Have you ever unintentionally lead someone on?

[Texaskid1]

yes

no

not sure

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[DaveJord]

SOme times you don't want to be mean to some one so you type to discourage things without straight out rejecting them from the start. Wells some times people don't get the message or interpreted the signs right and think you are just playing hard to get. So they try harder and you distance your self more and then they think you lead them on.

Which in truth you kind of did, because you could of just been up front and direct with them but you weren't. These days I just tell people straight up. Not going happen.

I had to tell two neighbors of mind that I don't want to lead you on. .. you live too close to me and I date other women, and there will be other women. I don't need any women drama in apartment area... you live right across the hall way and that's to close for me to want to risk any type of drama. We can say hi to each other and wave in the hallway at each other but I am not interested in dating some one that lives less than 100 ft from me.

[Texaskid1]

Smart. Take a "don't shit on your doorstep" approach.

[Wubs3000]

Yeah 2 years ago one of my friends I flirted with them a lot and they asked me out but I didn't realize my feelings at that time so I rejected them. That was before I realized how flirting could impact others and tbh im still pretty bad at being conscious about it.

[affectioncrave]

I might've unintentionally...

Hung out a whole lot with a guy at school though it was mostly me listening to him talking and laughing at his jokes (He was a very funny and outgoing person). Never complimented or asked him anything. Didn't realise to consider possible romantic interest from his side when he asked if I were single or no. (－‸ლ)

[Red-Blaze]

Yes, I always try to be clear up front but some just dont read it, or dont get it
I really try to be clear on it even that so many times pepole just dont seem to get it and it makes me feel horrible when I figure out they still did not get it

[Msputiton]

Yes. But he was very dense. I told him at least once a week i was not interested.

But he thought me speaking to him in anyway meant i was interested. No matter how many times i said I wasn't.

He actually got mad at me and said if i am not interested i shouldn't talk to him.

So we stopped talking, a week later he reached out and i ignored him, and he called me stuck up.

[atiquahbby]

Omg girl, same thing happened to me. This guy and I are both in our late 20s. He asked me out and I didn't know what I felt about him but I agreed to the date to know him better before deciding. However in the days before the date, I felt that he was becoming overly possessive. Even if I'm having a rough day and don't text him, he gets upset. I tell him I'm exhausted, but he pushes for me to speak to him, asks constantly tries texting me even when he clearly knows I'm not interested and does not understand that I just want some space.
I also tried showing/saying that I wasn't really interested but he kept pushing it to 'convince me' that it would work out. I eventually asked what he thinks about this and he ends up talking as if I already agreed to being his partner- it really weirded me out. All of this happened while chatting for 4 days. He agrees that I never showed/displayed/said anything to denote any sign of interest so he agrees that just coz I spoke to him, I was just being friendly and nothing else so far.

It had only been 4 days since we texted, and this was before the first date, but with all this, I told him that I wasn't interested. He gets super upset and calls me immature and that I couldn't make 'proper decisions.' I blocked him, but he reached out on social media, so I blocked him again.

He then even goes as far as telling his parents to call my parents to let them know that I was leading him on and everything. I had enough, I was just getting anxiety each time my phone buzzed. I'm so glad I avoided this.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think I may have done this before. I knew this chick from school and we were in a group together and everyone was pretty good friends with everyone else. So one time I asked her to hang out, because she lived near me. So then we started hanging out a lot. I didn't think anything of it. But I think maybe she thought that I liked her.

[Guy13]

Yes and was simply being friends... helping her out with/of a tough situation. I am in a position to do this, however, I was not trying to "keep anyone". It turned out to be a trying circumstance.-No good deed goes unpunished. ;-)

[raddisn]

I'm always nice to people and some ladies think I'm flirting but I'm nit.

[Texaskid1]

That has happened to me many times.

[siseñor]

I tend to be very friendly with people asking for directions or whatever. there was one guy who asked how old i was, and when i told him his smile dropped lol, so i think i might've done it then.




also isn't it led?

