Why do all these guys just play games and pretend to want a relationship?

[myabe123]

Like why not be honest and say you just wanna bang? If we have differing wants/needs then why? Get a hard no, then move onto the next warm body? Why pretend to want a relationship if I haven't even slept with you yet? What is you guy's propagative? I've had to file restraining orders against guys who were trying creepily hard to hit it and quit it?

[D_Bone_Steak]

If a guy just wants to bang, but you're advertising yourself as available with relationship status... can you just take a wild guess at what a guy that just wants to bang will pretend to want in order to bang?

As you stated he'll get a hard no... so how do you get around that hard no? That's right, just tell her what she wants to hear.

I have to be blunt here... when the goal is to get your dick wet, her stupid demands are nothing more than some shit to work around. I don't agree with the practice, but I can't deny that it works. Tell her lies, feed her the dream... it works. Trust me, every guy watching it work and would've been a loyal man that never would mistreat you, are watching it go down with pure cringe that it's working. The reason it's working... you.

Hopefully, you don't have blunt-force trauma after saying that. I see your story of not giving it up or at least sucking the guy off... but understand why I don't believe you. I've seen way too many chicks play off their passive slut hood as it just being creepy guys. I don't care, not my problem. Your problem is that you end up dealing with those types of guys instead of what you say you want... your vetting process is all fucked up. Probably impressed by bullshit like a compliment or nice words, just like a car salesman would give. You got to learn or get burned.

[VanillaSalt]

Well we want sex even if we gotta lie to get it. Is it fair? No. But neither is it fair women don’t value sex like men do and have complete control on it. Neither is it fair if we get into a relationship or marriage she can leave for no reason and tear us down because “she’s not feeling it”. The fact is people can, will, and do take advantage of others. Sucks but that’s how it is and I learned if I don’t focus on me nobody will so yeah… I’ll lie to you to get what I want.


That being said. Most guys want a relationship. Period. It’s just we want sex too. It might seem like they only want sex but they probably were willing to go with a relationship if you measured up then you didn’t so they left. It makes no sense to just hookup without intention. It’s harder for most to get the same amount of sex from hooking up as a relationship.

[pewter_moon]

Maybe you aren’t communicating with them? Are you expecting something without telling them what you want? Guys are thick in the head. This isn’t an insult. They just need stuff clarified. Tell them. Early on.

[VanillaSalt]

I’ve had to tell women they need to show gratitude for the little things if they want us to keep doing them… it’s not just guys that are thick.

[pewter_moon]

Oh I’m not saying woman don’t have general problems either.

[VanillaSalt]

I’m just adding to what you said.

[LazerBean]

Because there are enough gullible, easy women that it works. If that is constantly happening to you though, you definitely need to change whatever environment you're in.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some guys assume that the only way they can ever convince you to have sex with them is by practicing deception, and I suspect that they are right.

I'm a guy who is looking for a relationship which eventually - hopefully - includes sex.

[PositiveFlight]

I very good question and a very real problem now days. I think both men and women are like this but younger men even more so. I can’t have sex unless there is true love and commitment. It wouldn’t feel for real but rather counterfeit to what’s special and beautiful. Human beings are designed to have commitment and warm feelings of true love toward the other prior to arousing the ultimate need of physical connection, aka becoming one flesh where that love is solidified and consummated each time. Otherwise it’s just playing with fire. I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with some men being this reckless with your feelings while asking you to give them what’s so precious that can only be given in true love.

[PositiveFlight]

Sorry, I posted without answering why people do this. The answer is simply that this world has become very selfish and about “me.” Find those who are selfless and be selfless back.

[normalice]

They believe that's what girls need to hear before sleeping with someone. So they may even let themselves believe it a little, going in, but once the dust settles they realize they already got everything they wanted, without the foresight to notice that they will want it again. That's ultimately what video games strip from people: foresight. It replaces it with a belief that anything that isn't immediately fun isn't worth predicting and long term goals are only worth pursuing if you know there will be nothing in its path that is unpredictable.

[HighValue]

Restraining orders lead to the harm or death of the person being "protected" by it more often than people that don't get them. They usually only work against people that never intended to harm them in the first place. I'd advise against them.

[myabe123]

So you think they are going to kill me now?

[HighValue]

Not if they normally wouldn't have reacted violently in the first place, but before when I studied and got a criminal justice degree, statistics at the time showed that people with restraining orders DO get harmed more often that people that just move away.
It actually takes some of the person's rights away and makes it more difficult for them to get some types of employment so it actually gives them an incentive/motivates them to harm the person for revenge.

[Chazmatazz269]

“Propagative”? Ell oh ell! Did you just make that up?
So, us guys got together a while ago and agreed that when women stop lying and BSing, we will too. So get the girls together and get them all to agree and we can officially put all the games behind us and move forward like healthy adults. Yeah?

