In this scenario you have to choose. Staying single/dating someone else isn't a option.
And also if you want in the comments say if you are pro life/pro choice cuz I feel like that could have a effect on some of yalls answers.
I'd be okay with either one HOWEVER there is one catch I'd only date the single mom if its clear she is actively trying to look after her kid. Just cause I'm her new boy toy doesn't mean I'm the step dad out of the blu. And if I do end up becoming said step dad she has to prove still she is her self to a degree independent.
I'm pro choice and adopted. I say choice cause there can be any number of reasons why a mom should be allowed to choose whether or not she wants a kid at their current stage in life. Too many women mine included can't handle the psychological idea of giving up their kid. Even if they can't fundamentally care for it. What good is a new life if it has to go through life being adopted and then later finding out their bio parent probably took their own life. That sets up a dangerous precident on the kid. I say we should only really be letting kids have lives that are worth living that can be happy. Not set them down a path of living for the sake of just new life. Gotta be thinking about the wholistic health.
Plus if you want prolife then get ready to fund all those screwed up foster and adoption centers. Someones gonna have to pay for the influx of births if abortions are illegal. Ya ready for the taxes to rise like 20%. XD.
I'm pro-life and I think I'm leaning towards the woman who has had an abortion.
Why? Well, while I am pro-life, I can see more reasonable reasons that a woman has had an abortion and when during the baby's development she killed him/her. For example, did she do it while there was a fetal heartbeat? Way before? Also, did she do it because she was raped? Survivor of incest? Life endangerment? I can at least have a conversation with her and see how I feel.
For the single mom, there's just no way I see it ever working out. It'll always be you versus the mom and her child when things even get a little heated or aggravated. Honestly, throughout the relationship, I'd always feel like I'm the stranger intruding on a mother and her son. It'll feel very odd, unsettling, and almost torturous over time for me.
Of course the mother doesn't care as she just wants a father to help her out with her son/daughter. In this instance, you really need to look out for yourself as a man because I don't see it ever working out for most people.
Those that are in these relationships, in my eyes, live a life of quiet suffering or tolerance.
Single moms aren't always looking for a replacement father for the kid. Especially if that kid is already a teen or older is when a lot start dating again so only issues pop up like that for single moms dating with babies/toddlers.
But just think about it for a second.
Imagine if there's some heated argument or something of the sort.
You know, the mother is leveraging her child. It'll truly feel and be one-sided.
It's just that strong biological connection that is undeniable in this case.
The ONLY way I can see this working if I was forced is if I also have a biological child with the woman.
Considering how many people have had miscarriages (many multiples in some cases), don’t speak about them. And then in turn have to have a medical procedure that is the exact same procedure doctors use to abort a fetus, to clean the uterus and prevent infections, the chances of dating a woman who had an “abortion” procedure is much higher than people might assume..
This is very true. 1 in 4 pregnancies end up a miscarriage
A woman who knows herself enough to have the strength to seek an abortion is more desirable to me.
However, I'm only dating childfree people, so that's the real limiter. I don't want kids ever, it'd be unfair to date a mother - she and her kid (s) deserve better.
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u I have dated several women who were single moms and I have dated a woman who had an abortion. I vehemently disagree with anyone having an abortion but I would never judge a woman by that one isolated fact.
I voted 'B'. I don't have a problem with single moms or women who had an abortion. My only problem with single moms is, I never wanted to deal with kids.
I had one girlfriend who was 30 when I was 37. She had a son who lived out of state with the father. I loved that woman with all my heart and still do.
I don't care if a woman has had an abortion. More than one would be a problem. But I understand that mistakes sometimes happen.
Two of my teen girlfriends had gotten early term abortions for the same reasons. When they were 14, they got into boyfriend-girlfriend relationships and got pregnant due naivete.
Having a baby at that young age would have ruined lives, so their parents helped them take care of it.
They learned their lessons, though. Since they planned to be sexually active, they got on the pill.
I actually tried both and saw little difference.
There is trauma that comes from having an abortion and of course having a kid turns your life upside down but people are people no matter what.
Although I've been with multiple women who had abortions and what they have in common is they develop motherly tendencies to make up for the kid they removed, so many think it's a choice you'll never regret but enough time passes and everyone regrets it.
I guarantee you that most guys would rather date a woman who has had an abortion! As I overheard two guys “joking” about women who’ve had abortions… “at least you know if she DOES get pregnant, you won’t be on the hook for 18yrs of child support”!
@H8INCHES So y’all would rather date a single mom, and deal w/ all the baby daddy issues?
