Do most men date based on a females look?

Question

Most men don’t find me attractive enough

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

EVERYONE dates based on looks; the lone exception being the visually impaired, practically. But if you’ve ever been close to someone who is visually impaired, you might have experienced them asking you or another sighted person if their love interest is attractive. Ray Charles was supposedly notorious for that, and i’ve experienced it once myself. Not with Ray Charles. Ha! But i’ve had a visually impaired acquaintance and a few hearing impaired acquaintances.
The sexual attraction thing is absolute as a result of evolutionary biology. We need our mates to be as attractive as possible in order to ensure our offspring will also be attractive. Thereby improving the longevity of the overall bloodline. It’s perfectly natural, and NOBODY is alive today because their ancestors preferred “a good sense of humor”. Ell oh ell!

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

It's not that you're unattractive. It's that you don't wear makeup (likely) don't shave, don't put in any effort, and look pissed off/depressed in every pic you take. Men (and women) tend to like people who put in effort and SMILE in their pics. Even my ugly ass knows that! Plus, you're a female; plenty of simps will emotionally validate you, especially on this site.

So don't give me that "I'm only 24 and ugly" nonsense. You need to put in more work and not just wake up and take a pissed-off looking pic. Most PEOPLE are shallow, but many of us don't judge a person simply by looks.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

Yes. First it's looks then personality. In my opinion you look fine to me, you just need pamper yourself a bit, go to salon get a new hair touch up, give your lips s little tent you'll be good to go. But trust me I know how you feel, most men didn't find me attractive either but eventually you will meet one.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

You only need one who does. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re unattractive. They are just pointing out why they aren’t worth the trouble themselves.

HighValue · Answer

Physical attraction needs to be there in order to be interested in talking to her and getting to know her in the first place, but there needs to be personality compatibility for a relationship to work.

Are you purposely trying to look less appealing in that picture?

You have posted other pictures that looked much better.

TonyV · Answer

Weren't you just on here complaining your boy friend wasn't happy you tried to set up a 3way? I'd say stuff like that is the bigger issue than your looks.

And about your looks, I can't tell if you think your hotter than you are cause you are suprised by people saying your skinny-fat, like you think you are an athletic biuld.

But on the other hand you seem real selfconscuous cause you how you look almost daily.

DJB72 · Answer

Yes. Sorry, but men are hardwired visually.

What's the problem with how you look? Aside from a minor duckface going on you're an attractive young woman. At 24 I'd have been terrified to ask you out because I'd have considered you out of my league. At 50 if I was single again I'd be awkward to ask you out for the same reason.

Sargentcaptain · Answer

I'd guess most people don't date for looks, but looks are a great filter for people who just don't reach the minimum level of attractiveness. Personality, moral values and such are very important but if the person isn't meeting the beauty standards, none of it will matter and you could be a perfect match but looking like Quasimodo won't get you anywhere.

Sixgunsound · Answer

As the more visually oriented of the two genders, I do think men place more premium on outward appearance, but the smarter and more worth your time ones will also demand personality reliability loyalty responsibility skills etc. that are independent of appearance.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Well obviously, looks is the first thing anyone will notice, regardless of what BS they will tell you on here. It is absolutely impossible to notice anything then looks the first time you see someone. It drives me crazy when someone asks a question about looks and then people answer "I don't really pay attention to looks". BS. It may not be the determining factor, it may not even be the most heavily considered factor, but it is a factor nonetheless.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes of course. I mean that’s what draws a man in. When people go shopping they usually pick the best, cutest, sexiest thing as far as what they’re looking for. Now w that said a person’s personality can kill all those looks immediately if she’s got an attitude. Not to say he wouldn’t try to mail her first, he just isn’t going to have anything to do w her long term. You look like you have a lot of potential. Love the lips for sure, long hair.

Meatunnel69 · Answer

I date based on looks of course but she also needs a personality and morals. If just wanted a silent piece of ass I’d buy an expensive sex doll but relationships are much deeper than just looks even for men it’s the kind of person you are. People are looking for ‘the best friend’. How good of a friend are you?

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously yes they date based on looks. Good news for you, their standards are probably extremely low or what they consider attractive is extremely variable. As a girl, it only takes a second to find a guy. Maybe not a good guy but there is endless supply.

