Do some men still court women?

[cth2188]

I won't deal with a man who doesn't court a woman and I find most of these men don't approach women right or always rushing into something. I'm not in the field just seeing what's in the water.

[VanillaSalt]

Couple of questions.


Why court? Courting is for finding a marriage partner.



What’s the benefit of marriage? As a man I see very few upsides and many downsides if it. It might be different if marriage was more valued but honestly the rate of divorce and what divorce means… I see no value in it even considering the tax breaks. It’s like playing Russian roulette with 5 bullets…


Things to consider… there is no different between marriage and a LTR so why marry? LTR is marriage without the commitment.


Women are “equal” now. I’ve always felt they were equal but after the last few years I’ve seen the truth… Women wanna be equal but still be treated like the prize. You say you want US to court you. Why shouldn’t you court us? Is equal right? Men get treated like shit because these men aren’t attracted to them. We get used for dinner dates and they think it’s okay. Some not all but even still it’s not a small some.


When women were courted they were more. Are you going to cook, clean, and sex me up? Or are you gonna do you? Nothing wrong with either but you have the right to choose who you are. Many choose not to be what men want. Why put the same effort in for a lower quality product? Women cannot say they wanna be equal then get special treatment. You can’t say men must be traditional but ima be me. It’s not fair and that’s why men don’t court.


Women choose to change everything about relationships. How women behave and what we can expect as men from relationships but they wanna keep the things they like. It just don’t work like that. Even if you yourself arnt like that the fact is you benefit from the divorce and child custody laws just the same. And society spreads even to the traditional women so it will effect you in some way. You benefit therefore your considered part of it all.

[cth2188]

This question wouldn't apply to you it would apply to me who desire marriage with women

[cth2188]

I wouldn't date a man who has no intentions of marriage

[cth2188]

Men ^ I don't waste my time with men who have no desire of marriage

[VanillaSalt]

Typical. I want this I deserve this. I won’t touch on one of the 15 reasons why I won’t get or don’t deserve this but I’ll just point out I want and deserve this…

[likelyOK]

This question isn’t for you bc you don’t believe in Marriage this is for men wanting a marriage or serious commitment

[VanillaSalt]

Wanting marriage “or serious commitment”

2 questions for you. Do you even know what commitment is? Because it’s not the ability to quit when your unhappy. And your wrong. I very much want marriage. I just don’t trust women today to be my partner.

[Summeroflove]

Depends. If I am into the woman and she gives something in return. I am not going to waste my time on a entitled woman such as yourself. Who does not appreciates anything and expects it. Someone who I am going to have to do all this and that and she gives me nothing in return.

It is a waste of time and men with self respect will find women who will put the same amount of work and love and energy in a relationship.


There right there is your problem. You are entitled and expect too much. I mean what is he getting out of it? Seriously. The kind of men you want don't want you and you won't date any other man... So that is the sad realaity that women such as yourself live in and many in the end become very bitter towards men


That is the vibe I get form such a question like this. Is that you are entitled. Sure if a woman really appreciates something then... yeah I will keep doing it.

[Summeroflove]

I only really date with the intentions of marriage. So with that being said. Yeah I mean I know that dating is for finding who you're compatible with as well so.

In order for me to court a woman she has to also court me. I am not going to put effort in one way

[likelyOK]

I agree and to me courting is just dating if he can’t do that, the bare minimum then it should be a good indicator of what you are in for.

[Sixgunsound]

The ones that are seriously worth your time do, but they aren’t going to Simp for you though. So you had better be worth theirs otherwise the process breaks down and nobody has any incentive to do things the way they’re supposed to anymore.

[cth2188]

I don't date anymore and won't based on beliefs and the fact men aren't men anymore. I'm just seeing what's out here. Dating is oversexualized and toxic.

[cth2188]

It's rare.. I don't waste my time with these guys and they get rejected

[Sixgunsound]

Many people at child bearing age lack the maturity or emotional intelligence to be in a marriage relationship of either sex.

[cth2188]

I'm always rejecting these guys it's not worth the stress. I won't deal with this generation of men pretaining to dating. I told my ex he'd be the last if I became single.

[Sixgunsound]

I’m not sure I would date anymore either if my situation changed. Definitely would have to look overseas.

[cth2188]

Boom where I'm at - my mate has to be overseas

[bamesjond0069]

No point in courting women. That's what you do to a young Virgin. Which nobody is a young virgin anymore. I get to talk to quite a few 18 to 20 year old women due to social circumstances. I almost never meet any that are virgins so I'll have sex with them. If I ever met a Virgin she's been like obese or had serious mental issues. So basically I have no interest in acting like a fool putting in all this effort when I can just bang hot girls with no effort. Seems common sense.

Choice A court a 30 something year old woman who is surely not a virgin.

