Are emotionally distant people beautiful because they're distant?

[fonduegirl]

[WonderBell99]

Hmm, complex question, but I'll try to break this down into a few parts. This is just my take on this, other opinions may vary.

Story time! I used to be subconsciously "drawn" towards emotionally distant people until a few months ago, maybe I still do, who knows? Some of my IRL friends and heck, even my ex boyfriend were what you would call "emotionally unavailable". I find them rather fascinating and I'm quite nosy. They tend to have an aura of mystery surrounding them (who does not love mystery?).

Some may call me naive, and maybe I am, but *some* people tend to gravitate towards these kind of people in hopes of "fixing" them and turning them into a person they want them to be.. aka, more vulnerable and open. Some genuinely care about others and may want to help them out. They view them as broken dolls who need help. Once, I read somewhere that some people are drawn towards people similar to them. Who can better understand what you're going through than someone who's gone through/is going through something similar?

There are people who have been severely hurt or traumatized in the past, and they may not open up because they don't want to get hurt again. Personally, both emotional and physical scars are beautiful because they show bravery and what one has gone through. Kind of similar to battle scars. I wouldn't want to be with someone who is emotionally *unavailable* because

- I want a partner who is in the same level of emotional availability as me. I wouldn't be able to handle someone who has trust issues or does not open up much.

- THEY need time to heal from the trauma. I don't think I'd be of any help to them. I have never been to anyone nor have I "brought" happiness into someone's life. At least, I don't view it that way.

- The relationship can be mentally draining for both the parties

Again, it all depends on one's perspective.

[WhitneySnow]

Ironically yes

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks 😊

[BullShark]

I think it depends from person to person. I've been told I'm emotionally distant because I don't open up to people often, not even the people I consider friends, so for some, it's attractive if they're attracted to mystery, but for many others, they see me as annoying and a stuck up.

If asked why I'm like this, I never really give a straight answer either, and just wave it off with something like "why am I like what?" or "huh, really? I never thought of myself that way" but in reality, it's because I've mostly been a loner majority of my life so keeping things to myself comes off naturally to me.

[fonduegirl]

You do give off the loner vibes.

[BullShark]

@anon1903 it's that obvious, huh? XD

[fonduegirl]

Yeah. It's an attractive thing. I hope you find you find human embodiment of sunshine. x

[bean2k21]

That's all in your mind. They can be unknowingly hurtful to others due to some unacknowledged or unresolved pain.

[Iwant2kno]

I don’t think that emotionally distant people are attractive at all. It gives me the impression they have unsolved emotional issues with past experiences/relationships. At the same time I understand them because is not easy to simply trust anyone with your heart and feelings.

[Sorrento-Sun]

Emotionally distant people usually have deep rooted underlying issues due to being hurt in their past.

I tend to avoid emotionally distant people, because you never know where you stand with them. They're too complex and can destroy you emotionally if you let them. There's nothing attractive about them whatsoever.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

God, emotionally distant people are either amazing ethereal beings or horrible manchildren. There is no in between.

It sucks.

Personally, I find the people who seem distant and ethereal are actually very in touch with their emotions - but don't share them with just anyone.

I find that self-mastery attractive.

[LazerBean]

They are attractive to people because most people are drawn to mystery.

[Deku2009]

No they are just attractive in that person’s eyes

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well from my experience it seems like girls really dig it when you got the mysterious vibe going on

[FilmGuy93]

No. That's just your heart wanting what it can't have.

[Blaine999]

They can be, though they can also be seen as cold or lifeless

[kitkills]

If you want to get technical, that's pretty much being dead. Anddd death is pretty romantic.

[Blaine999]

@kitkills it's very similar to being dead, yes but not quite and you're right, death can be pretty romantic.

[Luckycharms12]

I am emotionally distance it can work to our adventure at times but is also a draw back in many ways to

[1GoldTwins]

No that makes them less approachable.

[EaterPeter]

I guess. I feel I am one of them. My ex was too.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[MountAverage]

WHat's beautiful about that?

[Jamie05rhs]

Nooo. Haha. They LOSE points!

[Guardian45]

NAW! Mutually exclusive!

[jahaims]

No lol