He’s always complaining about being a failure or how he’s stuck or why some people think he’s a piece of shit and I asked why he complains about all this shit and not do anything about it. He says he’s used to people saying stuff like that and he just doesn’t do anything. He doesn’t know why or how to change. He has a decent job as a welder, has a few close friends, definitely needs more peace at home, but doesn’t want to actively put effort into changing. I called him out on only putting effort into working out. I don’t know what else he could be doing honestly. I’ve asked about his 5 year plan and short term goals but outside of losing weight, he hasn’t really set many goals. One goals is to own his own business but I highly doubt that will happen with his current views right now. I’m genuinely concerned. I want things to work out between us and not give up (we’re currently on pause for personal reasons), but I fear we can’t continue on romantically at this rate. He truly loves me and I him but I’m starting to have doubts.
My partner constantly looks down on himself and complains. Is that a red flag?