Choice B Netflix and chill with a 19 year old who will sleep with me immediately where I put no effort in.

Politely I say... durrrrrr

[likelyOK]

Yea obviously that 19 got around a lot I can’t imagine having relations with someone in their 30s when I was 19

[bamesjond0069]

@likelyOK I mean they mostly all do. The ones that haven't generally will eventually because they just haven't had enough time is all. It's not normal for people to discriminate about sex much these days.

Tbh most young women like much older men. It surprised me too but that's both I think currently the cool thing to do plus I think a lot of girls these days are encouraged to try anything they want to try and It doesn't seem so strange it would be something on a list of things girls would want to try. Whatever. Works for me.

[bean2k21]

The last two women I was with got taken to court. Does that count?

[cth2188]

Yes , thanks 😊

[FilmGuy93]

I know that I still court women. I enjoy the process, honestly. I find it fun

[cth2188]

Same you're 1 in a few.. I won't engage with a guy that doesn't do this

[FilmGuy93]

I think it comes from a basic lack of desire to appreciate the person you're talking to. I approach my romantic interests by wanting to enjoy who they are as people; and that means courting them. My only goal is to have a great time with them, and any romantic entanglement that results is just a happy consequence.

[cth2188]

A new in haystack nowadays.. I actually stopped dating because how it is and don't have time to waste weeding through men

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah, I'd have a really tough time blaming you. The woman I met with for a date last weekend paused our date, specifically to tell me how much she appreciated that I am everything I claimed to be, and that she was having the best night she'd had in years.

[cth2188]

See time wssters it's not worth it.. I don't have the energy anymore for that

[mickmrly]

My ideal way of finding a woman is to court them. I don’t know where I heard it from but some advice I heard is that if you want to find a wife you should act like a husband (or something like that). That’s the way for me.

[slatyb]

Most of "these men?" Which men? What do you mean by "court" as opposed to the more modern term "date" ?

[cth2188]

I don't date modern men and courting is the intention with marriage which most men don't want nowadays. Some men who do this only to rush with women.. I don't deal with this generation of dating

[slatyb]

Suit yourself. People do still get married. I advise people to discuss their goals for dating very soon after meeting.

[TroyDT2]

Men who just want sex ill take the path of least resistance. For them, courting, marriage, even dating seems like a waste of time and resources when there are lots and lots of girls who are willing to just hook up.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I still do. I've courted women right from the beginning. A true man would.

[whiskeyontherocks]

I think courting women is a bad thing these days.
So if they do I recommend they stop.
To me courting is dating with the sole intent of marriage. And men loose to much in divorce to ever get married.

That said I still support long term relationship and loyalty above all else.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Ouch, write a book about it

[cth2188]

This is why I don't date anymore and stay to myself. Now I'm considering meeting mem overseas because I won't date a man who doesn't court, isn't traditional, and doesn't want marriage

[VanillaSalt]

Then do it… women get angry when we do it lol.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Plenty of books already exist

And Europeans cheat more than Americans so have fun with that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

When did country of origin come into the equation? When you decide to marry someone, that's a risk you're taking to trust them. It might not be fair, in fact it's not.

You have to work hard for things. If you want a relationship to work, you need to be honest with yourself first and willing to adapt and pick up on small details.

A person who is generally oblivious is going to become inherently selfish, maybe not from bad intentions but from their own lazyness. It rolls over into your relationships when you spend your days spaced out, spewing answers to people's comments that are argumentative, tone deaf and show that the message intended went completely over your head.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Well when cth2188 said overseas it pretty much brought up the topic.
And I’m well aware of how hard a relationship can be and been in one since 2007.

Nothing I’ve stated is argumentative or tone deaf you just didn’t like it. I couldn’t explain further so you’re not so offended but I’m not going to waste my time

[lazermazer]

True, folks like that are just horny. They don't think about future.

[ChiTown33]

No guy worth his salt would court a woman who said that. No ma'am.

[moviedude714]

Remind me that I look at this from a different mindset and different perspective now

[Zolly99999]

I do... its part of the adventure 😁

[cth2188]

Agreed

[grega239]

Kinda pointless for me. Never gets me anywhere

[Hanrej]

Yes! And they're all dirt poor as a result.

[Paul09]

You want to he treated like a queen, yet you'll never treat a man like a king?

[LazerBean]

Yup, its pretty fun.

[Nikki1989]

The good ones still do.

[cth2188]

Yes true

[EaterPeter]

I did and got fooled twice

[cth2188]

Sorry to hear that

[EaterPeter]

Or even more for that sake.

[cth2188]

I don't use men for money or meals.. I've lost hope in American men as dating partners

[EaterPeter]

And I have lost hope in most women 😔

[EaterPeter]

We still have to live. All the best!

[misogynistic_pig]

I do not.

[cth2188]

I wouldn't waste my time with you sorry