Do I tell or not tell my boyfriend I use to do Only Fans?

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Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

If it comes up, you must confess. Otherwise it’s deceitful. If you think it could come up, you should confess. Otherwise it appears deceitful. Unless you’ve had some conversation wherein you each suggest that “the past is the past and only the future matters” or something of the like, it’s probably worth admitting. I mean, there are probably stills and gifs of you floating around cyberspace just waiting to drop on his phone or laptop. Better to be up front with it than to appear deceitful or ashamed. Just my far less than concrete opinion.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I already stated my answer to you yesterday. If you respect him, you'll tell him the truth immediately, as well as telling him it was a huge mistake, you're not that person anymore, and that you'd never do that again. And then BEG HIM for forgiveness for keeping such a secret from him, let alone doing that kind of 'work' to begin with.

Anything less than that and you don't deserve him and he needs to find someone better than you.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

You should, but that wouldn't be like a first date thing, but after a while you should have a talk about both your pasts, not to judge but to make sure neither finds out something accidently after your invested.

How would you feel if he finds out by chance later, or how would he feel?

I told my man by the 12th date, as we were discussing our future together, that I used to do it. As I know people stole content and its out there and he might come across it.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

It's better to tell him yourself than finding it out by one of his guy friends

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Would it be okay for him to hide important information from you?

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Well, your face is out there on the net. So long as you aren't doing it anymore you should make that clear. If he cones across it and comes unglued it wouldn't be fun and would possibly bring up the fact you neglected to tell him about it in the first place therefore compromising trust in the relationship.

You may not be doing it anymore, but in his mind why should he believe you if you didn't tell him until he found out by other means. He may believe you are lying again.

RACSKC0B · Answer

Does your use of it define who you are now?
Did you learn something profound from doing it, that you feel affects how you live your life now?
A lot of guys might not take it well, but then plenty of them would. Seems like it just depends on your boyfriend, if he isn't going to hold it over your head for the rest of your life, and you feel like he should know, then sure go for it.
Otherwise, I'd say probably not.

Sixgunsound · Answer

If you’re only dating and feel like you have to keep secrets, it’s not gonna work out. One way or another he will eventually find out, and find out that you’ve either been lying by omission or potentially have had to increasingly escalate your coverups until they are overt lies. Some guys might be into that. I’m not one of them, but with the younger guys these days who knows?

automatic812 · Answer

I think the choice is entirely up to you and as long as you are honest with the person you are and feel like it is something that can't get in the way I say keep to yourself. Is there a chance he could discover? I wouldn't fear him discovering you on the site, if he's using it and finds some images of you or profile then he is hiding something simply by going on the site.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it would be best to tell him. He may not like it, he may even break up w you about it but if he finds out on his own it may be just as bad or worse. He may not even care especially if you have quit doing it. As a man I’m thinking ok so basically you’re sort of s prostitute in a way. Like for $10 you were showing your ass off to other men. So how does that make me special?

Lycanthropic · Answer

If it was before the relationship, it's not really his business. Telling him could go either way. Maybe he trusts you more, or maybe it is a huge turnoff. Or maybe he find out later on from somewhere else and feels bad about it. Or does he even have a right to be?

It's 50/50. You aren't doing anything right or wrong either way. It just depends how you think he'll take it. Be prepared for any outcome.

SharonH4272 · Answer

It is probably the best to be open about it! If he doesn't like it then you have to handle that issue. Maybe, just part ways and find a partner that is ok with it!

HawkPerception · Answer

I wouldn't want my partner keeping that from me. I personally wouldn't date a girl that ever had an OnlyFans, but it shouldn't be something that's kept from a partner.

LilyoftheLake · Answer

Might as well tell him now - if it comes out later, that's not so great.

Avicenna · Answer

You might as well be forthcoming about it, especially if you know he'd be bothered by it once he found out. I think most men wouldn't care as long as you're no longer doing i and didn't lie to them.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes you need to be open and honest with him. him finding out later down the line would be really shit and for some potentially dangerous.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Translation = Do I have an open and honest relationship based on truth or do I have one based on a lie and hope the truth never comes to light.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yes. If he finds out from someone else it will be 5 times worse.

Guanfei · Answer

You should, yeah, chances are he will discover it at some point. And it's better if he learns about it from you.
How he will react is his own business, but honesty is a priority, especially if you want something serious with him.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You might as well. The truth always comes out eventually, and it's best he hears it from you!

genericname85 · Answer

normally you tell them when you're dating, not when you're together already.

SiberFox · Answer

Full disclosure is always best. Should he find out from someone else or on his own it will end badly.

nawtee_me · Answer

Key word used to…. You might mention it to him if you think he is okay with it or if he might find out from someone else

DrewJay · Answer

Why not tell him you probably wasn't together and who knows height enjoy you photos

RavVid · Answer

You would be lying by omission if you don't but it is your moral judgement not mine.

AviatorTom · Answer

If you no longer do OF, there's no benefit in telling him.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you care? You can just get another boyfriend. You’ve got lots of fans who have jerked off to you. 🤷‍♂️

loveslongnails · Answer

If you took your account down, then what's the point in bearing your secrets? If it's still up, that's another story.

Anonymous · Answer

once you get serious. Where it might head to marriage. Then I would. Too soon might blind him to the real you.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Thank god you quit, CAUSE FUCK ONLY FANS. FUCK IT TO HELL

monkeynutts · Answer

Yeah I wouldn't mind. I would help you make more cash.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Yeep do tell him, since that content is still out there roaming u used to do. It will be better you telling him off, than him finding out by himself.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Tell. He will find out eventually. Internet is forever.

Waldoe · Answer

do NOT tell... "more Mystery, less History" is a good rule

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

you better tell him before he finds out from some one else

driven159 · Answer

best to be honest if he finds out on his own not good

Anonymous · Answer

Its best to tell him, because he might think you are cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

I bet your boyfriend was the one who hit on you and asked you out

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'd be honest with him

Kaneki05 · Answer

Why you in a relationship if you cannot

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Don't. He might get pissed

36FS45 · Answer

Yes, why not? Can it REALLY be that bad?

jshm2 · Answer

If it's in the past, then leave it there.

countrygirl8754 · Answer

Always be open and honest with him

jengeorge26 · Answer

I don’t understand what you mean ONLY FANS?

vald9inches · Answer

It depends on how he will act

Xtendable · Answer

Is he fairly conservative?

OddBeMe · Answer

If he can't handle it why be with him?

Twalli · Answer

If you don't do it anymore, probably no harm.

rebeliouse · Answer

used to do it for what?

Frio33 · Answer

He will find out without you tell him

krin_m · Answer

No need in my opinion.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Tell him if he gets mad he wasn't the one

jimmy2 · Answer

Humm it best to be clean and honest but...

Justneedtokno · Answer

Did he ask

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, he might find out eventually.

iamnash · Answer

Nope

skyeee_ · Answer

lulz

Sam_25 · Answer

You still do?

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes like right now

jahaims · Answer

Definitely tell

The_Naughty_Guy · Answer

No need to tell

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, you should.

Amur8711 · Answer

I would tell them.

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