Every guy I match with on Bumble constantly asks for my Instagram, Snapchat and my phone number after a minute of talking to them. Why?

[Anonymous]

I've started Bumble as I'm getting back out into dating but I can't help but say that every guy I match with constantly asks for my Instagram, Snapchat and my phone number after a minute of talking to them and get upset when I refuse and say I prefer to get to know you more before I give that away. Why is that so and is there any reason for that?

[Lionman95]

I think the reason that many guys don´t prepare themselves for dating. They all get to know through the media or family that a relationship is the ultimate goal so they want that asap.
The problem is they aren´t ready for the responsibility. They are ready for the fun part, they don´t tell you who they are because they are interested in something that looks good without work.
They have a claim and get mentality and wouldn´t be ready to fight for it and put discipline and effort in it.
They ask for your social connections right away so they can feel good about themselves since they got a connection to a woman they like but they might not know how to get a relationship to put the work that´s needed in it.

[Be3Bee]

Either you are the best catch on the app (and thus they desperately want your contact info) or they do this to all women there.

If someone is looking for something serious (from my understanding Bumble is for more serious relationships) they will wait to determine whether their match is worth their time instead of trying to get instantly your private contact info.

[Asker]

Hardly 🤣. Always been a four but it's just annoying.

[Be3Bee]

Well, you can take it from the bright side - by doing something you dislike they are actually actively filtering themselves out of your pile of potential matches ;)

[Aerissa_Jade]

Happens everywhere, happens to me here on GAG a lot.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

I can't speak for other guys but when I was just becoming an adult the older guys told me it is better to ask for a girls snap or insta rather than her number because of the stigma. I don't follow that rule but maybe others do. They are just doing what they have done in the past and seen works. But really it is just they don't see the girls perspective. If they did they would have all the answers and be the perfect boy. Hypothetically

[Crafteroon]

Bots or scammers. Harder to ban an account if their suspicious activity is done elsewhere.

If they ask for an IM on their first few messages or ask for questions clearly visible in your profile like "where are you from" or "what is your name", just report them and let an admin check if their behavior is suspect.

[Asker]

No, there are verified profiles on bumble.

[Crafteroon]

Verified means that the photo belongs to them or someone in the scam. It doesn't mean they are the person who they are claiming to be.

[Death_To_Stress]

People don't talk anymore. Conversation is a dying art.

Now the way to get to know you isn't by talking to you. It's by raking through your social media. Much easier than remaining present and engaged with someone.

Faster, too. On to the next one...

[VikingWarLord]

because biitches get too many messages on the app. then yours gets buried under the new dudes she's talking to.

Guys know the game. If he doesn't snag your little Azz and find another way to talk to you, he will be replaced with 50+ other simps, betas and maginas in her Tinder or Bumble Inbox

[NamerOfStars]

Hmm... I'm not familiar with Bumble, but is there some attribuhe of it that would make them more reluctant to just that? Is it a paid-only or monitored feature, or has a lousy interface or something?

[Asker]

No It's free and the chat system isn't bad at all

[NamerOfStars]

That suggests they're trying to do something they don't want watched- you're right to be leery.

[HighValue]

The only one that makes sense would be for IG so they could see what kind f stuff you post to see what kind of person you are. Asking for the other two doesn't make sense because that wouldn't show them anything about you.

[Wade12345]

I don't want to be your pen pal. I want to hear your voice and know you're a real woman responding to me in real-time, and not a con artist nor some dude pimping whores.

Understand?

[Anonymous]

ignorance to your perspective. Stop thinking men or anyone for that matter has it all figured out. They don't.

[Asker]

Hey, you don't need to be so rude I just want a guy's perspective so that I can see if I'm the one in the wrong or if is there a reason for it.

[Opinion Owner]

You're adding emotional tones to my statement that were never inside me as I wrote it. Here I'll rewrite it:

I think you may be looking at it a little wrong. I think it's best not to try to figure out ignorance. When I try to reason with ignorance I just end up feeling ignorant. But the answer is clearly this: They aren't seeing things from your perspective.

[Ironic_Method]

Because most girls tell guys to message them on those other platforms.

[Shamalien]

Because those apps are finicky and can unmatch people sometimes

[Asker]

I haven't experienced that with bumble as yet. But I will say I do get unmatched by guys that don't respond within 24 hours.

[zagor]

I don't use insta or snap so maybe you should go for a little older and avoid the frat boys.

[In_Trance]

Duh...

[Asker]

Duh what😡

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

What's so funny?