Why do guys not hit on me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman (26). I know that I'm not a super model, but I'm not ugly either. I make an effort with my appearance. Im funny. I'm interesting. I'm intelligent. Out-going. Friendly. Compassionate.

But no guy ever seems interested.

I don't get asked out and guys don't flirt with me. Noone even ever looks at me like they're interested.

I feel so demotivated. I haven't been on a date in 3 years.

Am I missing something?

[PrettyPriya]

So, you are still young. Just a bit older than me. It took me (technically) 24 years to find mr right. He just came into my life out of the blue one day as those things often happen. Where are you going to meet guys? I think that is usually the biggest thing.

As I give to a lot of users, I will do the same advice for you. I always suggest trying to find a local club or activity group that interests you. Look around your local area. You will find likeminded people that share an interest.

It will be an easier time meeting and chatting with people in a group or club like that because you already are both interested in the same thing. Much easier to break the ice. Plus, you get to get involved in something you enjoy doing. Hard to lose on that sort of thing.

[Asker]

I'm going to try this and see. Thanks.

[PrettyPriya]

You are most welcome. Good luck and have some fun with it!! 🙂

[KatherineJ]

You do know that you can show interest first, right? You are also allowed to ask a guy out.

[Asker]

I know but I'm so scared of being rejected.

[KatherineJ]

Well, it’s no different for guys, I guess.

[MrCommodore]

Not sure, this seems to be a common issue nowadays, I think guys are becoming more cautious when it comes to flirting or asking girls out, as most are afraid to misjudge a situation.

While guys are usually expected to make the first move, it is usually girls who initiate and give body language signs of interest to encourage a guy to make a first move. Maybe you aren't giving off these signs?

[MCheetah]

"I'm funny. I'm interesting. I'm intelligent. Out-going. Friendly. Compassionate."

Women who say that usually never are. If anything, they're usually narcissitic, mean-spirited, and believe they're perfect. But let's assume you're telling the truth.

How tall are you and what do you look for in men?

[RasmusAiken]

I'm guessing, but maybe you're not broadcasting the right social signals. When people look at you do they see someone who is 'open' or 'closed.' If you're unsure, ask a well-trusted friend or seek out a life coach type counselor. Eye contact, a smile and a cute comment will often create a spark.

[Staximus]

Maybe no guy seems interested because you act like you're not interested? I'm not saying you have to throw yourself at guys like a psycho hose beast, but if you're interested you better act like it or he will never know that you actually want him around

[Avicenna]

Is it possible that you are oblivious to flirting? At any rate, guys usually don't approach a woman who looks like she doesn't want to be approached.

[Asker]

I don't know. I'm quite intuitive.

[SiberFox]

Hard to say, do you have friends that could introduce you to potential partners? Maybe you just haven't been inviting enough with the guys you've been around with?

[Asker]

I don't have any friends who could do that unfortunately.

How could I be more inviting?

[SiberFox]

I approach women who smile at me and who I share looks with. Being inviting is "having the door open" to someone to approach you.
I've seen beautifull women I've wanted to approach but decided against because they looked disinterested or unfriendly.
Essentially give guys a reason to pop in and say hello. Because resting bitch face is a turn off.
I'm sure you'll have a good man sweep you off your feet, just don't scare him off.

[Honesttguy]

Perhaps approach some guys ask for directions or time? Thus getting closer and increasing chance to be asked out

[Asker]

Thanks. This is helpful.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well we don't know how you look... And we don't know what you're like around people.. Super hard to even guess

[maximumpower]

Change your scenery - the places you go and people with whom you associate.

[Blueeyes81]

How you see yourself and how men see you are probably different. Also how inviting you seem plays a huge role.

[Iron_Man]

Try going to the gym exercise and change your hairstyle try different clothing

[RuthlessAggression]

i dk ANONYMOUS woman, why don't guys hit on you. I wonder WHY

[Waldoe]

you need to ask someone that you know personally... strangers do not have the answers you seek

[barn_stormer]

you could always start hitting on guys, though that probably won't work out

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you should start being more assertive.

[Jamie05rhs]

Which sites are you on?

[jhl_x]

Hit on them yourself

[icetome]

what do you look like

[In_Trance]

must be something you're saying or doing (or not)

[Anonymous]

picture or else I don't believe you