People not finding value in you, only faults. People emotionally abusing you. It takes the confidence right out of you. But there is a good part to being vulnerable too, allowing yourself to take risks when you know you might get hurt. I personally view them as relationship slot machines that we all need to play, we need to keep pulling the lever until we hit the jackpot but it takes a lot of money and heartache to get there... But also it's about being open and willing to express yourself and your emotions.
Strictly speaking, vulnerability is the opening of those parts of you that can be wounded.
And to me, vulnerability is power. So many people have been hurt in their vulnerable parts, and so they hid it away behind a huge wall. But the hurt never goes away, it's just hidden. If you can be truly vulnerable, it can heal.
After all, everyone is attracted to confidence. And confident people are those who are vulnerable, because they know that they have the ability to handle it.
I want to start by saying as long as he is not whiny or toooo sensitive, a vulnerable man is far more attractive to me. I like someone who can open up and be sensitive when we are alone. Vulnerability is being open and honest even with that parts of yourself or your lived experience that you are afraid to talk about or that make you open to being hurt on an emotional level.
Vulnerability to me is being able to show your ugly parts- the ones you hate or wish you could change. it's giving someone the power to hurt you. In order for me to be vulnerable with someone, I have to trust them completely and our level of comfort needs to be top tier.
When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grew up, nobody could hurt me. Once I became a man, I realized that nobody ever could.
The choice will always be yours to be hurt, or angry, sad. Even if someone is screaming obscenities in your face; how you react is completely up to you.
That power can only come with being vulnerable. Yet few even try to understand this. Most people blame everything and everyone for thier lifes and their actions.
You cannot give or take love unless you love yourself. Only then can two people cultivate and grow lové where they are unafraid and commited to each other for life.
It's not weakness you show when being vulnerable. It's showing that you accept who and what you are and that you love yourself. That to me, is one of the greatest strengths a person can obtain.
@Desconhecida vulnerability in itself is not an act of perfection. It shows fallibility. It shows that we are liable to mistakes. Vulnerability to me is doing something even though you could be apprehensive about the aftermath. In a relationship for instance, being unsure about a situation and yet going on with it even if there's red flags and especially telltale signs from a similar situation or experience. But on flipside, vulnerability can be a catalyst for sometime fruitful if we learn how to make it work rather than fight against it. Our vulnerabilities could be our best allies.
@Desconhecida the red flags most times are questions that require cogent answers. Vulnerability here could be in the form of naivety. Just say being curious. The potential red flags could be something to make one apprehensive but then, ultimately may not exist at all; like an apparition.
Vulnerability is found in our ability to laugh at ourselves and that is only obtained through non-judgement. Can you be free among people that judge you?
No you can't.
That is why I love humor and laughter. People just don't appreciate the power in it. It is everything, they are uptight, want to impress. Humor is EVERYTHING.
Vulnerability is a weakness you can hide. If you can hide it, then it can be a burden and if you reveal it then it will be a weakness that is exploited. But i would say, vulnerability is also a chance. A chance to be better because we know what is pulling us back and that if you overcome it you will be better than who you were
Being able to admit your faults and that you have messed things up/ had wrongdoings in life. That is the most vulnerable a person can get in my opinion.
For me it is very hard because of my past. Been bullied a lot and had not a lot of friends. Because of that i rather stay inside. And now it ruins my chances for getting new friends or get a relationship. Because i don't want to get hurt. I don't want to feel bad again. I wish i could find somebody that i could be vulnerable with. Sadly i am too afraid to try.
In every instance iv shown my vulnerability to someone iv regretted it.
A man had to be very careful how he shows it especially to or in front of his woman because she will lose faith in him and or see the truth that he is weaker than he lets on. And once that happens Somthing ticks in a woman psycologially still loves them sure of course but Somthing else is gone and to deny it is to lie to oneself.
Some one had asked a similar question last week something to the affect that "are you willing to risk a broken heart for the potential for true love" I honestly don't know how much more VULNERABLE you could possibly be than to express your true feelings about and for some one to them Individually to the girl that may not share the same feelings as a guy.
@mynameisris yes it truly is terrible... A few months ago, I was in this situation. She was always thinking negative and that I would be a bad person. Lo and behold, she was the one who went and started cheating. She went as far as being with another guy and began professing love to him and claiming him. Then played victim.
@WowwGirl letting someone into your life without them messing things up or making you feel worthless if that's what you mean... Well in reality I don't think there's anyone who'd be in a relationship without making mistakes of some kind and accepting the other person's shortcomings is a big vulnerability and its what gets a lot of people hurt. Realizing there's nothing perfect is a major boost in part.
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