What's the deal breaker: friends, family, or pets not liking your potential partner?

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[LaBokaChula]

For me, it's any of the above.. I will never tell my partner to choose between myself and their loved ones.. But I will also not put myself in another situation to be disliked and disrespected.. I was in a past relationship where the entire family hated me (due to race) and it eventually ruined the relationship because we were both too immature at that time to solve the problems.

Now that I am older and wiser, I realize that I could've prevented most of it by not ignoring the red flags and walking away at the first signs of disrespect lol.

[Utopia1]

Great reply and good wisdom and advice for others

[LaBokaChula]

@Utopia1 Thank you. I really hope it helps someone.

[Biancam13]

Pets for sure. They don't have any ulterior motives.

Friends and family? It really depends who's making the judgement, some of them are trustworthy and some of them not so much. But if EVERYONE says my partner sucks, then my partner probably sucks.

[FilmGuy93]

Friends. Pets can be kind of weird, and family members are a little too interested in the outcome of relationships to be a helpful measure.

But friends are perfect. They aren't THAT interested in the outcome of the relationship, so they aren't going to sugarcoat things, they know what [your partner]'s previous relationships were like, and they provide a perfect tapestry of the kind of person your partner is to anyone who doesn't want to bang them.

[Biancam13]

I agree with this actually.

[FilmGuy93]

@Biancam13 it’s lived experience! Lmao It’s just something I’ve noticed. Birds of a feather absolutely flock together, so you keep the company you do for a reason. If all your girlfriends seem to have a habit of constantly dating assholes who happen to be secretly married; that’s a statement about you, after a certain point. Friend groups are just a combined picture of who we are, without the rose-tinted glasses of sexual attraction.

[Chazmatazz269]

Pets; the rest are only part time interlopers. My pets and i are permanent friends and roommates who depend on me 100%. Talk all the shit you want, the only difference between that and children is genetics. If my kid doesn’t like you, we’re done. If my cat doesn’t like you, we’re done. If the daddy long legs i refuse to kill recoils at your presence, WE ARE DONE. Get over yourself. Move on.
ELL OH ELL!!!

[DoctorSex]

No one can sway my opinion once I settle on a woman. My background checks, psychometric evaluations and physical tests are more rigorous than the requirements needed to be a US marine.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Subarugirl]

Lol no wonder you are single haha

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl you're still mad aren't you. I can't believe how long you hold onto anger!

[Subarugirl]

Mad about what? Not sure what you are referring to.

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl haha you're sooo mad. Control yourself young lady xD

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl have you ever done a MBTI personality test? I'd really like to know what you come back as!

[Subarugirl]

Lol I think you should be more concerned about your ability to gauge someone’s mood because I’m over here laughing because I have no idea what you are talking about haha

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl loll I think you should guage someones socioeconomic status before you jump to conclusions like "I'm single" .

As a man who's 31 years of age and in the best physical condition I could be in, My options for dating are a lot like yours were in your early 20s.

Haha

[Subarugirl]

So you aren't single?

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl why do you want to know?

[Subarugirl]

So that I have a better understanding of where you are coming from

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl why do you want to know me better? Lol I'm a random guy on the web. That's not a wise course of action for a youngish lady.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Utopia1]

@Subarugirl Lol

[Subarugirl]

Actually, what I said was, so that I can better understand where you’re coming from. Unlike some here, I like to understand where the person I am speaking with is coming from so that I have a better understanding of their stance and opinions, because context is important. It’s okay that you don’t, but that’s just where I am coming from.

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl I completely respect that... The only problem is... It flies in the face of what you actually said.. You started off by saying

"Lol no wonder you are single haha"

... Now that's not exactly asking for context is it my dear? Some might even go as far as calling that sentence abhorrent.

God bless you,

[Subarugirl]

You’ll have to forgive my assumption but you can’t really condemn the fact that I am asking for clarification.

[Subarugirl]

Then again you did the same thing…

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl did I?

Apologies for the wait by the way, I got off the phone with a lady that is very dear to me.

[Subarugirl]

I didn’t notice. Yes you did

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl so that I can understand where you're coming from, when did I show you the lack of civility that you've shown me?

[Subarugirl]

Is that a serious question or would you like me to start quoting you?

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl never mind. I think we've exhausted this conversation long enough.

Thank you and God bless.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Subarugirl]

I guess you don’t. That’s okay, I think I understand why.

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl this may come across as a tad untoward, but I'm beginning to realise why your friends talk about you being your back.

[DoctorSex]

*behind your back

[Jamie05rhs]

"physical tests" 🤣🤣

[Subarugirl]

This might come as a surprise but you don’t know any of my friends.

[DoctorSex]

@Jamie05rhs keep the mind out of the gutter my good man lol

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl clearly you don't either.

[Jamie05rhs]

@DoctorSex Okay, then what physical tests do you have a woman take for you? I'm curious. 😄

[Subarugirl]

I know exactly who my friends are, so I dont know who you think you have been talking to but im afraid that you are incorrect again.

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl as usual it's been an absolute delight conversing with you. I feel as though I've learnt a lot. Thanks

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[DoctorSex]

@Jamie05rhs 10% body fat, metabolic age of no more than 22. That's just the start, but those two are the bare minimum requirements. If I could post pictures of the last few women who have taken on the challenge, I'd love to be able to show you.

Kind regards,

[Subarugirl]

@DoctorSex What have you learned?

[Subarugirl]

You should show it then

[Jamie05rhs]

@DoctorSex That's the physical test? Ok lol

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Family, friends and pets aren't a big deal. I do care what my close friends think but I wouldn't rely on their opinions to decide who I should date.

[MementoMori_]

If my dog doesn't like her...

IT'S OVER BABY!

[nspencer]

Honestly I learned if my mother and my dog don’t like them there’s probably something wrong with him😅

[Anonymous]

If my family really, really, does not like my partner, probably that. I don't have close friends at the moment, and the pets at my house are kinda poorly socialized so they're generally skittish around people. But the husky and one of our cats are pretty chill, so I'd be a little concerned if it was them.

[sophiejo]

If my dogs don't like you I don't trust you simple as that

[BJP21]

Unless they are in the bedroom having sex with you. They are outside of the confines of the relationship. Is it their relationship or is it yours?

[Subarugirl]

you do realize that sex and a relationship are not synonymous right? lmao

[Agape93]

Certain friends and my pets. If any of them don't like you, you're done

[SmokinAces2000]

None, my family would just have to deal with it, I don’t care what my friends think of the girl I’m dating and why tf would I break up with someone over an animal

[Marklaw12]

Pets can smell evil from a distance.

Fun Fact, dogs can smell dishonesty and will never like you no matter how hard you try.

[Clyde_123]

Interesting

[Lucifer_666]

I wouldn’t care if either one disliked my partner. What matters is I do. Also, your username is funny 😄

[Jamie05rhs]

All I care about is if *I* like her.
F*ck everybody else.

[dustybiker]

Pets hands down.

[Belgie]

None of those are deal breakers.

[EmbraceThePain]

MYSELF not liking my partner.

[Robert_]

Probably the wife not liking the new girlfriend.

[Nikki1989]

Friends and pets

[TheSpaceGnome]

None of the above.

[es20490446e]

None. It's me who shall like my partner.

[pizzalovershouse]

Pets usely is a good sign you picked wrong