@H8INCHES Oh god, I know that guys talk differently amongst each other, than when with us. But this was at a party, and I was within earshot of some guys talking amongst themselves.
Thank yo so much for the advice, I really do appreciate you thinking highly enough of me to let me know. It can be very easy to forget that when I'm on a date. Some of the “nicest” guys I’ve been on dates with, I later discovered were complete A-holes! I thank god I have some trusted guy-friends, who let me know what someone is really like when they are not on their best behavior in “date-Mode”! But I really appreciate you telling me, thanks 🙏🏼 😊.
@H8INCHES Well I appreciate your help and understanding.
100% of men would rather ignore her completely
This is not a fair question because you don't know all the circumstances and to be honest with you it has nothing to do with either one of those when you like somebody when you love somebody you love them I just think this is the wrong question this is not right there's so many different types of circumstances that are scenarios that made her get an abortion for me this question is just no good just no fair and it sucks really sorry Apple I usually love all your questions but this one really sucks
I can only make the exception for one kid since I have one kid. Although I would date a girl who had an abortion then take care of other man's child. I also just don't have patients for kids that aren't mine. I once thought I could be a history teacher once upon a time but kids NO I can't deal with them. Only MY kids hahaha
Haha but what If the kids were older?
Either. If I were single neither would bother me. Idid start dating a single mum previously, was difficult to find time with her but we tried to make it work, it didn't. Since I've had 2 kids so would be rather hypocritical to reject a single parent but expect someone to take on my baggage
The single mom, even though I support the idea that an abortion is no one else’s business besides a woman’s and her doctor’s.
I’m personally against it because my twin brother was stillborn and can’t fathom why anyone would willingly abort (aside from rape/incest/serious medical issues) and wish they’d carry to term and adopt out if they wish, but still, it’s none of my business and especially not the gov’t’s.
In general i won't chose any but if i had to choose between these 2, i'll choose the single mom and surely i'm pro life unless there was harsh medical reasons or a danger on the wife's life than we need to do the right thing which isen't so right but nothing in this life is perfect!
I also believe that the abortion ain't a woman's decision only, the husband have to agree cause the baby is made from both even if it's in a woman's womb!
Single mum. I don’t want to date those that murder their own offspring, but if the abortion happened before a brain would’ve formed, that’s OK. If the woman had an abortion and really repents it, that’s also all right — G-d loves those who repent.
I don’t mind dating a single mom. There is something sexy abo7t a mom. I could not get serious with a girl who had killed her baby. I would be willing to sleep with her if she was hot, but I’d not want to build a relationship.
The single mom. 100%.
(Mad respect to the single moms out there!)
Yess must be extremely difficult for them to do it all. Have to work and be the only caretaker for their kids.
Yeah. Plus just having the baby in the first place. They didn't have to do that. That was a choice. They chose to do the hard thing, because it was the right thing. That's a testament to their character.
If I were still in the dating game, I'd date either. I'm very pro-choice- and I mean choice- the choice of whether to abort or keep a pregnancy belongs to the pregnant woman.
I would not define somebody by either event.
That's good you wouldn't define a woman by that cuz a lot of men do
If I was younger, I would date either one. Not my position to judge a woman's personal decision.
If I had to chose, woman who's had an abortion.
I can't see myself wanting to take care of a kid that isn't mines.
I would date either one. There's usually a good reason why a woman would get an abortion. The topic of her having an abortion really doesn't come up on the first date.
I'm pro-choice. I'm not changing anyone's diapers or being a cuckold though. So a single mom is a damn near dealbreaker. Third place, to transwomen and queer women (the latter being the number one dealbreaker).
I voted C as it would not be a deal breaker attribute for me if I liked her for all sorts of other reasons :)
There are legitimate reasons to be a single mom. Just because they make up a tiny fraction of that population does not invalidate them.
Abortion because I will never have a kid. That extends to dating people with kids.
Depends which one I like more, I’ve dated both, prefer no kids if possible, I don’t judge any woman that has had an abortion and have dated a few of them too
I'd rather date a single mom. People who are filled with love deserve love.
Awhh so sweet
I would definitely rather a single mother. I’m not a fan of abortion at all.
I voted A. I like single moms because they are usually horny as hell.
True moms are always very horny
@Methis hah yes but I'm not single
m I just don't see at either of them through my own prejudice and judgment
It is the present woman that matters, not something in the past. I also think a woman should decide what happens to her body. Men have it easy, they are not forced to suffer or enjoy the consequences.
