Guys, Men don't find black women attractive in the slightest so I will most likely end up alone?

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So I really want a relationship but I am not sure I am ready or if I will ever be ready. There are only so many years I can work on it. I have deep seated issues and insecurities from being a black woman. People on here are callous and say it's me playing a "victim complex" but to be honest I try not to let it affect other aspects in my life. But it has really affected dating.
Already have race-based image issues that I am working on. Part of it is steeped in reality but there is a part of it that is not. It's hard being the only person that looks like you in a space. Men in tech aren't attracted to black women (only white or Asian women from what I know). Or maybe even if they are, they assume I am not. I am not sure.

I have considered freezing my eggs and finding out alternative methods of having kids. I wish I wasn't like this but I just am.

This is me currently. With mascara and no face makeup or anything so you can see pores and freckles.
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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

If you have race-based insecurities, you'll probably feel more comfortable with those who are similar to you. You may not have a lot to choose from where you work, but workplace relationships generally aren't ideal for anyone. Expand beyond your workplace, and find ways to help people see you as a whole person rather than just a race or body parts. Don't just join organizations... get involved. Take on a role of responsibility, so people can see you in action. Here are some organizations you can look into that might level the playing field for you:

Wsx2wsx2ws · Accepted Answer

I have never met a black woman. From your pictures you are not black either. You are 3.800453 shades darker than I am.
In Brooklyn I was really head over heals for a cute girl about your complexion. And another really dark one about 29.0655 shades darker than me. maybe 29.0657 but my memory isn't what it used to be.

You must be to low in Xper to post links. Here they are fixed
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garykingg · Answer

How can I date black women? Where can I meet them? Seriously the ONLY thing a guy looks for in a woman is whether she's caring and kind, and if she has a sweet personality.

Do you possess those attributes? Congrats you will find a guy.

Even though guys will find you attractive, will you give guys a fair chance?
Will you give a guy, who's physique is like a Greek God, makes money (quite well off, financially free, owns a house, etc), tall (6ft) but has an asymmetrical face. Would you mind if a guy like this approached you?

If your answer is no, then yeah probably you might have high standards, but by all means date someone good looking, I think all women want that.

Peace!

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Theirs like 3 exes in my past that I would be willing date again if they wanted. One of them is black.

You have a chance at finding a guy if being black is the only "issue" however you may be looking in the wrong places because trust me theirs a lot of guys that love black women and they do flock together sometimes

Avicenna · Answer

Freezing your eggs is not a bad idea, period. I’d advise you to do it anyway.
Maybe you need to cast your bet a bit wider to look outside of your industry. And, please for your own benefit, focus on what you bring to a relationship and what’s great about you. That’s what matters to guys.

Adronicus · Answer

I will try to help. Just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt. There's a stereo type about black women being masculine, "I don't need no man"! Not unlike how most men view feminists. I'm not saying its fair. You can attract a white man by embracing your femininity & being the exception to the rule.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

where do you live? I've never in my life heard a man say black woman aren't attractive. I've had crushes on several black woman. i suggest moving to a close suburb of a mixed city (see Houston or Philadelphia) suburban white guys can appreciate a black woman.

zagor · Answer

There are many attractive black women. I wouldn't mind dating one; not a lot of black women in general in my area.

I once went to a club in NYC where I was nearly the only white person, and asked several black girls to dance - they all declined, albeit more politely than most white girls do. So it's not all one-sided.

ElvenMr · Answer

There is nothing wrong with your looks. You have no reason to feel bad.
Don't let anyone make you feel bad, for any reason.

"Or maybe even if they are, they assume I am not."
This could be it, they just don't know you are open to date them/anyone. I can see that happening.

The last link is down for me by the way.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I can't speak for other guys, but that downbeat, miserable attitude does nothing to endear me. As for the photos you posted? they won't open here so I couldn't comment on them even if I wanted to.

boggboss · Answer

Its hard to know if you will end up alone I would say u do need to start working on your insecurities tho if u want a chance at a successful relationship

jasco · Answer

Last time I check you only like white boys so in short it wasn't the fact that you couldn't find love, it was just that no one that like you, you like back so in short that's on you. Their are several men who would date you

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