Why are guys constantly asking for selfies?

Question

I text a few guys, and ALL of them constantly ask me to send them selfies-fairly often. Why? And many of them screenshot the selfie. What are they doing with them? Showing their friends? Jerking off? How often do you like that selfies from girls? Do you want a girl to ask for one back?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

When a guy likes a girl he likes to have pictures of her to look at on his phone , he will think how beautiful she is and how amazing it would be to have her in his arms , that’s one of the differences between guys and girls , Guys are drawn to her beauty first where a girl is drawn to a guys personality and status and his confidence she doesn’t really ask for a guys selfie she is more
Drawn to the conversation and connection the way he carries himself , A guy wants that from a girl as well but that comes second , She can be attractive and beautiful on the outside but if she is a bitch and has a shitty personality he won’t care to much about her beauty anymore

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

we are visual beings and lifts our spirits, one way or the other. who knows their reaction. probably an ego boost to get pics of you as if you are theirs. Just to be seen with or talk to a very attractive girl is a lift.

coachTanthony · Answer

Once they get the selfie then they move on to naked ones. Its a slow but deliberate process.

_RandomGuy_18 · Answer

Well most the time it's cause we think you're pretty and want to see your face that's like why we use snap and stuff. If you dont want them to screenshot then tell them not too. If they do anyway then tell them off and block them/stop talking to them cause that's dumb asf. But I would say usually they just like seeing you its basic human attraction. If it's over snap the yeah they probably are screen shotting to show their friends. I seriously doubt any of them are using a simple selfie to jerk off, especially with the plethora of porn on the internet a selfie is pretty bottom of the barrel lol

Nordicnerd · Answer

Their motive would depend on the individual person. They could be asking cause: they are horny, they miss you, they want a selfie for the guys, prove that you are real, to be controling, etc.

Ultimately the decision comes down to you. If you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean they have ownership of you.

Side note: I would never recommend sending nudes not unless it is a secure relationship where you have confidence it won't be show or posted publicly. Stay safe 👌

PushOrganic · Answer

1) It gets the girl to put in effort and emotionally invest since now, she's most likely looking at her selfie camera before she takes the pic to make sure she looks good (Getting her self concious) and now when the guy gets it, how he replies since validating your looks would make you feel good. Think "I love what you did with your hair:

2) It builds the relationship, since I see how you look like. If I met you on the street, I probably forgot what you look like, if we matched on tinder it's because I want to see what you actually look like, not the filtered shit and selectively picked photogenic shit that goes up on profiles

3) Because guys are visual

Everyoneisplastic · Answer

Some might ask as proof of what you look like. It feels more genuine to talk to someone when you can put a face to the name. I screenshot pics of girls in photos sometime, but it's mostly because I like to show pics of what I'm talking about when sharing opinions here. I'm gonna be honest, most guys probably jerk off to your pics. I wish that I could tell you that you're crazy and paranoid, but you're not. Hope this helps.

Knighted2170 · Answer

It's to boost their self esteem and for bragging rights to all their buddies. Along with other, ahem, things.

Some will hope to get it to the point they get nudes as well.

If you don't want to don't do it. If he's really into you and respects you he won't ask. Exchange of photos will just happen naturally because it just seems right at that point in time of the relationship.

Hope that helps.

JackSmy · Answer

Because women are BEAUTIFUL, and look AMAZING, nude!
But NEVER share those!! As much as those users beg, NEVER send them!! They will post them, and you will be all over the internet!
No Honorable Man, that cares about you, Loves, you, is EVER going to ask you to send anything, compromising to you, over a phone!!!
OMG!! If he LOVES, really loves you, he will NEVER ask you to do things like that, and compromise your integrity, being exposed!!