I can't answer with only this limited information because it depends on other factors.
I would not date a woman who had an abortion unless the pregnancy was due to rape or it threatened her health.
I would not date a single mother unless her status as such happened from no fault of her own (e. g., she was widowed, her husband cheated on or abused her, etc.).
Why would it matter why she is in those situations? It'd be weird for anyone to want to openly talk about how they were raped or if there baby daddy was abusive.
That's like asking why a man who is in jail why he is in that situation. The answer is because it likely says a lot about his character.
Comparing jail to moms/abortions isn't even close in being able to compare and I think you know that
It's the principle that is important here, not the "crime". The point is that a woman who gets herself pregnant due to irresponsible behavior and has an abortion likely has character issues. Likewise, a woman who chooses to have a child with a low quality man who she is not married to likely has character issues. A woman who thinks it's ok to raise a child without it's father likely has character issues. Those issues are not likely to just go away. There are obviously exceptions, just like some men who commit crimes and serve time in prison sometimes turn out to be good men. But I do not see it being worth the risk.
Dated both. Pussy is pussy, deary. It's not the deal you think it is.
If there were only two women left in the world, and I had to marry one/ kill the other, I'd go for the one who had an abortion. I'm disgusted by both, but at least I don't have a walking/ talking reminder of some other guy's creampie.
I doubt a girl will tell u she’s had an abortion 😂 “btw I’ve had a few abortion just so you know!” 😂 yea that’s not gonna happen. Women rarely if ever talk about their body counts they would never talk about having abortions.
Probably the single mom. One who’s babydaddy is out of her life is preferable to one who has visitation.
Ideally neither for different reasons. But if forced to choose I guess the single mom.
going to have to go with abortion here... too many unknowns when you are forced to raise someone else's kids
I don't want kids, and I think abortion is perfectly fine.
Neither of them matter. If I like her, I don’t care what she did
Why can't I vote for virgin? choosing what worse, I am not religious so the woman that's had a abortion, I don't want to raise another man's child, even if it means choosing abortion.
You are missing out. I love my stepdaughter as much as my biological daughters. A father helps make the babies, a dad loves and nurtures them. Whose sperm helped make them is irrelevant.
None of those would deter me from dating them. So both.
Considering I don't want kids so i won't be able to be long term with the one with a kid, I'd say the woman who had an abortion.
Does not matter even a little bit about abortion.
The single mom would depend on the kid, the bio dad, and of course her.
not an issue for me. and i’m not a forced
birther
I would date either of these women. I'm Pro-choice!
And just in case, I'd date you too!
Anyone as long as how she has good character
Would either of them depending on with whom i gel better.
I am on side pro- choice
The second isn't an issue, the first might be, but technically I'd date any of them
a woman that’s had an abortion, i’m pro choice but i’m even more pro dating girls that don’t have kids.
I’d rather marry a single mother. I’m not going to marry or impregnate a woman who aborted her baby. Abortion clinics should be defunded and unborn babies should be protected and defended by law.
I would date either women... in fact I already have.
Single mom but I’ll probably end up ghosting her
If we match then we match. And that's that.
neither of them, though here in America you can't be that choosey in that department. specially when you are cursed like me, since I only attract women who's gotten abortion at least once in their life
I voted C. I don’t see how either scenario would lessen her appeal
Dated multiples of both.
Single moms won out every time.
Single mother. A woman who shows she's can bea good mother is extremely hot (I like milfs).
It is her personal choice and I have no business judging her either way.
I don't want to have kids so the woman who had an abortion. Not especially in favour of abortion, but free choice is important.
I don’t think i’d knowingly date either one. People who make terrible choices will ruin your life.
The woman that has had an abortion. Women with kids are a bad deal.
Don't you have kids? 😂
But what about your baby mamas tho? If they wanted to move on they'd be considered "a bad deal"?
I haven't noticed that at all in my real life I see lots of men that don't mind dating single moms. At my kids school I meet moms everyday that have remarried cuz their first baby daddy didn't work out. It's rare to meet anyone that doesn't have a blended family now a days
If someone’s OK with that, more power to them. But my kids don’t live anywhere near me so no it wouldn’t be a blended family. And if One or more of my kids lived with me permanently (which I’d obviously want), I would focus on them and not date or force them into some blended family.
I date career women,, and a lot of them have never had kids.
I wouldn't make a single mom my girlfriend but I would bang her. Single moms usually dont have enough time to smother you so they're good to use for sex purposes only.
m I am not trying to sound too cynical, but chances are that with one you get the other on top. 🤔
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