Do you think that anyone could've gotten laid during highschool or college years? I feel like I completely missed that window?

[poneglyphs]

I still think about these 2 girls from H. S that liked me but made stupid games with me 😟 Like the first one would always tease and flirt with me but she never wanted my number but she always said let's get married, fuck, and other things.

The second girl wanted me as rebound then would always flirt with me and say that we should hookup but I didn't because I knew she was just using me for being nice 😟

In college they were a couple of girls who gave mixed signals a lot but nothing ever was concrete.

Is it still normal to think about these women even though years has passed by?

[ShadezMcgee]

It isn't unnatural to have hang ups about a chick from the past, but it becomes a problem when you become stagnate and don't do anything to improve your mindset and self worth.

Before you do any dating, you need to learn more about yourself as a man. First thing you need to do is make sure you have a job in a career with growth potential. Keep on the grind to make paper and save money to invest in yourself.

You invest in yourself by taking care of yourself physically and mentally. If you are overweight and chubby, get a gym membership and take some classes at a gym that not only help you drop your weight, but improve your body and health as a whole. You cannot expect to lose it magically. You need to put in constant work and dedication. That will help ingrain that habit of focus and goals into you to strive to achieve. Hit the gym, make that your main focus outside of work and saving for this car of yours. Also, make sure you have your own place and pay your own Bill's and can take care of yourself. Self sustainment is critical.

Those are good goals and ones to strive for. Get in better shape, work and save money, purchase your car (assuming you have a driver's license). Make more friends with men that are also close to your age and older that are successful or better than you to give you a sense of camaraderie and competitiveness. It will help you become more assertive and well rounded on a social level. Also, learn your standards and know how to put in place boundaries to ensure you receive the respect and treatment you want.

On that note. Hobbies and making yourself more interesting as a person. Take classes, attend seminars, learn a skill, invest in things that you are passionate about. Women like men passionate about things they enjoy. Travel to places, meet new people, learn how to tell stories of your experiences.

Do this and your mindset and life will attract what you want at the end of the day. People will be drawn to your energy.

[Fuentes]

Dude you know why you don't get pussy and you refuse to do anything about it. How is complaining about it gonna do anything, if you refuse to make changes in your life? And then you will just try to avoid it cause you know it's 100% your fault lol

[poneglyphs]

How should I fix it? I have no idea what to fix just feel despondent towards relationships and other things.

[Fuentes]

Bro lol u posted a picture of yourself before and you looked like a chubby little kid. Most girls don't like men who are chubby like that and shirt and look like a boy. So first thing you should do is loose weight. Do not tell me you can't do that.

You can easily watch what you eat & your calorie intake. If your confused you can try myfitnesspal and actually watch how much calories you take in. And actually record them properly as in you can check each thing you eat and measures calories out for the day and easily stay under your limit.

If you can't lift weight as you say will you can go out running at least a half mile to start 3 days a week and then increase it to a mile over time.

If you don't wanna run outside you can easily buy stationary bike or desk bike and go in that for a hour a day and then maybe move it to 2 hours a day or even doing a heavy hit work out.

After you maintain your weight or dur8ng the times you do get your drives license. Their should be no excuses as to why your own little sister and you as a big brother has less than her. Your suppose to be the bigger brother. After you fix those two things I'm sure you can get on tinder and find some pussy even from a fat chick lol

idc about anyone says to you those two things are mandatory in your adult hood. Then only after then if you still have troubles then you have a legit reason to complain but more then likely you won't.

[poneglyphs]

I naturally have a baby face which makes me look like a kid. Nothing I can do there, I can lose weight and I'm saving up a lot of money for a car. My family just trusted my sister more with a car than me 😒

[Fuentes]

Nah not the baby face is the issue it's the fact that you look chubby with it lol you gotta lose that extra pounds and you can save up but you n3ed to get your drives license

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s normal that you still think about those girls considering it’s something You experienced , We always question ourselves on what could have or what could of become if we did something opposite of what we choose to do in the first place , we all make our own decisions when it comes down to things whether it was right or wrong , all that matters was it was your decision nobody else’s , Life is 2 sides of everything we all choose our own paths and make decisions based off of what we encounter and what we experienced in our life time , whether it’s good or bad it ‘s your decision , So to say you made the right or wrong choice about those girls can only be answered by you , whether I agree with you or don’t it doesn’t matter you choose to do what you wanted to do , if you are kicking yourself in the ass about not banging those girls that doesn’t make you a bad person , you choose to not get wrapped up in that shit , Just because someone else tells you that you were a dumbass for not banging those girls it doesn’t mean shit , you choose your own path and made your own decision for your own reasons , No matter what we do in life there will always be an opposite , not everyone is going to agree with what we choose to do all that matters is you made the choice

[WonderBell99]

You could still find plenty of women that would be interested in dating you.

Are you physically healthy? Do you take care of yourself well? Both mental and physical health?

