Guys, Do men like when women put in effort? Social media is making me think otherwise?

[Anonymous]

I always see on Social media that men should always chase the woman and do everything for her and I read a book called why men love bitches and it states how the woman shouldn’t put in as much effort as the guy will find it needy and a turn off and that it’s chasing! It’s made me really paranoid now? As a woman I love putting in effort with the guy I’m dating and making him feel great and treating him but it states that this is a turn off to the guy? Is this true? It’s made me kind of re evaluate my dating life and be very like different. I feel like if I put in effort now it will chase the guy away? Like I sent a text yesterday to the guy I’m seeing saying call me and now I feel like I shouldn’t have even done that and waited for him to text me first? Is this true I need opinions from guys? I’m starting to think maybe the reason it dosent work out with me and the guy is because I do a lot for them and put in effort and men done like that? Is this true? If it’s from a girl you’re interested in and attracted too is it a turn off?

[Sandeeppingping]

Back when I was 12 I read a book about relationships and how I as a "man" (me being 12 not having a masculine voice yet was focused) should follow the same advice you're reading about, now imagine both of us talking and both of us following that same advice, 2 people unwilling to put effort because they don't want to come off as needy, needy behavior exists I'm not saying it doesn't but it's far from what we'd deem as too clingy behavior, some people are worried to text "hi" for the first time, like bruhhh...

[Guy13]

Live some and you will find out. Every person is different. This is why flirting exists to find this stuff out... or a first date.

[Asker]

Yeahh every guy is different which is why I always find it hard to know if they like effort. Some guys lovee it well most people I’ve spoken to but then I’ve experienced the rare few who don’t really like the woman putting in effort

[Guy13]

Here's how I work. I appreciate Effort. If she makes a sincere effort and is straightforward and honest... she has got me. Treat her like a princess. I value more than just T&A... I can't imagine a guy not appreciating a sincere person. You be you !!