my parents got divorced when I was 4 and I haven't seen my biological dad since. My mom got remarried and the relationship went through a lot of struggles my stepdad even tried cheating once. I've always had trust issues but it's particularly difficult to trust men. I can be friends with men and have good conversations but if it goes any further than that I don't think I can do it. I've never dated a guy (and I'm already in my 20s lol :,) ) although I would like to. It just seems like a waste of my time because eventually they'll leave or cheat on me is something I think. You can't blame me for thinking this way. There are youtube channels and tv shows about catching cheating or news online about people cheating every day. Like even fathers with a wife and children cheat these days it just surprises me in the most negative way. It is so strange because I always think about men a lot and about having a relationship but then when I actually think about having one it makes me uncomfortable. It is not that I am unattractive. I feel like I look very nice and I've had some men flirt with me but I run away as soon as it happens. I love my mom and family and am in college on a full scholarship I am interning at amazon so it's not like anything else in my life is negatively affected by this. Sometimes I think is this longing for men me longing for a father? How come I can't be in a relationship? Is this fear of them leaving me? How do I fix this? I don't want to be cheated on. I don't want to be in a divorce. I don't want to be used and thrown away.
It sounds like you already have a decent understanding of the root cause of the issue. The next step is to address you insecurity of getting left or chested on.
Very few guys actually cheat, particularly as guys mature they know what they want and are less likely to cheat or leave.
I've just turned 40 and have never cheated on any girl in my life (Nor will I), even if I'm only starting to date a girl, like I don't message other women. Instead I only date or sleep with women I really genuinely like and it works better.
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U know why u can't have a relationship u have trust issues and probobly abandonment issues also probobly try therapy as those feelings won't just vanish by themself
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Sounds like issues. You are friends with guys, why aren’t you scared they will leave you?
You sound like you got a lot of issues.
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