This is a heartbreaking question. I became attached to my unborn child but now the mother wants to abort. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

I have been sad and felt betrayed in my past but not to this level of betrayal. I feel angry, sad, betrayed and confused all at once because my girlfriend who is soon to be my ex girlfriend wants to abort after she told me she was going to keep the baby. After telling me yes, celebrating, telling both our parents we were going to be parents, fast forward a month later and she changes her mind and is now planning an abortion. I asked her why she would get my hopes up, have me think of names, hold them both in my arms as we slept only to change her mind like this. She told me that she has dreams and plans for her future and doesn’t want to ruin them. I told her I would even keep the baby and raise him or her on my own and she refused.

[Wonderwhat]

Wow she's a real cold hearted bitch. You don't need someone like that in your life. There's nothing you can really do. The woman gets to choose weather the baby lives or dies. The courts will just tell you "it's her body her choice" and then she'll get the abortion. I recommend being close with your family and with people that will support.

[DarkWinterNights]

Can you offer to pay her to have the baby? You can go your separate ways and she can give up all parental responsibility? I don’t know what else you can do. Men don’t have parental rights in this country. If my partner did that to me it would destroy me.

[LazerBean]

Abortion is gross and I am completely against it. That is also why I am against people sleeping around with people who they don't know and can't trust. It's sick, but the best you can do is try to pursuade her to keep it, and be more careful where you stick your dick in the future.

[Wonderwhat]

It's not his fault. You see women complain about men that treat them like shit all the time. It's not his fault like it isn't those women's fault for picking a shitty partner. That girl he got pregnant was probably very agreeable and pretended she loved him. People are very deceptive nowadays and it's hard to who is a good person. I know bad people when I see them but I barely know what a good person looks like. I just get lucky when I meet them.

[LazerBean]

Everyone is responsible for their own actions, that includes enabling.

[Wonderwhat]

But he's still a human with emotions. He makes mistake. He's not perfect and neither are. She told his whole and him that they are going to have a baby. What kind of sick woman lies about something like that.

[Wonderwhat]

You wonder why men don't like to share their feelings and open up your attitude and lack of empathy towards his situation is exactly why. "Just watch where you stick your dick next time" where's compassion and respect for a human being suffering?

[LazerBean]

Respect for a human being suffering? A child is going to get it's brains scrambled and then sucked out of its head. All my compassion goes to the innocent child, so you will just have to excuse the fact that there is none left for him. I respect people for what they do, not how they feel.

[IJhonnyI]

@LazerBean it's not his fucking fault tho it's clearly the bitch he wants too keep she wants to Abort so no matter what blame the bitch his actions no matter what he wanted too keep the baby so he says on top so idc what point your trying to make he doesn't want that choice is that dumb ass bitch. And yea your right about blaming for what she's done not him that's were you are wrong and are speaking out of impulse so get it right cause females like you get me mad kid

[IJhonnyI]

I do agree that abortion is gross but your speaking out of impulse you gotta get that checked

[LazerBean]

Take control of your life by realizing you can stop bad things from happening to you by not being stupid ❌

Be a weak victim who blames everyone in the world except themselves for their problems because you don't want to practice self control and getting your dick wet every now and then is worth a few baby's dying anyway ✅

That's the sort of logic using your dick to think instead of your brain has gotten you.

[IJhonnyI]

Yea but according to the story you are wrong asf your being biased asf it's like your too simple minded too get it HE WANTED TOO KEEP THE BABY she didn't but you HAVE THE OVARYS TO BLAME THE MAN THIS IS WHY YOU ARE DISGRACFUL and I get it abortion is horrible but how are you gonna blame the man when she said that she wanted to have it and then she changed her mind when it's in the belly get your facts straight seriously you simple minded biased human being your probably one of these women WHO CHOOSE THE WOMEN SIDE NO MATTER HOW FUCKING WRONG THEY ARE😤 DISGRACEFUL 🤢🤮

[IJhonnyI]

There not blaming everyone in the world what THAT DUMB ASS BITCH did was her fault she can't say she wants a baby AND TOO REMIND YOUR SIMPLE MIND THE MAN IS STILL ON BOARD after she has the baby in her belly SHE doesn't WANNA KEEP IT BUT THE MAN STILL DOES but THE FEMALE BITCH IS SELFISH AND DECIDED TO ABORT IT REMIND YOU again THE MAN WANTED THIS WOMEN AND STILL WANTED THE BABY (do you get it now that I put it in all caps for you😂)

[IJhonnyI]

@LazerBean

[LazerBean]

And he wouldn't be in that situation if he hadn't been negligent. Just because you're louder doesn't make you're opinion right or even logical.

[IJhonnyI]

@LazerBean See this is what makes me think your dumb he wasn't negligent your the one who's being negligent, of what you may ask, of that female PLAYED A ROLE she wasn't ready for and she changed her mind this is were you stubborn too understand, who the fuck do you think he is a fortune teller your so stupid and illogical your just basing your opinion off of bad experiences you've had u sad being don't do that you sad female and the fact that you think your correct you just sad (like I said abortion is disgusting but the FEMALE wanted to have it not he MALE) its like you literally have something blocking what you can process it's horrible you sound dumb biased and beyond feminist😂

[LazerBean]

I'm not even a feminist, the woman is guilty of murder if she aborts the baby, but he is also guilty of negligence. Do you even know what negligence is, or are you such a child that you refuse to acknowledge that it takes 2 people to make a baby?

