaking if the age gap is greater than 9 years. The odds of success falls off dramatically.
So it's up to those involved. There's NOTHING wrong with it. But the odds of success are NOT in their favor.

[bamesjond0069]

"I can see why there might be issues in terms of not getting along with each other because they are in different stages of their lives,..."

Why does everyone keep saying this? In superficial ways sure but in actual life circumstances its opposite. A man and woman at age 32 both superficially have things in common but are not in the same life stage at all.

[HighValue]

It depends. If the older person has kids within 15 years or closer of their younger mate's age then I think it is bad, but if they have no kids then it is fine.

[MTC29]

We are talking about 11 years. If the woman was 59 and the guy was age 70, would you be so bent out of shape?

[SnakeBoop]

its that gray area of kind of "grooming" territory.

[kinggeorge007]

It's alright. I wouldn't do that myself but I wouldn't say it's wrong. My parents are 9.5 years apart. They are doing alright. They married when my dad is 34. So it should be alright.

[TheLoneTerran]

If they are both consenting adults, it's none of anyone's business.

[ChooChooHaha]

As long as it's all consensual, and you guys are that age exactly, why's it wrong?

[jahaims]

I would just assume the older person is either immature for their age or manipulating the younger person for sex

[Asker]

and if you're not making that assumption, is there something morally wrong?

[Esperanto]

Why can't you get a 33 year old, is there something wrong with you. Of course if he is 19 he just wants you for sex. You know that, right?

[Asker]

This is a hypothetical situation. I personally would much much rather date someone closer to my age, but I'm just thinking, what if I'm at the workplace with someone much younger than me, but we just so happen to be really attracted to each other and even beyond the physical. I don't think this is that uncommon because if you're working with someone, you're seeing him/her all the time and feelings could grow.

[EnglishEuropean]

It's a little unusual but you're both adults in the eyes of the law.

[Anonymous]

Why do younger women go after older guys all the time? It happens to me on a regular basis.

[clemdenim]

Not at all

[Redstang88]

That’s pushing it