Is it a good idea to hit up an old coworker 2 years later and confess your feelings for them?

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I didn’t admit my feelings for him because he made me feel to shy and embarrassed. I was too awkward and afraid. I also think he didn’t like me at first, and later on he liked me. _________ But would it help if I said to him …… that I didn’t say anything to him throughout the 2 years we worked together ; due to “me not being single or having a man”. And also that “I don’t date coworkers”. Would that help me not look like a coward?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I mean why not? You're no longer coworkers go for it!!! All he can say is no, so no harm or foul, its not like you will have to go to work everyday and see him or deal with him. I say go for it because lots of people don't want to get involved with coworkers because it brings drama into the work place.

So I 100% would say reach out to him and say since we are no long coworkers would he be interested in going out on a date. So do not say you have been crushing on him for two years that is weird... but just say since he was a coworker you never seriously consider him... but now you "might" be interested. If you tell him you have crushed on him for 2 years he might get the wrong idea and want to just hook up with you... which is fine unless you are looking for something different or more.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Why not just call him, leave out any discussion of your feelings, and just ask him if he would like to meet for lunch? By the end of the lunch, you should know whether he is interested.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably not, if he had feelings for you he probably would have said something to you when you stopped being coworkers.

Marshymallow · Accepted Answer

I don’t really see the point in doing so. But whatever works for you

Fuentes · Answer

Just tell him lol either he fucks with you or he doesn't. Everytime I got rejected which is not a lot I brushed it off and most of the time it's cause the dumb chick was married but she had no ring and never spoke or talked about her husband. If they don't want you just block them that's how I handle it.

Th3ft · Answer

Lol! It sounds fine to me! You should do it! I would stick with not dating coworkers though. Maybe he checked up on you and you didn’t know that he liked you…

SlothySlob · Answer

Stop being a pussy and just do it. It's better to know you have no chance than wallow in regret.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No people tend to move on an don't have that interest later its better to just move on N leave the past were it belongs I've had good an bad exs an I wouldn't want to repeat same type of relationship or purse a crush you never tried to find out if they had intrest I you

Slartybartfast · Answer

Sure, I just called my boss from a job I had in 1997 and told him he was a jerk.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Kinda seems like a waste of time, unless there's some reason that y'all will be interacting again in the future. Probably wouldn't hurt things either though.

RealMarek · Answer

You don’t need to explain why you never told him. If you want to let him know you think he’s attractive just say so. There is nothing to lose.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I think now that you are single you could reach out to him and tell him you have missed him.

Massageman · Answer

Do it! Remember that you miss 100% of the shots you never take! So, take a shot - maybe you'll hit the bulls-eye!

Anonymous · Answer

Just speak out the truth, never put yourself on pressure trying thinking things which haven't happened yet.

Twalli · Answer

You should, and it's good that you don't date coworkers.

IsoUser · Answer

Just be perfectly honest, If he's a decent guy trust me he'll literally Understand

DevinAM · Answer

It's good to have closure.

Staximus · Answer

Don't tell him any lies

EaterPeter · Answer

Depends.

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