Now that we are official, my boyfriend no longer plans dates. How do I approach this topic?

[Anonymous]

We met on Hinge in June 2022 and chatted for seven days before meeting in person on June 18th at the mall, where we had dinner and drinks and walked around the mall; we made things official on August 27th. Now that we are official, my boyfriend no longer plans dates. How do I approach this topic?

We would then see each other every weekend, so once a week on a Saturday, and our dates included the following things each weekend, Dinners, Bowling, Mini golfing, Board game cafes, movies, shopping and brunch.
He suggested we see each other more, so this past week, we saw each other on Monday ( well, labour day), Thursday ( I went to his hockey game and we also had dinner) and Friday ( I met him at the mall, and we had dinner and then walked around) but now he is suggesting maybe we see each other just on the weekdays, as his weekend is a bit packed, with that been said we live like 30 minutes away from each other, so I think this may be very much stressful even for him to drop me home after we have dinner, as I do not currently drive.

Also, I wish we did more than eat dinner and talk and walk around malls every time we hang out; I do enjoy activities more; I wanted to suggest this, but then I'm not sure if being in a relationship usually transitions into a "normal" state like this when you make things official, or should I push for more activities?

This is both of our first relationships; he is 26 and 25.

[Part2603]

It's your relationship, you can ask for whatever you want!

And I'm sure he cares for you a lot so he probably wants nothing more in life than to make you happy.

That said, you should be getting comfortable with each other, you'd think the anxiety would be wearing off by now... Yes, I think you should be transitioning away from "dates" and you should be more spontaneous in expressing your affection. Random phone calls. Hang outs with mutual friends, more routine stuff.

Have you guys ever tried chilling at home and quietly reading books? Maybe you could go running errands together?

Whatever you feel, remember that it's totally up to both of you, there's no "right" way to have a relationship. Unless it's some faggy poly bullshit. That's just degenerate.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice! I proposed we go to a ceramic studio, and he loved the idea so that will be our date night for this week.

[Guy13]

Obviously 🙄, Somebody is getting laid regularly…..

[Asker]

Nope no sex involved right now.

[Guy13]

It is hard for first relationship to have fun because both are clueless and usually have Hollywood expectations. It takes an adventurous soul to make first time work well. He does not sound like that kind.

[Asker]

Oh yes I'm definitely the more adventurous one in the relationship! No doubt..

[Guy13]

But it is working, right?

[In_Trance]

Have a conversation with him about it. Face to face

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him how you feel

[BigOleMatt]

Agreed... tell him you liked him being decisive and making things on purpose for you two.