Sounds like you need to get over all these girls… they were just flirting, honestly. Nothing to ponder over. If you keep focusing on the “what could have been (s)” there will be no “what I can do” or “what will be” anymore.. focus on the present and the future.

What is your sole intention of meeting women? Sex? Long term dating? Casual fling? Friends with benefits?

[poneglyphs]

Mentally I'm healthy, physically I'm not. I'm just trying to find something with someone and stopped feeling left out.

[WonderBell99]

Well, firstly, I think you need to be the best version of yourself before you start dating. If you are overweight, maybe join a gym or start making small changes in your diet. If your diet is just unhealthy but you look fit, then maybe try eating healthier food.

“I'm just trying to find something with someone and stopped feeling left out.” — not really a good attitude when you’re in the dating scene. what do you really want? try to figure that out first. if you’re not ready for a relationship emotionally, you shouldn’t waste anyone’s time by pretending to be ready for something you’re not. If you just want sex, there’s always dating apps or bars. or just any other place that gives off hookup vibes.

[poneglyphs]

I feel like I'm a novice and I don't know what I want? Another thing is that I don't drive yet or own a car. Which is a big turn off and that I'm a big nerd. Which is another turn off for women.

[WonderBell99]

Just because a guy does not drive a car, does not mean anything to me. I’m into nerds tbh, so not a turn off either. I’m not sure what you are so worried about. Many decent girls don’t care about such stuff.

It would only matter to me if he does not have a financially stable job. I would not date someone that is unable to support themselves financially

[poneglyphs]

Oh, I rarely meet women because I feel loke most wouldn't like me and that I'm just getting used till they find someone better.

I do have a job and am trying to save for a car. I just feel alone because I hardly go out and stay indoors most of the time to save money.

[WindAtMyBack]

"Is it still normal to think about these women even though years has passed by?"

I'm 66 and I still think about missed opportunities from school. In hindsight I think it was obvious that some of those girls liked me. But in my teens I didn't see the signs or didn't act on it.

But no, I don't think anyone could get laid in high school. Most people vastly over estimate how many people have sex. Only about half of students have sex by the time they graduate. Even in college, only about half have had sex in the last year.

You shouldn't be focused on getting laid anyway. That's putting the cart before the horse. It just makes it harder for you. You should be focused on getting to know someone and maybe form a relationship. Sex happens naturally on it's own that way but is not the focus.

[poneglyphs]

Well, either way I barely talk to anyone about anything really.

[NathanDavis]

it is normal to think about the past and regret some choices or actions...

I still remember that one test/exam in which I wrote my name wrongly and handed it like that, it didn't cause any issue whatsoever, but I should have corrected it before handing it over

we all have things that we'll have to live with for the rest of our days...

best to let go though... focus on what you can and HAVE to do, today...

[RealMarek]

Do high-intensity interval training for two or three years, cut back on your intake of carbs and replace it with protein and greens, and you could be getting laid in the future. Why wonder about the past?

[poneglyphs]

Probably because I have no other experience besides women from the past?

[Part2603]

Define "normal"?

It seems that it isn't, that only a minority of people are that ruefully fixated on the past.

The real question is, "Is this behavior conducive to achieving success in the future?"

You gotta stop looking back and looking forward. Your youth is mostly gone, but if you learn some game, learn why you dropped the ball when you did, you can still find somebody.

[exitseven]

I really do not know how much sex really went on in high school and college. most guys would lie about it.

[poneglyphs]

Maybe I just felt like everyone was and is getting more girls than I ever will

[RobT312]

Yup, u should have! Too late now but go for it and do it now…. don’t miss out !

[poneglyphs]

I fet like I missed out on so much and don't know how or what to fix. I just feel inferior sometimes 😕

[RobT312]

Naw, no worries. Don’t look back like that. Have no regrets and move forward positively

[Apple1996]

Probably yes but it's too late for you to worry about that now

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Getting laid is easiest in the early 20's and it seems to me like if you can get laid a couple times by then, it just gets easier.

I'm 26 so I'm kinda shooting in the dark tho

[loveslongnails]

High school, maybe. College, absolutely. If you can't get laid in college, give it up!

[poneglyphs]

So, I should just give up on dating then since I didn't date anyone in college?

[loveslongnails]

Wow, I've never met anyone who didn't date a single person in college. Have you dated anyone since then>?

[poneglyphs]

I have not. I been on a couple of dates but none have gone past the first date 😣😣

[TroyDT2]

Where I live, yes. It was easy to have multiple partners per week if you wanted.

[Joker_]

You need to move on lmao

[poneglyphs]

I'm trying but I sometimes dream about them too 😳😳😳

[Joker_]

Fair enough 🤣

[MrTaboo]

I did starting at 15yo. Daily. Two girls

[poneglyphs]

Damm for real how did that go?

[MrTaboo]

Until I was 19 and went into military

[Anonymous]

Everybody was having sex when I was a teen.

[JohnK123]

I wish that was true 😔