Do you think women most of the struggle women experience in dating is self inflicted?

[Anonymous]

For example, look at the girl at the start of the video who has a break down because she keeps getting played by fuckboys when it comes to dating and now wants to quit dating.

Keep in mind she more than likely has a decent guy in her life that she treats like shit or is indifferent to at best but chooses to ignore as a dating prospect due to not being 6/6/6 (6 feet tall+, 6 figure income, 6 pack abs).

Do you think when it comes to all these modern women bitching on social media of their dating struggles that most of these are self inflicted brought on by them making irrational, and emotional decisions, not venting men properly and jumping towards intimacy without really getting to know the person?

Yes

No

[jhl_x]

Let's try a simple math exercise here.

For the sake of the argument, I'll pull a stat out of my ass and say that only 1% out of the total population in dating apps are decent and relationship-worthy. The rest is composed of bots, catfishers, dead accounts or general assholes.

Now ask an average man and an average women their like and match rate. For the sake of the argument, I'll use my old numbers as reference:

Regular me: 30 likes, 9 matches, 3 replied and 1 actually kept talking after 3 messages before ghosting me. All of that during 3 weeks.

Fake female me: 10 likes in 5 minutes, 99 likes in an hour. Some superlikes as well.

Now with those numbers, apply the 1% thing and see who's more likely to find a supposedly decent person in the sea of undesirable users. It's not based on real data, since that's quite impossible to quantify, but the math is there. Women are privileged to have much more users available to them, no matter how much they deny it. Even if it's only a minimal percentage are what they're looking for, they're more likely to find them than men are, simply because of probability.

[Adronicus]

No, I fell victim to something similar when younger, what I call being a fixer, subconsciously seeking out damaged women & attempting to fix them. I feel like an amateur psychologist sometimes attempting to fix this in myself. I happened to read about females too & something called imprinting. I think ignorance (lack of knowledge) is to blame in most cases. People don't put themselves through hell willingly unless they're super masochists.

[Juicyred921]

I think the problem is we all have expectations for our partners. Some are unrealistic. We ask for too much, to specific with what we want. “ I want a tall guy, with green eyes, nice car, makes a lot of money, no kids, nice car… I want the edgy bad boy I can turn good while he also has all his shit together “ we have a list. We want someone with everything in that list, while you also don’t have all those qualities within yourself. But then you don’t even show your true self when you first meet someone. We all put on a mask when we meet people. Or try to seem like the perfect person. “ oh, you like sports! Me too!” Bitch, no you don’t. You couldn’t name one team from your state. I’m not saying settle. And I’m not saying put your best self out there when meeting people.. just accept that your soulmate might be a little different than you imagined they would be. And be honest. Be yourself. Don’t let the skeletons out the closet on the first date but know that no one’s perfect. And sometimes our imperfections make us unique and beautiful in a strange way.

[SecretsofKB]

Do I think it's most women that struggle for that reason? No, probably not, but I could be wrong.

But if there is a trail of failed relationships, you have to start looking at the common denominator. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

[Anonymous]

Most definitely. But you can't tell a woman anything. They have to figure it out for themselves. That's what I like and hate about G@G. It a online Jerry Springer show. It's entertaining yet incredible sad. And most of the women just don't even realize how f***ed up they are.

[Staximus]

They start falling for guys before they know the guy actually cares about them. They look for superficial qualities first and foremost so that's all they get, and then wonder why they can't find a good guy.

[Libertycityguy]

they get into toxic relationships with the same type of guy all the the time. you know that one girl who dates and gets shit on and then finds someone else... they say this guy is different and then the process happens all over again.

[Anonymous]

I would say yes, most women choose poorly. It's part of why I have zero sympathy for the women who say "where have all the good men gone" it's simple, you either rejected them, or they are happily married.

[EarthRealm]

They experience struggles because struggles feels good to these chicks

[LimitedBenefits101]

self inflicted at its finest

Its hilarious to see women in their 30s an above cry on social media🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

almost all the struggles women face are self inflicted.

[LazerBean]

Yes, and it applies to both genders.

[blondfrog]

If they live in a country like the US yes.