[legalboxers]

who are "all these guys".. I love the labeling. 90% of us want relationships. Shit, I know I do, but its these GIRLS who play the games. I can't date you because you are short, I can't date you because your brown, I can't date you because my family would disown me, I can't date you because of my friends, I can't date you because if people who we went to school with found out I was dating you.. I can't... right...

[RealMarek]

Some people will be deceptive in order to trick someone into having sex. They don’t want the “hard no” that they suspect being forthright will get them.

[Pyrofox]

PNC, or better known as Post Nut Clarity. Combined with the fact guys caught onto girls really only want a guy for the clout and short actual interest. Is just coming to bite women as a sex in the ass.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women do.

And tell me, when was the last time a guy didn't tell her what she wanted to hear and she still slept with him.🤣🤣🤣

Why do guys do it? Because it works. Duh! This was a rhetorical question I hope. Because you're old enough to know this already. If you don't like it that's understandable. But let's not play dumb here.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause they want pussy and your right it's better to be honest and just so you know some guys do want a relationship but they just can't find the the right girl just like not all guys are good guys not all girls are good girls

[glennos89]

Not all guys are like that! I dont play games with people's feelings and emotions and I threat them the same way as I would like to be threated aswell. With honesty, kindness and love.

Maybe you are just attracted to the wrong dudes🙈

[TroyDT2]

A lot of, maybe most, guys will put out as little effort as necessary to get what they want. If they want sex, they might pretend to be interested in, or even get into, a relationship if that is what the girl requires.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know why some men (and women) are like that. There is plenty of people wanting to do the same. Don’t go to someone whose really looking for something

[YakubDavid]

Let me guess, you slept with some dude, and he left you. This is why the old timers say stay virgin until the man commits. But yeah, you're hardly virgin now...

[myabe123]

I am 26 years old no, I'm not a virgin. Bur degrading someone you don't know on is kinda gross.

[YakubDavid]

I'm not degrading you. Why is stating facts degrading? I was just pointing it out. That's all. If you played games and hooked up when you were younger, guys will play you as you get older. Fact.

[myabe123]

YOU DO NOT KNOW ME. UNLESS you do and you are a troll. I had a friend that was a whore. I was a virgin until college boyfriend. I'm just sick of these guys.

[YakubDavid]

Yeah? And you've only ever been sexual with boyfriends? No hookups ever? No sex after first date?

[myabe123]

I've been played twice. By these sick guys like you who bully women and harass them.

[YakubDavid]

I've been played myself. So I don't trust women anymore. I'm sorry I sounded harsh. I'm a pretty nice dude, but yeah.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you. Guys think girls don’t want that so they have to lie. And for the most part the girls I know don’t want that.

[boggboss]

Because they know that if they lie they will get what they want

[myabe123]

Wouldn't they not have the police called on them?

[boggboss]

How would they have the police called being a shit person or lying are not crimes

[myabe123]

it was a sexual harassment that happened.

[boggboss]

Wait how

[myabe123]

some guy told me he wanted a relationship and he couldn't get what he wanted so he lied and told all these guys i would be down for anyone.

[Sparkie460]

If the just told women that they only wanted sex, they wouldn't get any dates. This is why they mislead women. Women should keep their guard up when dating men. There's less chance of getting hurt if you keep your guard up

[fonduegirl]

Because in a guy's dictionary, just banging means he's no longer inclined to respect u as another human being.

[jshm2]

Maybe they know you are drama, but you don't?

[myabe123]

I am drama to an extent, BUT if I was drama why even play that game it'll just end in drama?

[Exterminatore]

Why not be honest and just say you want to bang?


Going out on a limb here but I’m pretty sure guys who do that do it because they know you may well decline.

[NathanDavis]

because they are guys... and not men

maybe try to find an actual man next time

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know about most guys but I'd prefer a relationship! I don't know if I could even get into just a quick bang! So far, I've never had one!

[Raaj4you]

No, not all guys play games. Some want serious relationships.

[Raaj4you]

Send PM to me.

[Paul09]

Not guys. "Menly men" bad boys do that. You go for the bad boy, you'll get hurt. Real men don't play games.

[Nahid1707]

What happened to the guy whose family you were meeting and dating him?
Playing games is childish yes

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why all these girls just play games and pretend to want a relationship

[KrakenAttackin]

Because only Chad can just say he want to hit/quit and still get the pootie.

[TallAnon]

Realistically, because just asking it doesn't work as well.

[Zolly99999]

I have no idea. . But I can tell you first hand girls do it too...

[misogynistic_pig]

It takes the fun out of the game.

[Danny_dan92]

Congratulations, you discovered players

[ZenJen444]

🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

It is how they get sex.

[ZenJen444]

Where are you meeting these guys?🤣.

[Gooddaze]

Not all guys. Perhaps just you

[eagle1951]

Damn Girl nice guys you have dated

[Anonymous]

Guys like that are just after sex.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Shit happens dude