Being used as a beard?

[Anonymous]

I dated this guy and he was horrible to me. Always put me down, made me feel undesirable, criticised my looks and my every move. He never wanted to have sex, and always blamed it on me. He completely destroyed my self esteem. He even broke up with me by just ghosting me and never hearing from him again. I found out after we broke up that he came out as gay (not bi). It made me so angry that he didn't just use me to hide his sexuality, but he also treated me like shit because he wasn't attracted to me since I'm not a man. Why would anyone do that? I know that coming out is difficult, but why use someone, and not just stay single? How would you feel if this happened to you?

PS: A beard is a person from the opposite sex that a gay person dates to hide their sexual orientation.

[Summeroflove]

Well I’m sorry he treated you so bad. But. You shouldn’t be using someone for sex. Personally I’m waiting until marriage and if that’s all what someone wants to do. Then bye. I won’t be used for sex and I won’t use someone for sex.

[boggboss]

But why did u stay with him whilst he was treating u like shit what he did was unacceptable but why stay with a guy that treated u bad

[Asker]

Unfortunately because I was too blinded by love, and too naive to think that he was going to change.

[boggboss]

Fair enough at least u accept it was a silly thing that u stayed but meh