[devilish-cutie]

No, I always make sure I never do that to anyone. Thats why often guys hate me cause im very firm with my no, im not interested in you like that.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Many times, I even tell them that I have no intention of being anything beyond friends and apologize if they thought it could be something more than that.

[genericname85]

yeah, i think i did. honestly in my mind we were just friends and i never thought she might be romantically interested. in hindsight, i was quite naive xD

[JDBSLAOQ]

someone thought we were dating until he called me his girlfriend and i found out.

sucks to suck

[RolandCuthbert]

Of course. And it always sucks when they are hurt.

[Dinklex3]

No.

I have been told I did, but did not.

[Jamie05rhs]

It says unintentionally, not intentionally.

[Dinklex3]

@Jamie05rhs I'm aware.
To unintentionally do it still means you did it.
I did nothing to lead the person on, aside from provide basic customer service at a job (smile, hi, here's your food).
So there was nothing intentional or unintentional.
I just did my job and they misinterpreted my "greetings" as flirting with them.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dinklex. You're missing the point. If they say you did it, you did it. Lol.
And if you weren't trying to do it, it was unintentional. Lol. That is the POINT.

[Dinklex3]

@Jamie05rhs You're missing the point.
Unintentionally leading someone on means that you did in fact do so and you acknowledge that action.
Someone claiming they were led on when they absolutely were not does not even mean that I did so unintentionally.

Someone passes by you and asks"Do you know where the restroom is?". You take that as them flirting with you.
Did they "unintentionally" flirt with you or "unintentionally" lead you on? Because YOU thought they did.
No. They did not.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dinklex3 I'm sorry, but you're wrong. You will just have to accept the error of your thinking.

[Dinklex3]

@Jamie05rhs
So, do you believe the person led them on if they asked where the restroom was?
Just because someone else took it that way?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dinklex3 The concept of *perceived* "leading on" is COMPLETELY in the mind of the beholder. So if they feel that they were led on, then that was their experience. (Whether or not they were actually led on.)

[Dinklex3]

@Jamie05rhs Exactly. And just because someone believed they were led on, does not make it a fact.
Doing something unintentionally is still the same as doing it regardless.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@Dinklex3 - you don't understand what unintentional or intentional means do you.

If someone feels that you led them on and you did NOTHING to led them on. That means you UNINTENTIONALLY led them on. It wasn't your intent.

What you said here > Unintentionally leading someone on means that you did in fact do so and you acknowledge that action < is INTENTIONALLY leading someone on.

[Dinklex3]

@APrettyLittleLady87 No, lol.
Since you clearly don't know what it means;
Lead on;
to persuade someone to believe something that is untrue
Mislead or deceive someone, especially into believing that one is in love with or attracted to them.

"What you said here > Unintentionally leading someone on means that you did in fact do so and you acknowledge that action < is INTENTIONALLY leading someone on."
^ It's not.
Intentionally leading someone on is PURPOSELY leading them on.
There is a difference between intentionally/ "purposely" leading them on and unintentionally doing so and being aware of /recognizing your actions afterwards.

[Jamie05rhs]

@APrettyLittleLady87 Thank you! Someone who understands logic, finally. 🙏

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dinklex3 How the f do you UNintentionally lead someone on, then? You tell us. Lol

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@Dinklex3 - be quiet. The more you talk the dumber you seem. You seemed pretty dumb before I responded.

[exitseven]

No, I don't think I could ever do something like this.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I told a friend this woman was attractive. He took that as I was interested and went behind my back and told her. Then she came and asked me out. It was awkward.

[Zolly99999]

Yes I think I have. I've intentionally done it too..

[Anonymous]

I've done it intentionally too, because I wanted to get some

[Pinay_ako]

Yes 🙌

[Phoenix98]

Hmm I don't think I have.

[Marianna546]

Yeah and i regret that

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think so

[Shadow_Monarch]

Probably.