So about a month ago I (16f) starting dating my boyfriend (14m) and have since then fallen head over heels in love with him. Since we met in summer, at the time he thought he was going into 9th the next year. But recently he found out he is being held back and I’m at a loss of what to do. I love him to pieces and I want to make it work somehow, but the thought of being a Senior with an 8th grader seems almost impossible; both morally and in the long run. So what do I do? No one has ever made me as happy as he does, and I want to experience life with him. But this situation is making it feel near impossible. I just love him so much
You’re rapidly entering dangerous territory. If you’re having sex or preparing to, know the laws in your area and whether or not they’re likely to apply them to you as a woman. You’re nowhere near clubbing, drinking and voting ages, so that shouldn’t be a problem. But if you’re not already driving, you will be soon and he has a while. If you’re not kool with being the chauffeur all the time, that’s going to be a hurdle. Because of your age difference, you’re more likely earn more than him on any given job at any given time. You should have that discussion. If you clear all those hurdles, you’ll still likely have to overcome any stigmas regarding age differences among your families and friend groups. You’ve taken a big bite out of societal expectations. I hope it’s worth it. Good luck!!!
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and why is he being held back? that needs solved.
he may be so smart, he doesn't belong in school. so there's solutions to that. a bored kid is a waste of time in school.
My answer is work together, find solutions to the problem and stay with him and see if you can build something.
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You are saying you are breaking up with him, but in the post you say you don't want to break up with him.
Since you'll go to a different school, then him and we have the internet now, you could just stay in touch with him, then see how things turn out.
While i dont approve of you guys dating, at least you're not being a piece of shit cliche thing, where you're going after an "older man"
My mom is older than my dad by a year and 24 days. theyve been married 35+
Women, STOP FUCKING GOING FOR OLDER, FUCKING MEN. STOP BEING A CLICHEYou do understand that once you turn 18 it will be considered illegal to do anything with him right? At least until 2 years later when he turns 18.
Plan for your future and not his. Perhaps, he is not as motivated as you. Are you sure he is the right guy for you?
Senior dating 8th grader is tough. Try to stay friends and wait a few years , when the age difference virtually disappears to get really serious.
you need to realize you have your whole life ahead of you.. i understand that you are young and stupid but this guy sounds like a dumbass. As time passes you will see the world has so much more to offer.
You guys are too young to date wait until you’re 18 Failing s grade has nothing to do with your relationship things happen. Be supportive
Don't look at grades, look at ages. You are both close in age.
Oh just break up with him already. You already know you’re going to. 🙄
Find a guy who isn't a moron. How do you fail a grade when they have watered down the curriculum so much?
It sounds like he needs to focus on his schoolwork
Well move on he to young
Wdym what do you do?
cut him loose
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