If a guy has been messaging everyday then doesn't after first date, is it most likely a ghosting situation?

[Anonymous]

For context, he is 41. He clearly isn't the type of guy who spends a lot of time on his phone or messages frequently but he did message several times in a day. I reflected his pace of messaging: I didn't want to come on too strong and also wanted to save lots to discover about each other for meeting in person. After our first meeting/date he did message to check I'd got home okay, but didn't reply to my message in reply or get in touch all day yesterday. There were all the signs of a "good date": Conversation flowed, lots of laughter, he was the one who extended it by suggesting we go on and do something else etc. He mentioned more than once he was having/had a great time.

We chatted for 2 weeks before meeting (he was out of the country for work) and it's the first time he's not made contact for a whole day. Should I dismiss the idea that I will hear from it again or could it be just a natural change now that we've met in person and he's letting things soak in before getting in touch again?

[Part2603]

No.

Listen, after the highs of dating, there's maybe a bit of awkwardness. An interim period where people kind like to mull the situation over in their minds. You know? You don't grab another candy bar before you've finished digesting the first.

That said, men are more likely to do that, and I think they feel more conflict about when they get closer. You should feel free to trust your instincts and act on your feelings in these scenarios. You're the woman. It's your job to be the reassuring one.

If you want to.

Also remember that you DO have some framing power as well as him. Women I think are a bit too passive never really comfortable with putting themselves out there, always mirroring the guy.

Regardless, you got your "did you make it home safely" text, you got your "I'm having a good time" during the date, I think you can just sit tight, and not worry about it.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I would think this is nothing to worry about. Unless, and I’m serious about this, you went to bed with him on the first date. If he got everything he was looking for all at once, then that might change the equation. Assuming though, that there is still some suspense in the relationship, that he is probably just trying to adjust to the situation. I would not sweat it.

[Asker]

Thanks! No, I we didn't sleep together or anything like that.

[morimorishoujo]

It’s most likely a ghosting situation. I don’t want to make you feel bad, but it’s better to just tell him that it bothers you a lot and then leave him. Instead of ghosting him all of a sudden in offense to that.

[Guy13]

If he wanted to be with you he would find a way to prioritize you.-This includes doing uncomfortable things like texting, shopping, or something intimate and deviant ⁉️

[morimorishoujo]

As a girl, I try to compromise. I try to love no matter what. If guys don’t prioritise you though, it hurts.

[Guy13]

@morimorishoujo You are brave, nieve, and sweet. It seems like you should find someone who truly appreciates you. Have you two met in person?

[Summeroflove]

Ask him. Maybe he’s busy. Maybe he’s lost interest for one reason or another. Only he knows the answer I can only guess

[Twalli]

Wait a day or two ro see if he messages you

[In_Trance]

probably

[Kuroz0000]

Likely.