Do you instantly lose interest when your crush likes someone else?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I do not know about you but turning off attraction usually isn’t an easy voluntary decision. Sure you might be jealous and/or heartbroken. You might give up pursuing that person (if your smart). But the physical attraction you felt doesn’t turn off like a light switch.

Maybe it’s different for women but I got a feeling it’s not.

There was a younger girl I had a crush on in my local gym who I met a few months ago. We got into several conversations and one day I asked her if she would like to get breakfast. She smiled but politely told me she had a boyfriend (she never mentioned him earlier). I took it in stride. Said I didn’t know and I wouldn’t ask again (I haven’t). She handled it well so I’m not upset but a bit disappointed. Not her fault.

Well I still run into her. We don’t talk like we used to but I still find her attractive. Won’t try anything but it’s not like that crush dissolved immediately.

[Panzer21]

Instantly no probably not, but it bleeds out fast. If she wants someone else, there's no reason to pursue.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh yeah. It's weird but the moment I find out they're interested in someone else or taken? I back off, lol

Why pursue someone that's got their sights on someone else? You can flirt, tease, sweet talk, even shower them with attention!
But if s/he wants someone else, it's a moot point. So I don't waste my time trying to pursue someone that's unattainable.

[Monalisa77]

See i think this guy i like at work has a girlfriend but he didn't seem keen on her, seemed a bit fed up tbh

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Monalisa77 Have you asked him how he feels about YOU?
Before you go pursing or getting your hopes up, see if he has any interest in you. Because if he's still hung up on his girlfriend, you don't have a chance. Honestly, if he's with her, happy or not, I'd leave him alone until he's single again- you don't want to be accused of causing him to cheat, or use, an angry girlfriend after you!

[Monalisa77]

I've only known him for about two weeks, im only guessing he has a girlfriend he didn't say anything, even if it is someone he's seeing may have just been a recent thing, ill find oyt more on our walk cos its too dark for me to walk on my own in the dark, id never go with someone whos with someone else but how will i ever find anyone or have any experience if i don't keep an open mind

[Monalisa77]

Im too shy and innocent i think to make any move on anyone, id just ne scared of rejection

[UnknownPuppet]

Em yes. I mean when he likes someone else it is total clear that he doesn't like you. So why to lose your time for no reason...

[ohsheeT]

I don't think that I would lose interest I think it would change my game up a little bit and I would let it be known that I'm a very interested in them now if they already knew that and she started liking somebody else I would just have to accept that and move on

[Googlemyahoo]

Years back I liked this girl for awhile and was gradually trying to get to know her well enough to ask out. Ran into her at the club & we talked and flirted I felt it was going well.

My friend walked up & talked briefly to say hello and left. “Omg he's so hot I want to talk to him but I’m too shy.”

I realized she was only talking to me so she could scope out my friend 😑

[Sonorous]

I don't have crushes anymore. But in my teen years when I did, it didn't matter who they liked or who they were with. I still had them on that pedestal.

[20yearsolder]

If you don't lose interest in your kind of stupid. He's interested in somebody else. Go get a crush on somebody that is interested in you

[AddylynnNightingale]

Just like flipping a switch, really. I don't want to waste my time going after someone who has his eyes on someone else.

[misfittoy]

yes. some people pretend instead of just are who they are

[eightyeighthgender]

No, It takes about 45 seconds.
After the disappointed self-loathing has turned into righteous fury.

[MrCommodore]

Unfortunately no, feelings are much harder to shake than that.

[ProVox]

Naa, I love competition; I'll just turn it up a notch.😏

[Anonymous]

It depends on how much you like the person

But I lose interest fast

I can’t cry over someone who doesn’t see me

[BJP21]

Not really, what's important is if it makes her happy. A crush isn't a relationship.

[Avatar74]

Its hard to accept, but its pointless devoting time to someone whos not interested in you

[Anonymous]

Well it would snap me back into reality. I mean clearly the crush is one sided, ergo pointless. So yeH kinda.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope if you can just lose interest like that then you never liked them to start off with

[Anonymous]

i'll be happy when i see her lifeless corpse being put 6ft in the ground

[Asker]

OMG 🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

who said i was joking

[Asker]

Sh## serial killer

[Opinion Owner]

i never said i was i have no intention of killing anybody but i will be happy seeing her dead

[Staximus]

Time to get over it and move on with your life, smart guy. She was obviously not the right woman for you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Staximus time to go fuck yourself too

[Midgetmcwidget]

Who’s to say you would be invited or that she would be buried?

[Opinion Owner]

@Midgetmcwidget I don't want to be invited

[Opinion Owner]

@Midgetmcwidget I just want to see her lifeless corpse

[Opinion Owner]

@Midgetmcwidget that way I can spit on it

[Midgetmcwidget]

I’m intrigued, how will you gain access to her body? You would have to break into the mortuary or funeral home.

[Anonymous]

Of course, if she doesn't have attraction for me then that means we're not going to work out

[darline19]

yes. instantly.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Yes, instantly try to curb my emotions

[AmeerX]

Yeah I do feel jealous and start losing interest

[Jamie05rhs]

No. But I do back off and leave them alone.