Natehunter199 · Answer

I for one have never asked a girl for a picture. I do like receiving pictures of her if she is willing. Guess i like being more surprised. And im glad to send her one if she ask. But i do believe they are slowly working towards some nude one. But different thing turn different guy on

Wedimir · Answer

If guys ask for your photo, you're beautiful, that's all) Some girls are annoyed if guys jerk off on them, and some on the contrary excites) In any case, when communicating with the opposite sex, you should understand that they primarily consider you as a sexual object and not Platonic love)

TallAnon · Answer

Normalize it and making it a habit, so they can slowly drive up and push the boundaries of the kind of pictures. "Show boobs please" is a lot less likely to work than some awkward back and forth like "Oh wow, you have a lot of cleavage on that one, aren't you afraid you're gonna slip 😜😜 I don't mind if you do, LOL" after exchanging pictures every day for a while.

Kaazsz · Answer

I never ask for a selfie but I got a couple girls who send me nudes and I never asked at all.

I’d say they want it because they want attention and you giving them a special selfie means you are giving them attention.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

We're visual, we like seeing pics, especially naughty ones - that you send them to us makes us feel special on top of you gifting us with spank bank material. I ask my lifestyle friend for nudes sometimes, but it's always something specific like the last one I asked for was for a braless pic but wearing an unbuttoned shirt so they are just poking out and saying hello :) She always obliges me and no harm no foul.

OmNomaly · Answer

Could be a number of things. If you are meeting them over the internet some of them could be doing sexual things. Some of them could be making sure that you are who you say you are by cross referencing your pictures through a reverse image search.

The_Inquisitor · Answer

I don't ask for selfies but I don't mind getting them, I hate asking because it sounds needy and feels creepy.  Personally its more so to see if the person is as beautiful as they say they are.

summiter · Answer

At least it is selfies and not nudes. I'm sure a lot of the guys jerk off to them. As you know all young guys jerk off frequently... they just will never admit it.

Brownbored · Answer

Is there any harm in sending selfies? I don't ask for them.. but I don't see why anyone would be annoyed by it

The_Sal · Answer

We have to deal with tons and TONS of fake profiles. Scammers know how thirsty guys are so men are targeted big-time. A selfie with your screen name proves you are who you say you are. Reassurance so we don't wasteful time talking to a scammer or bot.

MysticDevice · Answer

Having a selfie of the girl you're talking to helps solidify the notion that you're talking to a real person and not being catfished. So the selfies help prove that its actually you and not a picture off the internet.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Guys are probably asking you for selfies because they probably don’t have the guts to ask you for full body shots.

jordnaus · Answer

Sound like very thirsty guys. I wouldn't even imagine asking someone for a selfie. What is the point at all.

Rangers · Answer

I ask my girlfriend for them so I can set it as my lock screen so I see her every time I pickup my phone. Y'all can say it's creepy all you want, but I don't care

Brendan824 · Answer

1 if it makes you feel uncomfortable don't do it
2 I don't ask for selfies but my friends do they show me them I'd be like cool that's it
3 Im horrible in pictures so yea don't even bother asking for 1

michael1469 · Answer

Ause you are pretty, is my first guess... you dont wanna hear the second one.

CYNIC4ALL · Answer

To say guys (plural) speaks volumes of biasness. I've never requested one, not
even from the woman I was dating. Pics
does nothing for me, sexually or confidence.
So to insinuate guys speaks volumes of
how you sadly think.

Larson7 · Answer

Either masturbation or the show off their friends I'd say probably the former more likely are you are you giving out selfies? 🤔😲😱😡

loveslongnails · Answer

Asking YOU, or just girls in general? I can see why they'd ask you ! You're really beautiful looking :)

Twenty2 · Answer

Depends on the selfies you send. Send me one selfie and I'll tell you why they are so interested in that!

Makeushiver · Answer

In your case it]sa probably because you are so attractive

jakey70 · Answer

Pretty positive that with as pretty as you are, they're jerking off. They would probably love it if you traded back and forth or wanted a tribute. Just saying... because that's what I would do or want.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Cuz they want to have a photo to fantasize like when they look at playboy but yours have clothes so they want same fantasies

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