Can a girl message a guy first?

[Anonymous]

My friend (female) told me over a couple of months ago that she has a guy for me to meet. We've since had multiple occasions where it didn't work out. He and I are now Facebook friends and I realized we're not total strangers. We've crossed paths on a dating app, worked together briefly a few years back, found out his mom was in my parent's wedding, and many years ago crossed paths for the first time. He's told our mutual friend he'd like to meet me, but her and I have very opposite schedules so it keeps not happening. With all this info, would it be weird for me to message him? Or should I wait for him to decide to reach out? I've always heard the guy should initiate, but this is a bit different.

[TenkRealist]

Dude. Just reach out. What's there to lose?

[Asker]

You know the old saying, the guy should lead. Which I totally get, but I've also never understood why it matters.

[TenkRealist]

Yeah. There are also old sayings like women belong in the kitchen. Do you believe that too?

[Asker]

We're on the same page. Stereotypes are ridiculous if you ask me. Honestly, if a guy's put off by a girl messaging first, it gives off toxic masculinity vibes.

[TenkRealist]

Precisely. I see it as a great honor if a girl takes initiative. Why would I be put off? She's trying to love me, not contacting me for "tax fraud"

[Asker]

Tax fraud pickup lines need to be a thing now. Thanks for the feedback, and laugh. Have a good one!

[TenkRealist]

You 2

[Adam1978]

Of course they can.

[Asker]

In your opinion, does it look bad?

[Adam1978]

It's all depends on the content of the message. Not the act itself.

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Asker]

Yeah to which part? 🤣

[In_Trance]

I only see one part to the question

[Asker]

I didn't know if you were referring to the response below or the two questions I asked. Hard to decipher that's all.