[IJhonnyI]

Oh my lord you are wrong what you don't understand is she MADE THAT MALE BELIEVE SHE WAS READY BUT SHE wasn't HOW IS THAT THE MALES FAULT EXPLAIN SINCE YOUR SO SMART?

[IJhonnyI]

He wanted the baby she did too THEN WHEN SHE HAS THE BABY SHE CHANGED HER MIND THAT IS BY FAR HER FAULT HE wasn't NEGLEGENT HE WAS LIED TOO

[IJhonnyI]

Fucking idiot 😔it's crazy how stupid people are yea talking about u and that other female

[IJhonnyI]

I don't know who raised you to be so insensitive and dumb but damn only lord know

[LazerBean]

How many times have you asked a girl if she was prolife before having sex with her? That's right, zero. And I can guarantee you that guy didn't ask her if she was prolife either. Yeah while you're sympathizing with a horny shithead, I'm pretty insensitive to retards who get baby's killed.

[IJhonnyI]

Your saying it takes 2 people too make a baby obviously it does but its the fault of who didn't wanna have it as the judge would say "it's her body If SHE doesn't want it SHE doesn't have to have it" she would've chose for him no matter what you get it now simple minded female or your still lost in your imagination

[IJhonnyI]

@LazerBean your just a lost cause your another idiot female in this world realize you blame the male you must be another retarded feminist can't say I'm surprised what do I expect for a dumbass like you exactly this too answer your question

[IJhonnyI]

I'm done arguing with a simple minded fuck like you clearly had your trauma and think that's how it is for the rest of the world bye you biased retard🖕🏽👋🏼

[LazerBean]

Anything to justify yourself from being a whore. I wish every bitch who gets an abortion, along with every worthless whore Man like you who enables them would all get you're organs sucked out and die like you deserve.

[IJhonnyI]

Hahaha cause life is gonna listen to a dumb ass uneducated bitch like you funny jokes if someone's gonna die it's you from being dumb, retarded, and uneducated love how your trying to assume who I am your an idiot washed up female you think I'm gonna get offended by a nasty rag bitch hag like you think again 🤣

[IJhonnyI]

@LazerBean I talked to you for a couple minutes I can already tell your a traumatized feminist simple minded fuck keep texting I'd love too hear how an idiot like you thinks never talked too one because people like you are so retarded but I'd do wanna see your illogical retarded thought process keep texting bitch come on little whore 😂

[IJhonnyI]

And I don't talk to EDUCATED FEMALES THIS WAY but you are a stupid feminist that deserved to be 6ft deep as soon as possible 🤣(offended much)😂

[Agape93]

You can ask her not to abort, and you can prepare yourself incase she still aborts it. Hardly a heartbreaking question.

[Asker]

You can’t imagine what it feels like to not only have your child taken from you but also have no say in wether they live or die.

[Agape93]

You're right, I can't nor do I care enough to figure it out. I am not the one to go to for empathy on here.

Ultimately it isn't up to you, and you're going to have to live with it regardless. If she makes a choice you don't like, you can choose to find a different partner.

[Asker]

Why don’t I get a choice if it’s my child too?

[Agape93]

You don't carry it, your health is not the one at risk nor is your life at risk. Those risks are exclusively hers as is carrying the thing. So as her burden outweighs yours by default, and it is her body and thus her choice by default, you have no final say in the matter.

[Asker]

Are you kidding me? Emotional pain is more painful than physical pain. I can’t stand the chance of losing my first child. It is her body but it is both of our child inside her body

[Agape93]

Tough shit snowflake. You have no choice in the matter. Either accept it and move on with someone else, or suck it up and try again when you're both ready.

[Asker]

What’s your problem? Why are you being such a b to me?

[Agape93]

I'm annoyed by your entitlement. Aside that, I have no issues. Like I said before, if you want empathy, talk to someone capable of caring.

[Asker]

I’m not looking for empathy. I’m looking for advice on how to convince my girlfriend to keep the baby. This is my baby also. Is it not? Is this my baby inside her too?

[Agape93]

Sure, it's also not my problem. I'm not going to help you manipulate her out of what could be her personally decided choice. Should have picked a different partner, one that beforehand you both agreed on having kids together.

[Asker]

So it’s her body her choice? Then it’s my body, my choice and I can decide not to wear a face mask then?

[Agape93]

Correct and correct, you're catching on finally 👏

[Asker]

Are you a feminist that hates guys? Your boyfriend just broke up with you? It’s the time of the month? Why so rude?

[Agape93]

I am a feminist, no I don't hate men, I've been dating the same person for over 2 years, and I haven't had a period in a year and a half. You can keep trying to be snarky all you want.

As I told you, your sense of entitlement annoys me, as does your desire to manipulate your partner out of what she may want for your own personal desires. Did you understand that or shall I explain yet again?

[JohnK123]

the mom should listen to why u don’t want her to and should make it a joint choice

[Asker]

Her mom wanted the abortion from the start

[JohnK123]

Well then she doesn’t want it now if she waited that long