Aerolyn · Answer

Literally every man dates based on how someone looks to some extent. Fucking duh, some just care about looks more than others, this is a no brainer.

Lenell · Answer

Your hair is unkept your facial expression pesimistic. Your face is beautiful but what good isna ferrari if its unwaxed? Take better caee of yourself and drink only water itll. make your skin glow.

20yearsolder · Answer

Well of course people typically date off the other person's appearance. I think you're a good looking girl. You need to smile. Get your hair done. It'll make you feel better about yourself.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

Bruv problem is your picture looks like an anti-meth ad, you're attractive seriously but you're putting no effort...

nomandik · Answer

Yes I think so I don't particularly go after a ugly female looks is the first thing I go for the skinny slim medium to flat chest in between 5 foot 2 to 6 foot three

genericname85 · Answer

look are obviously the thing that grabs your attention in the first place. doesn't even matter if male or female. like you won't be like "i gotta get to know this dude over there cause he's so ugly".

Havthrills · Answer

I think you're beautiful. Attitude is the main attraction.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

You know you are attractive. So why are you here pretending?

Anonymous · Answer

Never put a pissed off / upset / depressed / RBF / druggie face when you’re taking selfies. It’s giving off negative vibes really

Get rid of the bangs, get a new hairstyle and color to make you look fresher

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Considering your previous posts. I'd say you look like who doesn't take care of yourself and always insecure about yourself.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

I dont think you're unattractive. but I'll be honest, you look like you are fed up with life in that pic. try smiling a little more if possible, it will make you more approachable

despiteful · Answer

Including myself I think most people both men and women want to date another they find physically attractive and have good personality as well.
Would you want to date a man you thought wasn’t good looking? I am guessing not

Berethor · Answer

Men tend to care mostly about looks, age and virginity, other things tend to matter less.

TroyDT · Answer

Most guys get initially attracted by looks, but it can more than that. A 5 with a nice smile and a sweet disposition is faaaaaarrrrrrr preferable to a 10 who thinks her sh*t doesn't stink.

dudeinohio · Answer

Well, personality beats looks anyway. But you kinda need looks initially. After that, personality keeps or drives guys away. You can be average but a sweetheart and get guys.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Physical attraction is important but it’s not everything. You just have to show you can bring a lot to the table. And in bed. You’re not ugly by any means.

joeldalton · Answer

Imma be brutally honest. You're the hottest ugly chick I've ever seen. You're not conventionally attractive but there's something sexy about you.

Anonymous · Answer

Everything's relative. The better you look generally the s***tier person you can get away with being. At least to a point.

Based on what I know about you based on your posts. You're probably aiming too high.

Guardian45 · Answer

I can't speak for most men, but I date based on attraction, which foe me is only partly on female looks. Mostly, I'm interested in a good personality and match.

Alex011502ander · Answer

Remember you like someone based on how they look. To start with and then the personality but you're original the way you are and you don't need to change just for one person I'm sure there's plenty of men out there for you

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Looks are part of the equation, obviously, but there's more to it than just looks.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Just like most Women date based on Confidence. I'm obviously not Confident enough for them, That's why I'm still single.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I do require my partners to be attractive. It's necessary but not sufficient.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men or only the men you're interested in? Because you're very pretty

Jenny-Marie · Answer

I would bet my life that when you smile you are beautiful.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

My wife, all personality, she looks great but I’d never date nor marry dot looks alone

Nahid1707 · Answer

Your personality the way you carry yourself too is important if this makes sense

Fuentes · Answer

What @mcheetah said if you did a lot more self maintenence you would have dudes lined up.

lazermazer · Answer

Yes , we fuck about anything but marrying us is in the opposite direction.

BLP11520 · Answer

Most men are a@@holes, looks are not everything...

rabbitzzz · Answer

You could look better if you smiled.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I would say the majority of us do.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think you look attractive

Googlemyahoo · Answer

I date mine based on smell of their farts

soe11 · Answer

You look great bebe

Twalli · Answer

Looks is a factor to begin dating

panamared1 · Answer

looks attract, but personality keeps

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Right, just a ghost

Anonymous · Answer

Yes we do, but women do the same thing.

Part2603 · Answer

Yes. Yes.

Adogdog · Answer

You are cute

msc545 · Answer

Initially yes

jimmy2 · Answer

You are baby

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