Ethically non-monogamous.
I grew up thinking I was a good straight monogamous Catholic gal. Then I got cheated on by my partner.
After the break up, I realized a few things about myself. One of which being it wasn't the act of sex with another than hurt my feelings - I didn't really care outside of worrying maybe he'd passed along STDs from the other woman (fortunately not), it was his lying and deceit that hurt.
I couldn't trust him. I couldn't hold him to his word. And that's really important to me. He outright lied multiple times and was too cowardly to be truthful. Instead, he tried to have it all to himself - ruined his relationship with me, ruined the marriage of his side-piece, and by what his boss told me months later (before she knew we were broken up - he hadn't told her yet), ruined his own life for a bit.
I totally understand that sometimes there's needs and kinks and preferences your partner may not be willing or able to provide for. I think, if both partners are accepting, there can be an arrangement that works.
For me, I'm squarely ethically non-monogamous. But romantically extremely monogamous.
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