Is dating easy/hard for you when approaching someone to ask for their number or asking them out? (Page 2)
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i'm a little of a shy guy myself, but i just put my chin up and really try to boost up my confidence and than ask a girl out, if rejected i get a little down for like a few days until i lift myself up again and than back in the game lol.
Awesome! Dust yourself off and try again
Honestly I’ve only ever dated online. And it’s easy that way. But I think it’s also a bad idea to date online only. Will try in person dating when I get up the nerve
Of course it was hard. It’s hard for everyone. To me it was run the fire and ask or live with regret and be wondering what I missed. A possible “No” is easier to live with.
Depends on the wome some are more approachable then others. I never had an easy time of it but those that I took that leap and asked put or just talked too became some of my very best friends. It helped that I enjoy talking and I can be funny.
You are right. I believe one of the biggest mistake men make is setting expectations. They expect women they text to inmediately start asking questions, and inmediately start returning the favour by initiating. Women don't get attached too quickly, so you'll have to put in a few weeks (sometimes even a few months) before they start initiating themselves.
Yes I agree
I’d never ask for a stranger’s number.
if they’re not in some way connected to my life I wouldn’t date them. I’d get to know them through repeated contact and then decide the next step.
There's no such thing as approaching someone in this day and age for me. I only get close with people who are friends with me first, personally or online.
Asking women out these days is viewed as creepy and you risk getting arrested for sexual harrassment and stalking.
Sad isn’t it?
Its for womens protection
I actually never ask strangers out, because I don't know who they are and I don't know whether or not I will actually want to date them.
What if the stranger asks for your # and asks you out instead
Better have a go pro recording audio video of everything, so she can't say you harassed, raped or stalked her, it safer to just stay home.
@MangoBob While I can see your point, I'm not quite that paranoid yet.
@Pinay_ako Then I would accept. But I would try to make it abundantly clear that we were just talking casually and that she shouldn't get her hopes up. Because I don't want to break anyone's heart.
You’ll get there, people are absolutely insane.
I definitely hesitate. Talking is easy, but building expectations is easier for me. Sometimes you need to just ask someone, and not worry about the answer.
Easy. I don't approach nor ask for numbers.
You know what that opinion was misleading. I have zero problem talking to women. I just don't typically ask women out is what I'm saying. Lol
And you ignored my dm 😂
I don't ever cold approach I just talk to the chick if she's down or not I will get her snap it's usually easy to tell
Spill how easy it is
I only talk to girls that I catch staring at me and we have a few random convos and they act like they love talking to me or the fact I talked to them so when they act like that I be like what's your snap & it's easy. Some girls be like "oh I don't know what I'm gonna do after I think I may see a movie or hang with a friend but I really don't got plans" and that's another easy cue to ask and some girls straight up be like what's you doing this weekend?
And be like oh you got snap or IG and I just give them the snap. I don't have to cold approach and some girls get mad at me for not picking up on their cues and the issue is they act dim and dead af so idc lol they think I'm being hot and cold I'm not I think there weird. And Timder is a whole nother story and the easiest way I get chick's lol
🤣 I love your dim and dead 💀 analogy! Damn right
Thanks lol I think they just need batteries or a charger
@Pinay_ako the fact that he approaches women that are “down or not” is kind of a red flag.
@Subarugirl I'm not Into you
Thanks fucking god for that!
If you search on dictionary the page for “hesitation” you’ll probably find my face.
A “no” answer is like a stab in my back.
Someone I haven't previously met? It's easy after a bit of conversation. If they won't engage, then there's no point in asking.
I don't approach cause i already know I'm going to get a no. Why waste time then?
How do you know you’re gonna get a no? If you haven’t even tried?
I've had enough experience, not looking to try more and get hurt.
I understand 😣
It's alright now, I've accepted that I'm not gonna be able to date. It's easier to move on and live life
No I have no confidence or anything in that area of life. Sadly I'm gonna end up all alone for ever.
No don’t give up easy. You’re still young to say that
men approaching women, why do i get the feeling that will never change
Who says about men approaching women only? It’s in general! I ask men out who cares
ya but its still very rare for a woman to approach a man
I dont ask anymore. The answer is always no so why bother
Always no?
Always. can't even go for coffee
A coffee conversation is nice.
I guess
Hard, quite hard. It's easy to go up to a woman, but that rejection is always going to be there unless you are her type and your practically a male instagram model or a fitness model to her,... then it's definitely a yes.
Ridiculous.
I just start with small talk then see what things they like an then if I feel they start to warm up to me I find out if married or not cuz some girls dont wear wedding rings so I dont go after married girls now if they were getting a devorce yes then I will date them then I usely say would you like to have lunch with me in the park in the nice weather other wise its would you like to go to dinner an I pick a nice family type restraint an then i go dancing with them
Yes, dating is easy. Attraction and Communication are a 2-way street. If I stop getting positive vibes, then I stop pursuing and let her ask me out.
If it happens, great! if doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be.