imagine you are a senior citizen without any immediate family. you never married, never had kids. You lived alone throughout your entire life. Now you are 65 and ridden with life threatening diseases which puts you into the hospital a lot. Nobody ever comes to visit you. You might get 1 distant relative visits you once a year since she lives in another state. When you need help with household chores, you have nobody to turn to. Sometimes you sit in your apartment for weeks without a friend to talk to. there's nobody that you can trust that cares for you. Nobody ever asks if you are doing well except your doctor. When Christmas / Thanksgiving time comes, everyone is rushing home to enjoy a delicious meal with their families. But you haven't had anyone wait for you to come home to Christmas dinner in 20 years. You can't remember the last time you've received a gift from anyone for Christmas. When you die, you are pretty sure that nobody will attend your funeral.
Except for the disease part, I don't have to imagine.
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I’m not alone, I have God, I have the angels, I have my brothers and sisters on earth and in heaven and I have my dead family who are alive in heaven and watching the whole kingdom among us.
you never married, never had kids.
That the plan
ridden with life threatening diseases which puts you into the hospital a lot.
Yeah that's gonna happen
When you need help with household chores, you have nobody to turn to.
I'll hire people for all that
Sometimes you sit in your apartment for weeks without a friend to talk to.
Already used to that
When Christmas / Thanksgiving time comes, everyone is rushing home to enjoy a delicious meal with their families. But you haven't had anyone wait for you to come home to Christmas dinner in 20 years.
I can cook for myself and finish up drinking myself into a stupor
You can't remember the last time you've received a gift from anyone for Christmas.
Hence I always buy myself presents
When you die, you are pretty sure that nobody will attend your funeral.
Don't want some sad 'Eleanor Rigby' affair, I'll red most myself or cremate myself in a firebomb once I take an overdose of whatever medication I'm on or on a time delay after I shoot myself
Not at all quite freeing to not burden people with it all, hell I'm the end of my family name and don't really care to carry it on as much as my family hate that revelationNot if you’ve lived that way for a long time already. The hard part for older people is when their immediate friends and family start dying all around them. That support system that they DO have falls apart. If you’ve already lived that way for decades, i wouldn’t expect dying that way to be any more scary or painful. In fact, it might be a welcomed relief.
If the thought distresses you, you can volunteer at a retirement community to help brighten some old timers’ days. My sister used to take her kids trick or treating in old folks homes. She said it’s absolutely wonderful for the kids and the elders.My wife does home health visits and sees this all the time. Cops tell stories all the time about sometimes people die and nobody bothers to check on them and finally somebody complains about the smell and the cops come and break in and find the body. It is really sad but it happens a lot. I know all my neighbors because we have all lived here for 20-40 years but there are people I see walking in the neighborhod that I have no idea who they are. There is not real sense of community anymore.
Everybody dies alone regardless. Think about it. The best thing anyone can do is understand the body, health, and all of the ways of staying healthy that are hidden. The best way of ending up as you described is to buy into the current health system and not understand all of the 'miracle' treatments that are out there.
I know people that have family... but their children have disowned them, partners have died or left and they are still alone. The best currency, and the only thing you truly have is your health.
That's my greatest fear and it will never happen.
I already have a big extended family who are close to each other. I will also have my own children and grandchildren.
When I get old, I'll spend my time with kids somewhere. I also hope to die before my husband with him holding my hand as I pass.
You forgot to mention: nobody molests you with affections that aren't ''requested''.
More important than ''family'' -to me- is good neighbourhood, and one or two friends. Constant babbling isn't a requirement for my life - and so I'd maybe feel a little bored; but not lonely - I have myself :)
Most people who are all alone typically chose that life. Conversely if you're a 100 years. Old and everyone you have ever known closely has passed on. No, it's not tragic. I still carry the love of all I have known and loved. Death cannot diminish that!
Death is something that everyone faces alone.
The title seems directed as someone. Why?
Everyone is different, it’s better to b alone than in bad companySounds like it'd be worse to LIVE that way, but that's just my opinion.
That’s my worst fear aside from having no family or legacy of my own the thought of it actually scares me.
No u can flirt with nurses and marry one of them if lucky
At 65 most people can still take care of themselves fine and have another 20 years to live.
No one can answer this, but i would assume so. gosh a lot of the questions today are making me sad.
Honey if you think old, dying people have family visiting them or who care you’ve never worked in healthcare. That shit is RARE.
depend on person , some find it is painful , some find it is not
what happened to you? you were number 1 men basher on this site and now you lost that title
I imagine it would be, but I've never died
that's my future
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