Why when I have a crush is it so intense? And what can I do about it?

[Anonymous]

I am someone who doesn’t get new crushes too often. But when I do I am stuck on that person for a very long time. Have you been in relationships while an intense crush is still in the back of my mind. I did love my partners at the time I dated very much (I am now single), but the crush feelings I have are pretty intense. One of these crushes took years to get over. And now that I’m over this person I have a new person that I really have high interest in. However I do feel them liking me is 50-50. Not only that but they are in my friend group and it’s a small friend group. I just moved to a new area almost year ago and I don’t wanna make things weird. I get mixed signals from this person which I’m assuming means they doesn’t like me that much, or at least not enough to ask me out. I’ve been trying dating apps and trying to get back into the dating game to see if I can find someone else. However of a hard time picking someone to go out with on a date without really knowing them too well. Plus dating in where is very difficult where I live. I still live my life and go about my days doing normal stuff. But whenever I have free time I think about my crush. I’ve been trying to find ways to get it over them but it’s not working. Why am I like this and what can I do?

[ChrisMike1919]

You're just easy falling, and it's nothing wrong about that. You're getting in a lot of feelings which make things more intense.

[jahaims]

A lot of different things can cause that. Anything from ADHD to being a narcissist. Could be a coping mechanism as well.