In this scenario you have to choose. Staying single/dating someone else isn't a option.
And also if you want in the comments say if you are pro life/pro choice cuz I feel like that could have a effect on some of yalls answers.
I'd be okay with either one HOWEVER there is one catch I'd only date the single mom if its clear she is actively trying to look after her kid. Just cause I'm her new boy toy doesn't mean I'm the step dad out of the blu. And if I do end up becoming said step dad she has to prove still she is her self to a degree independent.
I'm pro choice and adopted. I say choice cause there can be any number of reasons why a mom should be allowed to choose whether or not she wants a kid at their current stage in life. Too many women mine included can't handle the psychological idea of giving up their kid. Even if they can't fundamentally care for it. What good is a new life if it has to go through life being adopted and then later finding out their bio parent probably took their own life. That sets up a dangerous precident on the kid. I say we should only really be letting kids have lives that are worth living that can be happy. Not set them down a path of living for the sake of just new life. Gotta be thinking about the wholistic health.
Plus if you want prolife then get ready to fund all those screwed up foster and adoption centers. Someones gonna have to pay for the influx of births if abortions are illegal. Ya ready for the taxes to rise like 20%. XD.
I'm pro-life and I think I'm leaning towards the woman who has had an abortion.
Why? Well, while I am pro-life, I can see more reasonable reasons that a woman has had an abortion and when during the baby's development she killed him/her. For example, did she do it while there was a fetal heartbeat? Way before? Also, did she do it because she was raped? Survivor of incest? Life endangerment? I can at least have a conversation with her and see how I feel.
For the single mom, there's just no way I see it ever working out. It'll always be you versus the mom and her child when things even get a little heated or aggravated. Honestly, throughout the relationship, I'd always feel like I'm the stranger intruding on a mother and her son. It'll feel very odd, unsettling, and almost torturous over time for me.
Of course the mother doesn't care as she just wants a father to help her out with her son/daughter. In this instance, you really need to look out for yourself as a man because I don't see it ever working out for most people.
Those that are in these relationships, in my eyes, live a life of quiet suffering or tolerance.
Considering how many people have had miscarriages (many multiples in some cases), don’t speak about them. And then in turn have to have a medical procedure that is the exact same procedure doctors use to abort a fetus, to clean the uterus and prevent infections, the chances of dating a woman who had an “abortion” procedure is much higher than people might assume..
A woman who knows herself enough to have the strength to seek an abortion is more desirable to me.
However, I'm only dating childfree people, so that's the real limiter. I don't want kids ever, it'd be unfair to date a mother - she and her kid (s) deserve better.
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u I have dated several women who were single moms and I have dated a woman who had an abortion. I vehemently disagree with anyone having an abortion but I would never judge a woman by that one isolated fact.
I voted 'B'. I don't have a problem with single moms or women who had an abortion. My only problem with single moms is, I never wanted to deal with kids.
I had one girlfriend who was 30 when I was 37. She had a son who lived out of state with the father. I loved that woman with all my heart and still do.
I don't care if a woman has had an abortion. More than one would be a problem. But I understand that mistakes sometimes happen.
Two of my teen girlfriends had gotten early term abortions for the same reasons. When they were 14, they got into boyfriend-girlfriend relationships and got pregnant due naivete.
Having a baby at that young age would have ruined lives, so their parents helped them take care of it.
They learned their lessons, though. Since they planned to be sexually active, they got on the pill.
I actually tried both and saw little difference.
There is trauma that comes from having an abortion and of course having a kid turns your life upside down but people are people no matter what.
Although I've been with multiple women who had abortions and what they have in common is they develop motherly tendencies to make up for the kid they removed, so many think it's a choice you'll never regret but enough time passes and everyone regrets it.
I guarantee you that most guys would rather date a woman who has had an abortion! As I overheard two guys “joking” about women who’ve had abortions… “at least you know if she DOES get pregnant, you won’t be on the hook for 18yrs of child support”!
This is not a fair question because you don't know all the circumstances and to be honest with you it has nothing to do with either one of those when you like somebody when you love somebody you love them I just think this is the wrong question this is not right there's so many different types of circumstances that are scenarios that made her get an abortion for me this question is just no good just no fair and it sucks really sorry Apple I usually love all your questions but this one really sucks
I can only make the exception for one kid since I have one kid. Although I would date a girl who had an abortion then take care of other man's child. I also just don't have patients for kids that aren't mine. I once thought I could be a history teacher once upon a time but kids NO I can't deal with them. Only MY kids hahaha
Either. If I were single neither would bother me. Idid start dating a single mum previously, was difficult to find time with her but we tried to make it work, it didn't. Since I've had 2 kids so would be rather hypocritical to reject a single parent but expect someone to take on my baggage
The single mom, even though I support the idea that an abortion is no one else’s business besides a woman’s and her doctor’s.
I’m personally against it because my twin brother was stillborn and can’t fathom why anyone would willingly abort (aside from rape/incest/serious medical issues) and wish they’d carry to term and adopt out if they wish, but still, it’s none of my business and especially not the gov’t’s.
In general i won't chose any but if i had to choose between these 2, i'll choose the single mom and surely i'm pro life unless there was harsh medical reasons or a danger on the wife's life than we need to do the right thing which isen't so right but nothing in this life is perfect!
I also believe that the abortion ain't a woman's decision only, the husband have to agree cause the baby is made from both even if it's in a woman's womb!
Single mum. I don’t want to date those that murder their own offspring, but if the abortion happened before a brain would’ve formed, that’s OK. If the woman had an abortion and really repents it, that’s also all right — G-d loves those who repent.
I don’t mind dating a single mom. There is something sexy abo7t a mom. I could not get serious with a girl who had killed her baby. I would be willing to sleep with her if she was hot, but I’d not want to build a relationship.
The single mom. 100%.
(Mad respect to the single moms out there!)
If I were still in the dating game, I'd date either. I'm very pro-choice- and I mean choice- the choice of whether to abort or keep a pregnancy belongs to the pregnant woman.
I would not define somebody by either event.
If I was younger, I would date either one. Not my position to judge a woman's personal decision.
If I had to chose, woman who's had an abortion.
I can't see myself wanting to take care of a kid that isn't mines.
I would date either one. There's usually a good reason why a woman would get an abortion. The topic of her having an abortion really doesn't come up on the first date.
I'm pro-choice. I'm not changing anyone's diapers or being a cuckold though. So a single mom is a damn near dealbreaker. Third place, to transwomen and queer women (the latter being the number one dealbreaker).
I voted C as it would not be a deal breaker attribute for me if I liked her for all sorts of other reasons :)
There are legitimate reasons to be a single mom. Just because they make up a tiny fraction of that population does not invalidate them.
