Do you think vulnerability is attractive or is it a dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

Being vulnerable with your partner means you are open to share your fears, insecurities and to be honest. How much of this is tolerable? And could this be a dealbreaker for you?

[Nawlins34]

Attractive and necessary. There's no point in starting a relationship if the two people can't create that safe space among each other.

If this doesn't exist, it'll fail in some form or another. You have to create it AND maintain it.

In my opinion, small details like this are overlooked when deciding who one should/shouldn't date and I'd bet this shows up in the divorce rates and broken relationships stats. (In America, at least).

[loveslongnails]

If I wanted a false front, I'd date a rock.
Everyone has fears and everyone is vulnerable. The more a person tries to hide it, the more obvious the fear becomes. It's a plus, not a deal breaker, if a woman isn't afraid to show ALL of herself to me.

[luxxoxo]

This would not be a dealbreaker for me because… I believe that if you love someone, you will be considerate of how your loved one feels wether their situation is small or big. Someone that loves someone else should be able to be there for you and give you their time when you are sad, mad, angry, upset, insecure, and vulnerable. I don’t think it should ever even be thought of to be a deal breaker at all. As if the relationship was made to be some silly game to see how long we last with each other until one of us does too much or is being too much. It should not be that way. It should be 100 % love coming from one end and 100 % love coming from the other end. So no vulnerability should not be a deal breaker. All those “flaws” are what make people/humans who we are and that is what’s attractive.

[Man-O-Metal]

I don't understand why it would be a deal breaker. Relationships are all about getting to know the other person. I enjoy hearing it all. Open up and tell me everything. It just makes it easier for me to know how I can make you happy.

[serious]

For opposite it is different.

Meaning vulnerability in a woman is attractive to a man but vulnerability in a man will be unattractive and a deal breaker to a woman.

[Wonderwhat]

Not necessarily. It depends on you present your vulnerabilities. If you state your problems with confidence and in a genuine way it can be attractive. But if you just shit on yourself or you are complaining about it it will be a turn off.

Like for example: "I've never danced before, but you know what you are doing so I am in goods hand, prefect" it shows you have the confidence to get out of your comfort zone and are willing to put yourself out there and try something new. But if say something like "Oh I don't know how to dance. I am going to step on your shoes. I am going to look like an idiot. Why am I even here" then it's a turn off.

[serious]

@Wonderwhat

Okay.

[SeekingVirginWife]

It means she is into drugs.

[Anonymous]

It can be a huge attraction.